When a child makes a mistake, he is told that he cannot be spanked and must be reasoned with. Then please take a look at the way the child below obtained a mobile phone in order to play games and then judge.
’s colleague Sister Li listed the “means” her second-in-law went to in order to obtain a mobile phone. It made her collapse several times!
The protagonist of the story is the second eldest child in her family. Before he was 10 years old, he was very obedient. He would not watch other people playing games. He would only play cards with other children nearby. Even if he put money in front of him, he would not take a piece of it. Sister Li once felt that this child was here to "repay a favor".
Everything changed after the child turned 10. In order to let the child attend a good middle school, he asked an aunt in the county to help take care of his food and daily life (Sister Li and his wife worked outside and could not go home until the Spring Festival). It was fine before, but then something happened that stunned Sister Li. She thought that the child who came to repay her kindness stole 800 yuan from her aunt to buy a mobile phone. When the incident came to light, the naughty child actually said to her aunt: "Can you "Don't tell my mother, I will pay you back the money I owe you after I work!"
In the end, his cell phone was confiscated and he had to pay compensation. Fortunately, his aunt was kind and agreed to take him to graduate from elementary school.
has graduated from elementary school, and Sister Li thinks it would be better to keep it with her. Because both husband and wife have social security, it is easy for their children to study abroad.
The child was reunited with his biological parents. As for money, I don’t dare to give it too much, and I don’t dare to put it around randomly. The mobile phone is only equipped with an elderly phone for him to facilitate contact. Similarly, the first half of the semester was fine, but at the beginning of the second half of the semester, the teacher called and the child was playing games with a group of people in the bathroom after 12pm (the child was studying in a dormitory and did not go home until Friday night). At first, Sister Li didn't believe it. Her son had an old machine and . How could he play games? She rushed to school with a smart phone in front of her. Facts speak louder than words. The helpless Sister Wang had no choice but to wait for her child to come home. Ask again.
finally waited for his son to come back from vacation. When he asked about it, he said that in exchange for doing homework with others, he could play for two hours a day. Sister Li said that she felt her blood boiling and couldn't control it, so she beat him severely. Finally, the child promised her that she would never play games again. A letter of guarantee was also written on the spot.
was beaten up and the child's letter of guarantee was given. Sister Li thought that the child would change his ways. They finished the first grade of junior high school and were promoted to the second semester of junior high school without any problems. The child was almost 14 weeks old and his academic performance was above average. Just when Sister Li was secretly secretly rejoicing, her family's second child's plan to obtain a mobile phone was upgraded. .
The second child was infected with chickenpox at school and had to miss school for half a month. If you have chickenpox, you cannot go out to have fun. Sister Li has repeatedly warned you not to go out, and the child agreed well at that time. The next day, Sister Li thought that her child had just developed chickenpox, so she took a few days off to go home and take care of her. Unexpectedly, as soon as I arrived downstairs, I saw a man wearing a hat and scarf coming out of the building. He looked a bit like his son. She didn't say anything and followed quietly. She saw the child arriving at a breakfast shop. She didn't know what they were talking about. Then she left without buying anything. After the child left, Sister Li hurried to the breakfast shop to find out where her son was going. intention of. The boss said that her son would go to her store every Saturday and Sunday morning to help out, just to exchange for half an hour of playing games with the store owner’s son. I found out that day that he had chickenpox, so of course I didn't agree to let him stay in the store. She also asked Sister Li to take good care of her son and told him not to go there in the future. When the embarrassed Sister Li returned home, she could only suppress her anger. Because of chickenpox, she skipped a meal of "fried pork with bamboo shoots". Sister Li said that all her face was lost at that moment!
The exhausted Sister Li asked experienced people for advice on how to change children's obsession with mobile games. Experienced people told him that blindly controlling children not to touch mobile phones will be counterproductive. They can only play for two hours every week after vacation. The premise is that the mobile phone must be taken away from the adult and returned at the end, which makes sense when you think about it. Sister Li also did so, and the child was also very happy. He took it away on time every week and handed it in on time.Until one day, when Sister Li was washing the quilt cover for her child, a mobile phone fell out of the quilt cover. It was exactly the same as the mobile phone handed to her. Sister Li tried to distinguish it for a long time without seeing it. In order to confirm, she wanted to turn on the mobile phone, but it didn't work. Thinking that the mobile phone handed to her had no battery and no card, the mobile phone under the quilt was the one that could be used and she bought it for him. Staring at the two mobile phones, Sister Li was about to cry but had no tears! After the child came back, Sister Li was beaten so hard that the clothes hanger was deformed. There were long, red blood marks on her hands, legs, and buttocks. She said this was the most regretful and painful time she had ever experienced. She also said that the child begged her and said: "Mom, I was wrong. I don't want to be beaten. Can't I change it?" Should a child like
be beaten? The author feels that a proper beating is still necessary. As far as Sister Li's child is concerned, a beating will at least make him aware. He didn't want to get beaten, but he just couldn't control it. Sister Li's child is a typical child who does not have strong self-control. The age of 10 to 14 is the child's youthful rebellious period, and he is irresistible to new things from the outside world, especially games. Therefore, while adults guide their children well, it is also necessary to give them appropriate spanks for their excessive behavior. But one thing to emphasize is that you should pay attention to the place where you hit. Never hit the head, face, or back! Of course, "serving with a stick" is limited to slightly younger children.
Children have entered adolescence. They have their own ideas about everything and will not easily listen to their parents. The so-called reasonableness of their parents becomes nagging and verbose in their eyes. In serious cases, it will make the relationship "at war with tension". Parents Collapse, the child is depressed and irritable. You can’t hit me even if you hit me, and you can’t scold me even if you scold me.
To change this situation is to increase the intimacy of the parent-child relationship. Parents can put down their mobile phones and read more books. You can take them on trips when you have free time. Or satisfy some of their desires that are not excessive, such as eating KFC and hamburgers. Playing e-sports and so on can increase the intimacy with children. Over time, children also know that their parents are changing for them, and they will naturally reflect on what they have done. It is impossible to completely quit gaming unless the child realizes it and quits voluntarily. I very much agree with the opinion of an online author: before developing games, there are experts who have studied how to make the developed games firmly grasp the user's psychology. Even adults can't help themselves, let alone underage children.
is more in favor of Sister Li's method of playing for two hours within a fixed time. It not only satisfies the children but also allows them to slowly learn to control, but this is inseparable from the active guidance of parents! While giving them their mobile phones, they would also ask about their homework completion status, how they were doing at school during the week, etc. But it must be done in a communicative way, not a commanding manner, otherwise the result may be an unhappy ending, and it’s not surprising that the situation involving Sister Li’s children appears! It is often the case that "there are policies from above and countermeasures from below", which leads to moments when parents collapse.
Children are originally sent by God to "love and kill each other" with us. Let us grow up together with our children, fight together and complete a successful transformation together!
