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What should parents do if their children disobey?
This question seems simple, but it is not easy to answer at all. No parent can guarantee that his method is suitable for every disobedient child. In the face of parents’ persuasion or guidance, some children will be obedient, while others will be ruthless. There are also some children who are unwilling to compromise temporarily, and some children go their own way and turn a deaf ear.
For the last type of children, parents often lose their minds easily. Since they refuse to listen to good words, they can only use violence to solve the problem.
After a surveillance video of a father smashing a TV in anger was exposed online, it immediately aroused the attention of netizens.
It happened in Qujing. A brother and sister were obsessed with watching TV at home during the holidays. The father was a little dissatisfied with this, so he tried to persuade the two children. Unexpectedly, this kind of communication had no effect at all, so the father became angry and I smashed the TV at home in front of my two children.
's father's behavior shocked the siblings. After calming down for a moment, their father turned around and walked into the room. At this time, the siblings carefully walked to the TV, lifted the TV and put it back where it was.
In the information age where electronic products are so abundant, many children cannot resist the temptation of watching TV. However, in the eyes of parents, children who are obsessed with TV are just playing with toys and losing their minds. So under the banner of "I am doing this for your own good", some parents began to indulge in addiction. Kids with electronics use coercion.
This scene made many netizens feel sad, because what this father did reminded many people of what it was like when their parents threw things when they were children. Parents' violent behavior damages not only the items in the home, but also the young hearts of the children. When the children grow up, this will become a childhood shadow that cannot be erased.
@天山niaofijue: This kind of parent is too irritable, has no love and patience for his children, and only knows how to throw things when he is angry. This kind of behavior is too harmful to the child's soul.
@ Sunrise: This father had good intentions, but he used the wrong method. Dropping the TV so violently had no effect on educating his children. On the contrary, it could easily make his children feel inferior and cowardly.
@ Denghuo Wanjia: Smashing things only relieves adults' temporary anger, but have you ever thought about whether doing so is effective in developing good habits for children? Instead of doing this, it is better for adults to lead by example and take their children to play games and read books. It is a joke that adults can't put down their mobile phones themselves and ask their children not to watch TV.
From the perspective of parents, some parents also said that although the father's actions are not advisable, they understand his mood very well. No parent does not want to calmly communicate with their children. Smashing the TV may be a sign of negative emotions accumulated for a long time. After all, Today's kids can really drive their parents crazy when they are rebellious.
@ Back then Xiaoyao: I have also smashed my children’s things. What parent doesn’t want to talk to their children properly? But many times persuasion and education don’t work at all. Children are really different.
@ Xu Jinhuan: What my father did was a bit extreme, but maybe he was really forced by his children. Today’s children are too difficult to manage. I believe my father was on the verge of collapse at the time.
@ Tiao Zhi Cha Cha: As a parent, I have really experienced this kind of emotional collapse. If I can't control it even a little bit, I will start to fight with my children. Raising children is not easy, so let's explore slowly.
There are many ways to educate, and violence is not advisable
Because each child has a different personality, parents' education methods are also different. When children reach the rebellious stage, some parents will feel collapsed because their children are disobedient.
But as adults, we must control our emotions when educating our children. Violent behavior by parents due to emotional breakdown does not solve the current problem well, or it can only temporarily suppress the child's behavior, but in After this, the children will still go their own way because they are not convinced by their parents' handling methods.
In addition, for some children with sensitive personalities, parents' violent behavior can easily affect the children's physical and mental health, making them less confident and even forming a pleaser personality.
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