Written by: Ning'er [Original content, personal collection and forwarding are welcome] My friend Zhang Rui gave birth to her second child a few days ago, another boy. I went to visit her yesterday, expecting her to be gloomy and worried about how to raise her two sons. After all,

Written by: Ning'er [Original content, personal collection and forwarding are welcome]

My friend Zhang Rui gave birth to her second child a few days ago, another boy. I went to visit her yesterday, expecting her to be gloomy and worried about how to raise her two sons. After all, there is a lot of pressure now for sons to get married and buy a house. Having two sons is really no joke. However, Zhang Rui looked calm and even said somewhat happily: "I would rather have two sons than one daughter!"

After listening to her words, don't worry, because what Bao's mother said is not true. Prejudice, the original intention is very heartbreaking.

Mom has no brothers in her family, so she has been bullied and looked down upon by people around her since she was a child.

As a mother of a second child, Zhang Rui actually does not have the idea of ​​​​valuing boys over girls. Instead, she has suffered from the preference for boys over girls since she was a child. She said that she had no brothers in her family and had been bullied and looked down upon by those around her since she was a child. For example, the land in the village is divided, and people whose land is adjacent to their own land will plant seeds a little further into their land every year. Over the past few years, several parts of their land have been occupied by the other party. Her parents argued with others, but because they had no son and were weak, the other party would scold them at every turn: "You are a destitute family, and your house and land will have to be given to others sooner or later. What qualifications do you have to compete with us for this bit of land?"

Therefore, as a woman, Bao's mother does not want to have a daughter, but wants to have more sons. Because, having a son gives you confidence in the eyes of others, and children do not need to be affected or bullied by others because of their preference for sons over daughters. After all, she lives in a rural area, even if she now lives in a city, and returns to her hometown every year during the holidays, she doesn’t want to be judged by the people around her. Instead, she takes her two grandsons back to her parents’ home, so that she can save face for her parents. I know that this idea of ​​hers is a bit vanity-driven, but without going through the suffering of others, I am not qualified to criticize her approach.

Bao Ma saw that her mother was often angry with her mother-in-law because she could not give birth to a son, and she felt very sad.

In addition, Zhang Rui said that she did not want to have a daughter. Another reason was because she had watched her grandmother bully her mother since she was a child. She often criticized her and said, The mother couldn't give birth to a son, and her belly was not as good as it could be. The mother could only swallow her anger. She didn't dare to breathe when she was at home.

Although times have advanced and women no longer have to experience these bad mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationships, Zhang Rui is still worried about her children. She is worried that if she gives birth to a daughter, she will encounter an in-law who values ​​boys over girls in the future. , her daughter will be abused by her mother-in-law just like her mother, and she feels too distressed. Therefore, she would rather give birth to two sons and be a good and open-minded mother-in-law in the future, so as not to make her daughter-in-law angry.

A mother goes through all kinds of hardships and pains during pregnancy and childbirth. She doesn’t want to have a daughter and suffers from these pains.

Also, as a mother, Zhang Rui feels that women suffer too much. They have to go through the hardships of ten months of pregnancy, suffer from morning sickness, and have to bear heavy weights. Babies also have to experience various discomforts such as edema, hypoxia, breathlessness and inability to sleep at night. When gave birth to a child, she had to experience pain as if "ten ribs were broken at the same time." She was scared when she thought about having to go through this when she gave birth to a daughter.

Therefore, she is a bit selfish and would rather give birth to a son than suffer the consequences of giving birth to a daughter. Of course, although she would feel distressed if someone else's daughter became her daughter-in-law and suffered such crimes in the future, she is not her biological mother after all, so she might not feel so uncomfortable. What she can do is to be a good mother-in-law, considerate and caring for her daughter-in-law, and take good care of her daughter-in-law during pregnancy and childbirth.

Although I don’t agree with Zhang Rui’s idea, I can understand it. Everyone has their own opinions about having a son or a daughter. We don't agree with it, but we can respect it.

Today’s topic: Netizens think, are Zhang Rui’s thoughts correct?

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After becoming a mother, my mood every day is like riding a roller coaster. Just now I was so angry that my child was so naughty, but in the next moment I was so moved by her child's heartwarming words. Being a mother means going back and forth between anger and love... I hope to be constantly recharged and become the "mother" my children want most.

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