You must treat your children equally. If you don't treat your children equally, you will definitely regret it later. Just like this thing in the article. Why do you treat your daughter as your own? Then don't blame your daughter for not caring about you. Even biological children are the same. You gave all the benefits to your son. Why should you let your daughter be responsible for you?
Let alone the woman in the article, even if it were me, I would not care about this matter. I hope that through this case, all parents will finally understand that they must treat their children equally. Whether they are boys or girls, they are their own children. Let's take a look at this. The parents looked for their daughter to provide for them in old age, but they were kicked out. The parents said: How could you do this? The daughter said: Get out.
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39-year-old Ms. Li:
Many people say that parents should not refuse their request. Parents have not done anything excessive, so why should they refuse this request? What's wrong with your parents asking you to provide for them when they are old? You are his child, and it will be unjust if you don't provide for him in his old age. No matter what, you should provide for your parents in their old age. If you are their child, you must provide for your parents in their old age.
I smiled and said nothing. When those relatives and friends saw that I was silent, they asked, "Do you agree to this?" If so, take your parents back. Your parents have worked hard all their lives, and it’s not easy to get old now. You are his daughter, and if you have good conditions, you need to provide for them in their old age.
Without the efforts of your parents, there would be no current family. Your parents have given you everything. Now that they are old, you must be filial to them and responsible for them. Do you understand? I still didn't speak. They got angry without saying anything. Those relatives and friends angrily said to me, "How could you be like this?"
They are your parents. Is it enough for you to say nothing like this? Hurry up and take your parents over. They ask you to provide for them in their old age. This is an opportunity for you to be filial to them. As their daughter, you must repay them.
I can't take it anymore. I am a relative and friend of him and said, since you want to be filial to my parents so much, then let’s do this. You go and be filial to my parents, and I will give them to you. In that case, you can be filial to them every day, and there is no need for you to talk about me. If you say you want to be filial to them that much, then go ahead and be filial to them yourself.
Anyway, I think I am not wrong. When they heard me say this, my relatives and friends immediately cursed me. Relatives and friends said that your parents asked us to come here. How can you talk to us like this? Even if your parents didn't ask us to come here, we are still your elders.
You have to respect us. Isn’t it just for you that we say this? What would people say about you if this matter spread? If you don’t want face, we also want face, let alone your parents. They really have no choice, so they came to you. How can you treat your parents like this now? It's okay if you say something unpleasant, but you have to take responsibility for your parents no matter what.
Otherwise, who will your parents rely on in the future? I told them, who do my parents rely on? What does this have to do with me? My parents either rely on my brother or you. Are you reliable? Can I rely on myself? When I said this, they had nothing to say.
I think I am not wrong. Today I am telling this matter, and everyone can help me comment on it. What would you do if it were you? If it were you, would you do this? My parents came to see me two days ago. My parents came to me not to give me anything nice, but to hold me accountable.
My parents told me that we are old and have no choice but to come here to provide for you in our old age. You are our daughter, and you must provide for us in our old age. We told you about this in advance and we will move here in two days. Why do we have to move here in two days instead of now?
The first is to give you time to prepare, and the second is that there are still things to hand over at home.Before my parents could finish speaking, I interrupted them. I told my parents that when it comes to providing for the elderly, you should look to your son, not me, right? You gave all the benefits to your brother, why should you hold me responsible?
I know that I speak more directly, but I feel that I am not wrong. Regarding my parents, I really can't bear it. I refused my parents' request directly. After I refused, my parents told me, how could you be like this? No matter what, we are your parents. Without us, there would be no you. It would be easy for us to work hard to raise you. ?
Now we are old. If you don't take responsibility for us, who will take responsibility for us? Although we are indeed unfair in treating children, who made you a daughter? If you were a boy, we would be very good to you. The question is You are the daughter.
You are our daughter, do we almost have a problem with you? After all, you are a daughter, and a married daughter is like water thrown away. Which parent doesn't treat his daughter like this? Don't complain so much, all parents are the same. That's it. We will be here in two days. Now you can help pack things up.
We are not here to discuss this matter with you, but to tell you that you have to agree or disagree with this matter. I was absolutely pissed off by my parents. I got angry and told them that I had no choice. Are you giving me a choice? No matter what, I don’t agree. Even if I agree, it’s useless. If I agree, my husband and the others won’t agree either.
Also, you are able to take care of yourself now. You are only in your 60s. Now you come here to take care of yourself. How long will you have to deal with in the future? Just stop tormenting me, okay? If anything happens to you, just ask your brother. My mother told the truth. My mother said, if I could call you brother, I would have called you brother a long time ago.
What is going on? My father said, your brother and that woman are getting married. And then didn’t want to live with us. You also know that your brother is still unmarried at his age, but now he has finally found a partner, and finally the woman is willing to marry your brother.
As parents, are we embarrassed to disturb them? As a sister, can you argue with them? I don’t live with them either, I sold my hometown on purpose. Then take our savings and buy a house for your brother with a total of 1.5 million. Your brother bought a house in the city center, and that house was their wedding room.
With this house, they don’t have to live with us. With this house, that woman will marry your brother. You don’t want your brother to be alone all his life, right? Your brother is already in his 30s now. What will happen if he doesn’t get married yet? You should get married as soon as possible when you are young, otherwise no one will want you in the future.
And it’s not like you don’t know about your brother. He doesn’t work, and he doesn’t have much ability and hasn’t read any books. Now that he has finally found a woman who is willing to be with him, we should deal with this matter quickly. If you miss this woman, your brother really won't know how he will live in the future.
That’s why we come here to retire. The old house has been sold. Then our savings were also given to your brother. Now we have no choice but to rely on you. The old house is sold, but it will take two days to receive it. Now we go back to pack things. Then wait until others take away our house. Let's come here to retire.
I have wronged you, but what can I do? Who made you our daughter. As our daughter, you must be responsible for us. This is a matter of course, right? This is how the world is, parents raise their daughters.Then the daughter is responsible for her parents, isn't she?
If this is not the case, then why should I raise you? I have worked hard to raise you so that I can rely on you when I get old. Don’t think that I am heartless. All parents in the world are the same. All parents are like this. I interrupted my parents again and told them that even if other parents were like this, they would not be so ruthless or partial.
This has been the case since childhood. You gave all the benefits to your younger brother, and gave him everything good. Now I need to be responsible. This is impossible and I don't agree with this. I won't care about you.
My parents were angry when they heard that I refused again. My parents said to me angrily, how could you be like this? We worked hard to raise you and paid so much for you. Now that we are old and have nowhere to go, how can you treat us like this? Do you believe us or not? Take you to court. We are your parents. If we take you to court, the judge will make it difficult for you.
Then don’t blame us for being ruthless. If you want to blame, blame yourself, if you agree to provide for us in our old age. I pretended this never happened. Faced with scoundrels like parents. I feel helpless. Finally, I told my parents, you have given all the benefits to your brother, why should I be responsible for you?
If you insist that I be responsible to you, you can give me all the money you gave to your brother, more than 1 million yuan. Give it all to me, not a penny less. If you give me this money, I will be responsible to you. Be responsible.
If you don't give me this money, I won't care about you. Since you gave all the benefits to your brother, you should look to your brother for retirement, not me. Although I am your child, my brother is also your son. They are all your sons. Why should I be responsible? Before I could finish speaking, my father slapped me.
There was a snap and a slap fell on my face. My father said to me angrily, how could you talk like this? How many times have I told you, you are our child and you do not need to be responsible for us. Who the money is given to is our business. If we give money to you, does that mean we are giving money to an outsider? If that is the case, does our home cease to exist?
The difference between you and your brother is that you are a girl and he is a boy. He can inherit ours, but as for you, your brother has a child with our surname. And whose last name is your child? Still don't understand? What else do you want to say? No matter what, we must provide for our retirement. Why should I give my brother any benefits and then let me take responsibility? I don't agree, get out of here.
I quarreled with my parents because of this matter, and finally drove them away out of tolerance. After my parents were driven away by me, they found many relatives. Then the scene at the beginning of the article appeared, when those relatives and friends came to me to discuss the truth. This is how things are. Faced with this matter, should we support our parents in old age?
I have no choice at all, my parents are too much. What would you do if it were you? Anyway, I think I am not wrong. How can there be such parents? Since the benefits have been given to the son, the son should be the one to take care of him in old age, not the daughter.
Conclusion:
is really helpless when facing this matter. If it were me, I would do the same. Although this is a bit ruthless, it is also very helpless. If you don't do this, how will your parents-in-law be responsible for the family in the future. Your parents are so rogue, just to be able to help their son.
actually treats you like this. Since they don't treat you as a daughter, there is no need for you to treat them as a parent. Just drive them away, which is what I would do anyway if it were me. Because he doesn't treat you as a family member. If this is the case, then they should be driven away.
I hope that this case can make all parents pay attention. Children must be treated with toys and things. Whether they are boys or girls, they are all their own children. There is no need to separate them so clearly. If you insist on separating them clearly, If so, then you will definitely be the one regretting it in the end. They are all their own children, and they must be balanced with a bowl of water.
Both boys and girls can be responsible for you. Girls today are all the same. Do you understand? Stop favoring sons over daughters. Parents who favor sons over daughters will not end well, just like the parents in the article. Children must be treated with a bowl of water.
