Text | Jingma
Every September, the teachers of the small classes in the kindergarten are exhausted. They go to the gate of the kindergarten every morning, take the children who are crying loudly from their parents, and put them in the class. They finally comfort them. As a result, another crying child came in and made the child who had been coaxed cry again.
Teachers feel like they are at war at the beginning of each school year.
Therefore, many teachers are unwilling to teach small classes because they are too afraid of the period when school first starts.
And every year, among a large group of children who cry loudly, teachers find some special, quiet children who can quickly adapt to kindergarten life.
Some children cry a few times a day or two before going to kindergarten, but they get used to it later and even help the teacher comfort those classmates who cry loudly.
Xiao He is a senior kindergarten teacher. has a special way of comforting children, so she is asked to help every year when the kindergarten class first starts.
And Xiao He also summed up a set of experiences. She divided the children into groups, and put a child in each group who had good adaptability and didn't cry much, and taught this child how to comfort other classmates. She This method is very practical.
And Xiao He also found that those children who go to kindergarten without crying or making trouble, and can also help comfort other children, mainly family education is very good.
Children who go to kindergarten without crying or fussing usually come from five special families.
The first type of family: a family where the husband and wife are particularly loving.
When a husband and wife are in love, they will respect each other and love each other in front of the children. will make them The child feels that "I am a child born out of the love of my parents."
Moreover, a harmonious atmosphere at home can also make the child feel the warmth of the family and make the child feel more secure.
And he is also more adaptable to the environment. After entering kindergarten, his heart is very warm, and he can not only illuminate himself, but also illuminate others.
The second type of family: the family is particularly democratic.
For example, if you want to take your children out to play today, do you decide in one word that you want to take your children to the zoo, or do you give your children two choices? Do you want to go to the zoo or to the park?
A democratic family will give children choices and respect their children's choices. . If the children want to play in the park, then parents will take their children to the park to play together.
After all, children are the protagonists when we go out to play. Only when children have fun can parents have fun.
A child with a democratic family knows that he is respected. He can be more independent in a strange environment and adapt to the environment faster.
The third type of family: a family that pays special attention to cultivating children's independence.
Children generally like to eat by themselves when they first start eating complementary foods. Some parents are unwilling to let their children eat by themselves, while some parents are willing to help their children clean up the mess. Help the children change their clothes and mop the floor.
Let children slowly learn to eat by themselves. When children learn to wear clothes, although they don't button the buttons correctly at first, parents are also willing to let their children try it on their own.
Parents can cultivate their children's independent spirit from an early age so that their children can adapt more quickly after entering kindergarten.
Because kindergarten requires you to eat, dress, and sleep by yourself. If a child has good adaptability and is praised by the teacher, the child will be more recognized and happy about going to kindergarten.
The fourth type of family: Pay special attention to keeping your word in front of children
For example, if you promise your children to take them to the water park as soon as you finish their homework this Saturday, then after the children finish their homework, the parents will take the initiative to take their children to the water park.
Instead of making other excuses, mom is busy today, so she doesn’t have time to take you to the water park. I will take you to the water park next time.
If goes back on its promise every time, the children will not feel respected, and it will make the children feel that their parents do not mean what they say.
Parents tell their children when they go to kindergarten that their mother will pick them up after school.
But in my heart, the child felt that my parents often lied to me. This time they said they would pick me up after school, which was definitely a lie.
So I was very panicked in kindergarten. I was worried that my parents would no longer want me, and I would definitely cry a lot.
The fifth type of family: a family that particularly spoils its children before one year old
Before the child is one year old, he is without a sense of rules and , and will not threaten his parents by crying, so psychologists recommend that children be before they are one year old. Pamper your children more, and parents should try their best to satisfy their children as long as they want it.
When a child is satisfied before he is one year old, he has a greater sense of security. When a child goes to kindergarten, he has a sense of security and is naturally less likely to cry.
If you want your children to feel more secure, more confident, and easier to adapt to the environment, it is best for parents to make their families become the above five special families.
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