"The first time they asked me for money, they pulled me to a very dark corner, and let me face the wall... asked me how much money I have now, and I said 2.5 yuan, and he said yes, but I knew that I said too much... two yuan should be enough..."
"They became more and more unreasonable later, and even when bullying me, they didn't give me a reason. Once when I was beaten, he even pointed at me and said that today's matter had nothing to do with you. Later I realized that I was bullied that day because one of them broke up and beat me to relax. The first time I was injured because of love..."
Xu Zhisheng exposed his scars in front of everyone in the form of a talk show, which seemed to prove that - those things that made you cry, one day you will say it with a smile.
But if we don’t have this kind of experience that makes us sad, it’s better not to have it. Without these experiences, our smiles will be brighter.
Xu Zhisheng was talking about his junior high school. At that time, he was able to communicate well with his parents and realized that he had encountered campus bullying. He finally told his mother about this, and his mother found his class teacher again, and the matter was handled properly.
He called on everyone - in the face of campus violence, don't be alone and brave, and should tell their parents or teachers in time.
Bullying in kindergartens is often more difficult to detect
What if the child is not even aware of being bullied? How can I tell my parents or teachers?
What child doesn’t realize that he has been bullied?
Kindergarten children.
In kindergarten, how can children who have not even learned how to dress themselves, eat by themselves, and go to the toilet by themselves, identify which behaviors are campus bullying? How could he think of going home to tell his parents that he was bullied at school?
Let alone children, many of us adults don’t know what campus bullying is. At most, we tell the children: “If someone beats you in school, you must tell me.”
However, campus bullying is not just as simple as being beaten, but some invisible bullying is even more terrifying and can invisibly destroy a child’s self-confidence.
To understand what invisible bullying is there in kindergarten, it is recommended that you take your children to see the picture book "Learn to Say "No" Against Bullying".
This set of picture books has 8 volumes and 8 themes, namely being ridiculed, touched, ordered, spread rumors, robbed, pushed, nicknamed, and excluded.
8 theme contents are all very common "invisible bullying" on campus.
This set of picture books can help children to do the following two things:
The first one, understand what bullying is. Only when children know which behaviors are bullying and know that the other party’s behavior is wrong can they make accurate judgments and accurately express them to their parents and teachers when they need help.
The second one, what should I do after being bullied? Many children will only cry after encountering bullying, at a loss and bear it silently. However, this picture book can teach children how to do when encountering various bullying, so that bullies will no longer bully themselves.
This is a set of anti-bullying picture books recommended by kindergarten teachers.
If you have a child aged 3-8, please click the link below to buy it to plant the awareness of "anti-bullying".
Through picture books, we can let children understand what school bullying is and how to refuse to be bullied.
This is the most critical step after learning theoretical knowledge, that is, you must have the "backed love" of your parents.
No matter what kind of bullying, they are most afraid of a child who is "full of love and strength in his heart". Where does the child's love and strength come from, come from his parents.
The following 4 sentences are the "backup of love" of parents, which can give children love and strength and stay away from bullying.
often say these 4 sentences to children to help them stay away from bullying
First sentence: This is not your problem.
Many children who are bullied will have doubts about themselves. Am I really that bad? Is it really a problem? Otherwise, why do they always bully me?
So no matter what mistake the child makes, don’t blame him too much.
We want to tell the child that it is not his problem, but a problem that needs to be corrected.
If we use this way of thinking to treat children's mistakes, then once they are bullied, they will also retain confidence. Don't think you are a problematic person.
The second sentence, I am always there when I need help.
Children who are bullied are often unwilling to tell their parents and teachers about their experience of being bullied.
Some people dare not, and some people don’t believe it. If he doesn’t believe it, we can help him.
Never blame or deny the child immediately when he says something to us: "You must have a problem. Do you say someone else's first? It won't slap it." If you say too much these words, the child can only choose to shut up and fall helpless.
Parents should be the ones who make their children feel that they can trust.
believes that no matter what happens, we are willing to help and support him.
The third sentence, I love you.
Remember to say to the child every night before going to bed, "Good night! I love you!"
When a child feels that he is cute, loved and cared for, he can strengthen his belief---I am bullying me, it is not that I am not good enough, but that person has problems, so he can bravely resist.
The fourth sentence, you can say "no"
The bullying child's blind tolerance and non-expression will become the reason why the bully keeps getting worse.
Never let our children be too sensible and obedient. This is a disadvantage, not an advantage!
cannot give people who like to bully others the opportunity to take advantage of the situation.
Sometimes, a word "no" and a firm look can shock those people.
If you don’t combine your own company, it’s better not to buy picture books.
What children want is not cold books, but warm parents reading these books with themselves. After all, even picture books that are the love of their parents cannot replace them.
Only if you have knowledge of anti-bullying in your mind and love in your heart can you not be a brave man who bullies on campus and stay away from campus bullying.
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