Raising children is really like upgrading and fighting monsters. They develop new skills every day, which catches us parents off guard.
In the past half month, my son Youyou has been throwing things around when he doesn't like it. He is like a "devil". Before he was half a year old, my son was still well-behaved and obedient, but suddenly he seemed to be a different person. No, it was already nap time, but Youyou didn't cooperate at all and even threw away the toys he was playing with.
Seeing Youyou's performance, he immediately became angry and severely scolded him for picking up the toys and taking a nap obediently. As a result, Youyou started crying and making noises, and what should have been a harmonious lunch break turned into a frenzy.
I believe that many mothers have this experience. Their babies always throw things away. Most of the time, parents will think that this is the reason for their baby's bad temper and that they are too stubborn. But in fact, there is a reason why babies throw things around, but the mother has not discovered it yet.
Most of the reasons why babies throw things are the same.
1. A necessary journey of growth.
As the age increases, every baby will throw things, but the frequency and action of throwing are different. It is no exaggeration to say that throwing things is a skill that every baby must learn as they grow up, which shows that their ability to grasp and throw is getting stronger and stronger.
Don't underestimate the process of "throwing". It challenges the baby's ability and requires the cooperation of fingers, wrists, arms, brain and eyes to complete. Usually babies who "throw" things are over eight months old.
2. Vent your bad emotions
feels particularly unhappy at this time, but suffers from not being able to speak or expressing clearly, so what should I do? Babies will throw things away, even if they are things they like very much, they will throw them away without hesitation. In the final analysis, I just want to vent my bad emotions at this time.
At the same time, he also hopes to get the attention of his parents through the behavior of "throwing" things. Babies are very smart, and they want to get their parents' attention, which is a bit "threatening" and "testing".
3. Just think it’s fun
There is also a type of babies who are at the peak of exploration and find throwing things fun. Of course, only for babies whose parents are willing to play with them. No matter how much they throw things, they will not be scolded or punished by their parents, but they will "throw" with them.
When babies throw things, they will observe the direction and sound of the objects landing, and feel the differences between different objects. What their parents consider boring, they actually enjoy and find it very interesting.
I really can’t believe that there is a secret behind the baby throwing things. At this moment, I regretted my previous reprimands and punishments. If I had more understanding, there might not have been such a chaotic situation. Even if babies are very young, they still long to be understood and respected, and they also want to receive more care.
When parents see their babies throwing things, they must calm down first and learn to see the essence through the appearance. observes why the baby does this, whether it is fun, unhappy, or other reasons. Only in this way can we find the best educational method to help them change their littering behavior.
If the baby is simply curious or finds it fun
The baby does not show any unhappiness, but enjoys the whole process of "throwing" things. There is no need for parents to be angry, let alone punish.
Prepare some toys with high safety factor, such as balls, plush toys, cards, etc., play with your baby and feel the difference together.
With the participation of parents, babies will feel happier, which will have certain benefits for their hands-on ability, curiosity and exploration ability.
Losing temper or wanting attention
It is important to understand the baby first and see the problem from their perspective. It may be bad behavior in the eyes of parents, but the baby is just venting bad emotions, so it is important to read them. At this time, what the baby needs is parents' understanding, love, comfort and encouragement.
Secondly, you need to set "boundaries". In , babies can throw things, but they must pay attention to the boundaries. Not everything can be thrown away, only things that are safe and will not cause damage can be thrown away. From the beginning, tell your baby clearly that glass products and hard objects must not be thrown away.
Finally, we need to guide and communicate slowly. After the baby's bad emotions are completely released, parents should guide them in good faith and slowly adjust their behavior to avoid the same thing happening in the future. For things that have no principles and bottom line, parents can give certain punishments, but it will never be beating or scolding.
’s warm advice to all parents:
In the process of educating and accompanying their babies, parents must maintain the greatest patience and empathy. For their bad behavior, parents should say "no" kindly and firmly, and not condone it from the beginning. Naturally, they will not be able to develop bad habits.
From an early age, babies must be taught to recognize different emotions and vent negative emotions, which is beneficial to their physical and mental health. But the premise is that you must choose the right way to vent, such as painting, talking and playing with building blocks.
is written at the end: Regarding the matter of babies throwing things, parents should treat it rationally and never kill the baby's curiosity and hands-on ability due to one-sided ideas. But don’t let pampering lead to their bad habits.
