As summer vacation approaches, many mothers are anxious about the fact that their children are easily addicted to playing mobile games, playing for longer and longer periods of time, and causing trouble if they are not allowed to play.
Parents are worried that their children will be "addicted or addicted" to electronic products
which will affect their physical and mental health, academics
interpersonal communication, family relationships and other issues
But how to solve the problem
without harming the parent-child relationship
but also play a role in restraint
Parents often feel helpless
Today, Sister Fujian is here to help
You might as well give it a try
First of all,
Understand the reasons why children are addicted to mobile games
1. Not getting enough company from their parents
When children's attachment relationships are not satisfied, they often Use something instead. We often hear from them: "It's so boring!" "There's no one to play with me!" So we need to use other things to get spiritual compensation. Snacks, TV, mobile phones, and online games have become their best companions.
2. Lack of orderly time arrangement
When the summer vacation comes, children who are usually busy with schoolwork suddenly have a lot of free time, and they need fulfilling activities to fill it. However, many parents now work outside the home during the day, leaving their children at home alone. Without a reasonable arrangement of work and rest time, it is easy for them to have nothing to do during a certain period of time. At this time, the children will easily think of watching TV or playing games.
3. Children lack the ability to control themselves
Psychologists once conducted a survey, putting children of all ages and learning levels in a common space for online classes, and then asking their parents to leave midway with excuses. Afterwards, they found that almost all children At different time periods, they will change the interfaces of their respective electronic screens and browse content that they find interesting. It can be seen that children do not have complete self-control over the content on electronic screens. People have the instinct to pursue happiness, and so do children.
4. Parents frequently use mobile phones to play games at home.
Children are the mirror of their parents. They will learn whatever you do. This is the result of "teaching by words and deeds". If parents often use their mobile phones to play WeChat, play games, or watch movies at home, then most children will also become interested in mobile phones and hope to get satisfaction from mobile phones.
So, how does
deal with the problem of children being addicted to mobile games?
1. Reasonable acceptance and rational control
If parents want to get into their children's hearts, they must first recognize and respect their children and learn to accept them. Mobile phones are an information complex. Proper use of electronic products can also have the positive effect of allowing children to increase their knowledge and broaden their horizons, so they cannot be denied blindly. The key is to allow children to play with mobile phones moderately and to control the time they spend playing with mobile phones. For example, set rules with your children and set a time limit for playing games every day. It is recommended that each game last for 20-30 minutes. Never interfere during the game; when the time is up, it must stop. Once a habit is formed, it can be transferred to a reasonable arrangement of one's own study and life time, and the children will also feel that they have received enough respect from their parents.
2. Pay more attention to accompanying children
During the holidays, parents’ companionship and participation are very important for energetic children to have a happy time. This kind of companionship is not simply a matter of time, but how parents meet their children's spiritual needs. If parents neglect to accompany their children and lack the time to share their happiness and troubles with them, it can easily lead to a sense of loneliness in their children.
3. Create a good family environment
People often say that environment shapes people. Parents should learn to control themselves in front of their children, pay attention to the details in life, and avoid keeping their mobile phones in their hands when eating, going to bed, going to the bathroom, etc. Especially when children are studying, don't let them see their parents' obsession with mobile phones. Parents' education for their children is often subtle. Parents should use mobile phones scientifically at home to create a good family environment for their children.
4. Cultivate a variety of interests
In fact, many times it is not that the games are fun, but that without mobile games, children feel that they have nothing to do.Parents do not need to worry too much about their children's obsession with mobile phones, but should take advantage of the situation to help their children develop interests and hobbies and enrich their children's spare time. Parents can let their children know that there are more beautiful and interesting things to do in this world by watching movies, playing ball, doing housework, and going camping together.
source/Provincial Women’s Federation Rights and Interests Department
editor/Chen Jiaying
proofreader/Zhang Ruobing
editor/Yan Caibin
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