Modern society and families have increasingly demanded on their children, so that many families do not have so-called family affection, but are more replaced by the children's learning pressure. Parents have used all kinds of educational methods and means. As a result, some people have relapsed in their heart disease for their children's homework, and some have caused chaos in their families for their children's studies. In short, educational disadvantages continue to appear, but parents lack reflection.
In fact, the best education is to cultivate children's self-discipline, which is far more important than simply forcing children to learn.
But, self-discipline is also what every parent hopes for? But what should we do? The method is very simple. Learn to "bear" these 3 things:
The first thing: hold back your mouth
The most talked about in a family is mostly mothers. Their nagging personality is really unbearable. I believe that even if you rely on you the most, your favorite child will think so. Therefore, if you are a mother or a father, don't talk about it in a long and long way. Be careful that the more your child listens, the more rebellious he will be. The more he listens, the more annoying you, and the more negative emotions he hears, the more he listens.
Of course, children are still willing to listen to their mothers when they are young, but the quality of their mothers' speech must be guaranteed, which is very important for the cultivation of children's values. However, as children grow older, we need to control our mouths. If you say something more, it sounds like a wind in the ears of children, and it may even be "buzzing". Children who have been nagged by their parents for a long time generally have poor agency. Once they are separated from the supervision of their parents, they will immediately become lazy children and have no ideas or opinions at all.
The second thing: Hold on to your emotions
For a more born baby, the best gift that the mother gives him is breast milk. As the child continues to grow, the best gift that the mother can give to her is peaceful emotions.
A calm mother can always raise calm children. They never know the feeling of being irritable, and they are more gentle to others, giving people a sense of elegance. On the contrary, parents are emotionally unstable and always lose their temper for no reason, or they only use bad temper to solve the problems they encounter. Children either will learn from their parents' appearance, or they will become withdrawn, cowardly, insecure, and have no own thoughts and opinions.
So, if you want your children to be confident and self-disciplined, you must start with the parents' emotions. Your stability is the greatest sense of security for your child and the basis for your child’s self-discipline.
The third thing: Give your child freedom
The child does need the care and care of his parents after birth, but they are independent individuals after all, and they should have their own freedom. Therefore, parents should learn to let go and give their children enough space to make their own ideas, choose their own affairs, and do their own things. From small things to dressing and eating, to big things to spending money to make friends. Only when a child learns to take care of himself can he get rid of the misfortunes and difficulties he encounters in the future, and can greatly prevent his child from becoming a dependent on his parents when he becomes an adult.
In fact, adults only focus on big things and leave small things to their children themselves to handle, most children are more responsible, they are stronger and more independent in their hearts, so they will naturally be more self-disciplined rather than relying on the supervision of their parents.
: Do the above three things, and 90% of the children will become self-disciplined people, which can lay a solid foundation for a bright future.
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