Some babies go to daycare centers and start crying as soon as they arrive at the door, which makes parents feel anxious. In the newly entered nursery, there is often a lot of crying.
As soon as some parents left, their children started crying and shouting, "I want mom... I want to go home..." Some children would grab their parents' clothes and cry loudly. , not letting them leave, no matter how they coaxed them, it was of no avail, so the parents could only forcefully leave. Sometimes there are even situations where children cry inside and parents cry outside.
For a child, going to daycare for the first time and being separated from mom and dad for a whole day is a very big deal.
When entering an unfamiliar daycare from a familiar family, many children inevitably cry. The entrance to the daycare almost becomes a sea of tears.
This situation is a typical case of separation anxiety.
What is separation anxiety?
Separation anxiety is a baby's anxiety, uneasiness, or unpleasant emotional reaction caused by separation from relatives, especially parents, with behaviors of fear and crying.
I don’t know if parents have this experience. When you leave your baby’s sight for a moment, he starts to cry loudly. But as soon as you come back, he becomes quiet again. This too clingy way of getting along not only makes parents feel nervous, but also makes them worry about whether there will be adverse effects on their children's future interpersonal relationships.
Every child will have separation anxiety to some extent, especially when developing attachment relationships. For preschool babies, separation anxiety has two high-incidence periods: one starts from about 7 months old and lasts until one and a half years old; the other high-incidence period is when they enter daycare at the age of 3.
In fact, not only babies have separation anxiety, parents also have separation anxiety and are very attached to their babies.
Especially breastfeeding mothers, because of hormones in their bodies, are even more attached to their babies, and they always feel worried and entangled about being separated from their babies. Although separation anxiety is distressing for both parents and babies, it is completely a normal psychological reaction and can be resolved smoothly as long as you deal with it correctly.
The reasons for separation anxiety
From the root, no matter what age group babies are anxious, it is because of a lack of security. For babies around 7 months old, the lack of security is mainly related to the baby's cognitive ability.
Generally, adults have the concept of object permanence, but babies have not yet developed it. In his cognition, if an object is left for a long time, it will completely disappear. He must feel the existence of the object or person before he can feel at ease. So when the mother is no longer in the baby's sight, they will cry loudly, because the baby thinks that the mother has disappeared, so they feel insecure and become anxious.
