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This Saturday, the temperature was 40 degrees, and the heat was naturally unbearable. After arriving at the child's grandfather's house, the child clamored to turn on the air conditioner, so he closed the door after turning on the air conditioner. It caused a series of inner emotional fluctuations in me.

At first, after the child's aunt came in, she took something and left without closing the door. So the child's grandfather got up and closed the door without saying anything. As soon as the door was closed, the aunt came in again, took something and went out again. , still opened the door and left directly. The old man got up and closed the door. The interval was less than 3 minutes.

My aunt finished her work, and then her brother began to come in and out frequently, so the old man became a doorman. He knew how to open the door when he came in, but why didn't he know how to close it when he went out? ! Sometimes the old man would call his grandson, but the grandson might be too far away to hear him. The old man had to get up and close the door again and again.

Okay, here comes the kid. When he was going out, he opened the door and walked straight out. He forgot to close the door, so the old man started shouting: "Close the door." The kid started to close the door, but then he came in and went out again. He didn't plan to go out yet. He began to scold angrily: “Close the door. The child began to be unconvinced, "Why can others come in and out without closing the door, but I have to close the door?" ”, the child began to become very unhappy.

Because the child began to have emotional reactions, I also began to think: Your daughter-in-law didn’t close the door, and you didn’t tell her. Your grandson didn’t close the door, and you didn’t say it. Instead, it took half a month. The grandson who comes once will not let go of this problem. You don't care about such a big person, and you don't care about the fifth or sixth grader, but you only care about this naive kindergarten kid. The more he thinks about it, the more angry he becomes. He comes here once every half month. He treats us so impeccably under his eyes every day. It seems that we are really outsiders."

Then he thought again: If he disciplines his daughter-in-law, his daughter-in-law will leave home. If he ran away, his son would have to call his daughter-in-law back. Besides, his daughter-in-law only allowed officials to set fires and not allow people to light lamps, so if he scolded his daughter-in-law, his daughter-in-law would definitely have a big fight. Fighting, for the sake of family harmony, he could only stand up on his own, and closed the door again and again without temper. He couldn't scold his daughter-in-law, and naturally his grandson couldn't scold him either, because his daughter-in-law was too protective. No matter what he did, his grandson could only shake his head. , compared with training a daughter-in-law, the cost of training a grandson will be greater, because the grandson is the daughter-in-law's darling, and others are not willing to train him, so naturally he cannot train him, so for the sake of family harmony, the old man will be willing to do it again and again Go and close the door.

This grandson is different. Anyway, we don’t see each other very often, and we don’t have much affection. Besides, I can’t control my daughter-in-law’s children, and I can’t control my own daughter’s children. How can I fight with her father? . . . Therefore, the cost of reprimanding the grandson is very low. Inexplicably, I suddenly felt that this old man's status in the family was really low. . . "

then thought, "This old man's endurance must have reached its limit. If a person is asked to do something frequently, the person will always have a temper. The child should start just when he reaches his limit. The door was hit by a gun. . . If it was the child who opened the door and didn't close the door for the first time, then the old man might not have such a big mood swing. Therefore, the old man lost his temper because he had accumulated emotions for too long, and the child happened to be the last straw that caused the flames. ."

Thinking of this, I felt angry in my heart from about to get angry to finally looking at this old man with sympathy. It was really pitiful. Then I thought, "Let the children develop the good habit of closing the door early. What's wrong with that?" Besides, we must know that the world is inherently colorful, and what we have to do is to keep ourselves awake, rather than imitating others regardless of good or bad, and the younger the child, the stronger the plasticity will be, so the old man It is right to train children. We must develop the good habit of closing doors from an early age. "

thought to the end, "I have to thank this old man. The so-called parents treat their children for the long term. The old man is paving the way for the children's good habits in the future. Why should I be angry? There are always some things that if you don’t teach your children, society will teach them. Rather than letting society teach them, it is better to teach them yourself. . "

Well, so my mood has gone from being indignant to sympathizing with the old man, and finally confirming the old man's idea. It's just that I used the wrong method.

Take this opportunity to educate the children: 'The reason why people are excellent is because they are not like others. If you are lucky, you can escape every time, and we are the ones who will be discovered if we have bad intentions. So in addition to envying other people's luck, we must also take care not to be criticized by others, so we will become Better. Just like when we were in school, others would not be found out if they were running away from work, and we would always be called out if our expenses were poor. So, in order not to be called out, we have to manage ourselves even if there is no one to supervise us, so we often have bad luck. People will eventually become very powerful. "

So don't complain about why others do the same thing, just talk about yourself. Because life is not about comparing or following the crowd, but essentially looking at whether you should do this and whether you should be disciplined.

Then again, how do you deal with people who don’t just close the door?

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