Text | Xia Yuan’s Heart-warming House
When it comes to self-affirmation, what do you think of?
Self-affirmation is a kind of respect, a kind of recognition of oneself, and it is also the kind of encouragement and self-confidence building that one needs most.
Whether you are an adult or a child, you all need self-affirmation. On the one hand, this affirmation comes from others. On the other hand, and most importantly, it is your own attitude towards yourself.
In this era, everyone needs to be recognized and affirmed by others, especially children. During their growth process, as parents, we should encourage and affirm their children's performance more. Only in this way can children be more courageous. Only by doing things can you have a wonderful childhood.
So, how should we do it?
The book "DK Children's Self-Affirmation 365" can help you and your children grow together, because these words of self-affirmation are not only spoken to children, but can also become a benchmark for parents.
The author of this book is Winnie Kinder. She has more than 30 years of teaching experience and has been engaged in teaching mathematics, reading and writing. In 2004, she switched to mindfulness education and worked with teachers, students and parents. Explore mindfulness .
The setting of this book is defined by the 12 months of the year. Each month has a theme, including innovation, adventure, joy, etc.
Through these themes, combined with mindful actions, we can better help children achieve self-affirmation.
1 The importance of affirmative statements
What is an affirmative statement?
"Every day is a new beginning.", "Everything will be fine.", "I am close to success." ... words like this.
The definition of affirmative sentences is that when we speak, we should try to say some positive sentences. On the one hand, it can play a positive role, and on the other hand, it also tells ourselves that some things should not be too concerned about or taken too seriously. Use a calm attitude to speak and communicate.
The reason why we use such a statement is because in the current environment, we face various trivial matters and various worries every day, which will make us feel uneasy in our hearts and even lead to some extreme behaviors.
In fact, this requires us to learn to control our emotions. No matter what happens, having a strong heart is the most important.
Today’s parents all hope that their children can learn well, and they all hope that their children will become successful and their daughters will become phoenixes. However, we have overlooked one thing, that is, what is the true wish of the child, or in other words, we have never entered the heart of the child. The world only uses its own judgment to look at all problems of children.
is like a previous incident. The child was playful because he did not study hard, and the child's mother took action against him as soon as he came up. This ultimately led to the child's tragedy and the mother's regret.
As far as this matter is concerned, there are many aspects that need to be thought about deeply. On the one hand, the mother's environment and her living situation caused her to put all her sustenance on her children, which led to an emotional breakdown; On the one hand, it is the perspective of looking at things. If we can first understand what happened and then decide on the next step, maybe there will be no bad ending.
Well, at this time, you can actually use affirmative statements, or simple communication is ten thousand times better than taking action.
Because, sometimes, the reason why we are impatient is that on the one hand, the child's expression is not complete enough and misunderstandings occur; on the other hand, our hearts are not calm enough and we do not look at the problem with a correct attitude.
Therefore, in our daily lives, we should say more affirmative statements to our children, pay attention to the children's true wishes and feelings, and less rebuke and criticize.
2 12 months, 12 themes, leading you to achieve self-affirmation
The highlight of this book is that there are 12 months in a year, each representing 12 self-affirmation themes.
For example, the theme of January is positivity, the theme of February is love, the theme of May is adventure, etc.
Through the practice of affirmative statements in these topics, we can help us and our children progress and grow together.
How to practice?
How to play is actually very simple. You can preview each month's theme and related affirmative sentences in advance, and then start daily mindfulness practice with your children, that is, one sentence a day. You can also practice in other ways. For example, we can play some interactive games to expand these affirmative statements. This way it won't feel boring.
The book tells us that we can write these sentences on slips of paper and put them in a beautiful and special jar. Then we can take out a slip of paper from the jar every day to practice affirmative statements.
In this way, you can create a little sense of mystery for your children, and it will also be a novel experience.
Or, based on these affirmative statements, we can lead the children to practice drawing, performing, and speaking together.
For example, if there is a sentence in the theme of May, "I like to look at the sky.", we can take pictures of the sky shapes every day, or the children can imagine a fun sky scene and draw them all.
In short, In this book, we can explore fun and interesting practice methods with our children. As long as it is interactive and has real experience, that is what we need.
After you experience and challenge, you will find that life is very beautiful, and you will be happy in whatever you do.
3 Written at the end
"DK Children's Self-Affirmation 365" is an interactive guide book with positive energy and positivity that allows you to face yourself bravely, re-recognize yourself, and ultimately achieve self-affirmation.
With the belief of self-affirmation, children will create more possibilities;
With the support of self-affirmation, children will develop more comprehensively.
As parents, we should always grow together with our children, just like high-quality companionship every day. In this process, you will experience many different experiences, and your children will bring you unlimited surprises every day.
Therefore, start with yourself. Only if you set a good example can you help your children achieve self-affirmation in daily life.
Author: Xia Yuan's Warm Heart Xiaozhu
Loves reading, loving writing, and loving handbooks
Loves ancient style, loves animation, and loves idols
Likes all beautiful and literary things
is a mother who pays attention to parent-child reading
practices annual reading Hundred Challenger
