2. OK, listen to your
to give your children a certain right to give them a sense of control.
For example: The child proposes to draw first when he goes home, and then write after dinner.
You can say: OK, listen to you.
The only requirement of children is not excessive, it is not a matter of principle. Try to let the children make their own decisions. As the child gets older, his room for decision will become larger and stronger, and his ability to control things will become stronger and stronger. He will feel that I can control it and I can be responsible for my own behavior.
3. You do better than your mother
Give your child a sense of trust. When you find that your child performs well, you should give your child feedback in time to encourage him.
For example: the child takes the initiative to clean up the desk.
You can say: You cleaned your desk today, and you arranged the books neatly according to the size of the book, and you did better than your mother.
This kind of encouragement should be specific and detailed, and you should tell the child what is good. Your encouragement is to imply that the child can be competent for these things on his own and give the child full of confidence.
4. It doesn’t matter, let’s find a way to
When a child makes a mistake, give the child a sense of belonging. This is the most important thing.
For example: The child broke the cup
You can say: Baby, are you injured? Did you accidentally break your mother's cup just now? It doesn't matter. Let's clean up the place first. You go and help your mother take the broom. Is it OK?
You should know that no child really wants to do bad things. After the child does something wrong, they are often the saddest and most afraid of people. The "no matter" here in
does not mean that if you do something wrong, it will pass, but let the child know that we will always love her person, but we do not recognize her behavior that she did something wrong.
