A few days ago I saw a video, and I still feel sad:
4-year-old girl has always had stomachache recently. Her mother took her to the hospital for examination, but it turned out that she was pregnant. The moment I got the test results, my mother looked disbelief and even argued with the doctor about it, but the test results would not lie. Later, under the mom's urge to ask, the girl admitted to having sex with her "boyfriend".
At this moment, my mother really regretted it and slapped herself several times on the spot. It turned out that the girl's father worked outside the city and her mother stayed in the local area to take care of her, but she was busy at work and most of the time, neither of them could meet. It is precisely because of the negligence of parents that the girl steals the forbidden fruit. The reason behind
makes the girl's mother even more sad and is worthy of deep thought by all parents. When girls usually go to "watch the disc" with classmates they know after school or weekends, they get in trouble, and all this is because of curiosity and ignorance.
At the age of flowers, I made the wrong choice, which is a double blow to the girl's physical and mental health. Especially when outsiders point fingers, the psychological harm caused to girls is even more serious. If you can't bear it mentally, you may do something stupid because of it, and it will be terrible to think about it.
4-year-old girl is pregnant. The reasons behind it make people think deeply
There are two reasons behind this matter that are worthy of deep thought by parents, which is also the current situation of many families. One is because parents are negligent in company, and the other is because is lack of sexual education and . After all, it is still a lack of education.
First talk about the issue of parental companionship. Until now, there are still many parents with biased perceptions of companionship, thinking that being with their children is the so-called companionship. But in fact, the real companionship is to interact with children and resonate between parents and children.
Simple sit next to the child and do what you like. What is the meaning of such company? Instead, it will increase the psychological burden on children. They will think that their parents don’t like them? Has it caused trouble for parents again?
I didn’t have enough time to accompany me when I was young. When I was adolescence, it was really hard to discipline my children again. They already have their own ideas, how can they listen to their parents' ideas? Moreover, many children will "hold grudges". They will feel that their parents did not accompany them when they were young, and they should not care about themselves when they grew up.
Let’s talk about the issue of sex education. In fact, many parents are ashamed to speak. They talked about several times but didn’t know how to say it. It is precisely because parents are ashamed to speak that their children are so curious and do things that hurt others and themselves.
Just imagine: if the child has received systematic sex education, he is very clear about the possible consequences, and maybe the "stealing forbidden fruit" will not happen. The psychological and physiological problems of adolescent children must be paid attention to. The father can be educated by the boys, and the mother can be educated by the girl’s, so everyone has a clear division of labor.
Only by having an in-depth understanding can “indiscriminate” behavior be prevented. As parents, you should pay attention to sex education, and the earlier the better. Otherwise, if you wait until your child’s body and mind begin to get ready to move, you may miss the best time.
How to provide children with correct sex education? Parents only need to remember these tricks
. With picture books and videos
If you are ashamed to speak, then learn with your children, use picture books, or videos. Of course, children will have many curious questions during their learning process, and parents should be prepared to answer them. Remember: You must answer frankly to completely dispel your child’s curiosity and provide knowledge.
At the age of two or three, the child will have a gender awareness, especially after entering kindergarten, he will clearly know that there is a difference between boys and girls. This is the best time for sex education. We should teach our children to protect themselves while not invading other people's privacy.
. Take the initiative instead of waiting for the child to ask questions
Compared to waiting for an answer, I still feel that taking the initiative has more educational effect. Because when the child asked a question, it means that he had already started to be curious and was confused, so it would be better to start first. If parents have the dominance and tell their children all their knowledge, they will "destroy" their curiosity.
Then we will talk about the right time. In fact, there is no accurate time. It mainly depends on how parents and children get along. It is logical that "sex education" can be divided into several levels, starting with the simplest knowledge, and then explaining the difficult parts so that children can have space for learning and digestion.
Warm suggestions: If your parents are not prepared, don’t start sex education. Parents' concealment and attitude of wanting to talk to the point of rest will make the children more curious. Only when parents overcome psychological barriers and understand all the content of can they become good teachers.
at the end: Since sex education is inevitable, parents should bravely assume the responsibility of education. The purpose of doing this is to let children learn to protect themselves better and not go against their parents' original intention of education.
