Just now, I saw a very heartbreaking news. A boy was going to see his girlfriend in another place and asked his parents for 2,000 yuan, but the boy jumped off the building and was photographed. It's very regrettable.
The comment section below also says everything. In the comment section, other examples of children jumping off buildings were exposed. While it is regretful, it also makes people reflect on why middle school students commit suicide by jumping off buildings is on the rise. Many reports on this aspect have been blocked, and not many of them have been exposed. There have been incidents of junior high school students jumping off buildings in my own community. It seems that after the child quarreled with his parents, the parents went out to play mahjong, and the child jumped off the building at home.
Nowadays, many people say why are the conditions getting better and better, but more children jumping off buildings? I have also read a lot of parenting books, but I don’t quite agree with most parenting books, especially the current parenting books written by some people in China. Many Western parenting books are not very suitable for our modern national conditions.
The reason why children are so fragile now is that they are too spoiled and get beaten too little. Many parenting books require positive discipline and encouragement of children. They should praise them positively if they do the right thing. There are also some that are written to accompany children. In order to cultivate good learning habits, there are a lot of videos and books like this on the Internet, always throwing questions at the beginning, and the final purpose is to sell classes or books for fees. It has led many people who have just let their parents go astray.
I have read so many books, and the cost of raising children is too high, and it can be described as showing off my wealth. What other examples are there to cultivate children's learning habits, and going out for travel on weekends to get close to nature. Most families now do not have this financial resources and energy, and have no practical value at all.
, let me directly talk about my point of view. Anyway, I have seen too many mistakes and it is very unrealistic. I also talk about the practical methods that rich people and families with average conditions can practice in raising children.
Whether it is a poor family or a rich family, children must be given enough exercise when they are young. If you have time, let them go out to play with friends. Toys and snacks can be shared with children. At this stage of childhood, children should be within the sight of adults. Don’t lower your head to play with your mobile phone or look up and the child is gone. There is no need to follow closely, but you have to tell your child that when you transfer positions, such as when entering the corridor or changing the playground, you must come and report it or call you.
After the age of 6, the child can basically understand the words of studying at a high school. At this time, he must be allowed to work, try his best to do his own things and take on some housework at home. Parents can give appropriate rewards or not, instilling the idea that the family needs family members to work hard to make the child unselfish.
You must not prepare everything for your child. You must let him develop the habit of doing things by himself. Although it takes time sometimes, giving your child some patience is just because he is not skilled and repeatedly contacting, the child will be faster. By the way, many children have no idea about time, a while, five minutes, half an hour, etc., and they have no concept of time. This will be available as they grow older, and indoctrinate in advance.
If you are a little older, the children's nurturing will be different from those of ordinary people.
Let’s talk about the rich first. Rich families have the financial resources and energy to cultivate children. Although there are many people who have cultivated children in vain, the yield rate is much higher than that of ordinary families. Rich families can use some methods to discover their children's strengths and interests, and then cultivate them in these two or one direction. The issue of academic performance is not a problem for rich families, and it doesn't matter whether they are good or not. What is important is to cultivate children's knowledge, pattern, and ability. In the future, if you are interested, you will take over. If you are not interested, you will do what you like or are good at. Anyway, you don’t have to worry about money.If you cultivate the kind character of pattern, knowledge, responsibility or compassion, you will basically not have the idea of suicide or harm this society, because you see the goodness of society. If the previous generation is rich enough, you will basically not be exposed to bad aspects, or everything is controllable from a family perspective and can be contacted.
Ordinary families are still considering livelihood issues. Why are children in ordinary families now at a lower probability of becoming successful? In the final analysis, parents love their children too much, or even spoil them. Because they have experienced hardships, they do not want their children to experience it. The timely conditions are average, and they must also work hard to prevent their children from being wronged. This idea is completely wrong. It is very likely that such a wrong idea ruins the child.
If an ordinary family is too good to his children, it will exceed the standard of a normal family. The child will not feel that he exceeds the standard. He will think that he is the same as other children. In fact, he does not know that his parents have added leverage . Only by saving frugality can he meet his seemingly normal living standards.
Especially for some families who move to the city in rural areas, parents will choose to follow the herd mentality if they have never been exposed to them. Other children have children, your children should also have them, but what parents do not realize is that other parents have them.
Many parents in the city live similar lives as their children now when they were young. They grew up in a mess. Their family arranged a job and had several houses to collect rent. They did not have the pressure to survive. Neither will their children. But what you come from the countryside through your own struggle to the city is different. You have nothing, and you also ask your children to be the same as other people's children. However, you ignore whether you can bear the "same" ability. Many times, you find that you can't keep up with it while providing for the supply, and the children can't accept it. You still feel that your children don't understand that your hard work is for him when you get up early and work late, so why does he look like this. You may also see your child growing up day by day, but instead of being as well-behaved as before, you will also hesitate and be under great pressure, and quarrel with your child with misunderstanding, further intensify the conflict. You will also have dual mentalities such as accusation and blame for your child's ignorance when you cannot meet your child's needs. There is no money in this, which is the original sin, which is mentioned at the beginning, because it costs 2,000 yuan to jump off the building.
Since you have entered the city through hard work, have a house, and have a car but still struggle with food and clothing, don’t pretend in front of your children. One of the words I often mention is not to do things beyond your ability, including consumption. Otherwise, there will be a collapse sooner or later. Tell the child about the financial situation at home and tell him what can be, what can not be, and what is given priority. For children, being able to eat, having school tuition fees, and appropriate clothes are not necessarily famous brands, but the most basic problem of food and clothing must be met. If you have money, you can allow your child to develop one's own interests. There can be multiple, but you can only invest in one, and find ways for others who are interested.
Another thing is to let the child learn to make money. If parents are in business, let the child help, run around, move and do things, so as not to make the child lazy. For electronic products, there can be certain conditions, and there must be restrictions on use, etc. If you have been instilled since childhood, you will not be able to jump off the building as mentioned above.
As for whether the child will feel inferior, it depends entirely on how parents guide him. He does not steal or rob him. He does not embarrass himself on what medicine he needs to get through hard work since he was a child, rather than giving it directly. Even if you give with conditions, you should pay attention to delaying gratification and let your child feel that it is difficult for his parents, so that he will not put forward requirements beyond his parents' abilities.
Let children understand the situation of their families, have a correct view of money and a sense of responsibility. I know that he is different from other children in the city. If I don’t have a house to collect rent for him, I won’t spend all my money. I will spend it carefully and carefully to avoid being hungry. I think that children who have grown up in this way will not be overwhelmed. If they have what they want, they will work hard and find ways instead of just asking for it.
Don’t think that the child cannot beat him. He should still beat him, especially when he was a child. After the age of three, before the age of ten, before the age of six, should you beat me if you make a mistake or beat me, and you must understand the rules. Sometimes slapping is the longest way to remember. Just don’t beat your child randomly. Beating your child is also a fatal blow on the premise of ensuring the safety of your child. It hurts, don't hurt it.
You should always keep your physical exercise. If your body is strong, your spirit will be strong. If your spirit is strong, you can ward off evil spirits. Disease can affect human will.
Whether it is a rich person or a different person, participate in your child's growth as much as possible. Otherwise, let the child participate in your life and work and accompany you more. Sometimes it is enough for him to see what you are doing.
