There is a saying circulating on the Internet: "Looking down from the 20th floor, all you see is beautiful scenery. Looking down from the 2nd floor, all you see is garbage."
Whether a person's life is successful or not depends on his Is there any height in life?
The height of a child’s life mostly comes from his father’s pattern. Only when a father has a big picture can his children develop better and stand taller. The father's overall structure is the most important real estate in a family, and it is also the ceiling for children's growth.
If the father's pattern is not big enough, the child's development will also be severely restricted. And if the father's pattern is great, then "everything is possible" for the child's future.
The father's overall pattern is the "ceiling" of the child, which affects the child's future achievements.
The father's overall pattern affects the entire family.
During the fifth generation period, there was a father named Dou Yanshan. He paid great attention to his children. His education was such that all his sons became famous in the imperial examinations, and eight of his grandchildren also achieved great success.
Under the influence of Dou Yanshan, the whole family has always lived in harmony and happiness.
During the Five Dynasties period, people's general thinking was not to educate their children, but Dou Yanshan did not "follow the crowd", but strengthened his belief in educating his children, and ultimately educated his descendants extremely well.
The most famous godfather in modern times should be Cai Xiaowan .
When Cai Xiaowan had children, the surrounding educational environment was not good. At that time, the saying "reading is useless" was widely popular across the country. It was believed that reading was a waste of time. People who read could not carry it on their shoulders and could not lift it. In an era where labor was the mainstay, it was simply "waste".
However, Cai Xiaowan does not see it that way. He believes that knowledge is power. Children must not only be in good health, but also need a deep knowledge base.
Therefore, Cai Xiaowan paid great attention to the cultivation of his children. Although a family of eight people lived in a shabby house of more than 30 square meters at that time, and although Cai Xiaowan was only a clinic doctor with a meager income, he still insisted on his desire to educate his children. .
In Cai Xiaowan’s home, portraits of celebrities are posted everywhere, and he often tells celebrity stories to his children to help them establish a positive ambition from an early age.
Every night, while other families are having fun and relaxing, Cai Xiaowan takes her children to read and study together.
However, Cai Xiaowan is not a nerd, and he does not want to train his children to be nerds, so he often takes his children to travel around to let them gain knowledge, expand their horizons, improve their knowledge, and enhance their structure and thinking. high.
In this way, he kept insisting. In the end, among his 6 children, a total of 5 doctors and 1 master were awarded.
Cai Xiaowan said: People's intelligence levels are almost the same, and what really makes people successful are factors other than intelligence.
His big picture not only made his six children successful, but also influenced his grandchildren.
Perhaps this is what people often say: although the father's pattern cannot be seen, it can penetrate into the bones and blood of the family's descendants and become an invisible bond, affecting the development of the entire family.
The size of the father's structure determines the direction of the family.
As the saying goes: "The man is the leader outside, and the woman is the leader inside."
Jia Rongtao believed in this traditional concept from the beginning, believing that a man should go out to make money to support his family, and the education of his children should be left to his wife and school "in the Lord".
He once felt that this was the best arrangement. Under such an arrangement, his family would definitely move towards happiness.
However, the development of the facts was completely beyond his expectation.
When he was working hard, he found that his children's grades continued to decline. He believed that his wife and the school could restore his child's performance, but unfortunately, after a period of time, his child's performance not only did not improve, but he became addicted to online games, participated in many group fights at school, and was even punished. Severe criticism from the school.
Faced with this situation, Jia Rongtao was very angry, which led to many conflicts with his children.
In addition, Jia Rongtao was also very dissatisfied with his wife's behavior in raising children. He had many emotional crises with his wife, and even almost divorced in severe cases.
The family atmosphere in which his son was not taught and his wife did not join hands made Jia Rongtao question him, so Jia Rongtao began to reflect on himself.
It turned out that it was not entirely the wife's fault, nor the children's fault, nor the school's fault, but himself. I only focused on "mainly and outside the family", but ignored one thing: the wrong way to teach my children.
"The career can be revived, but the growth of the child cannot be delayed." Jia Rongtao finally understood the importance of educating his children.
So he resolutely closed his factory and focused on studying with his children.
Moreover, in order to make up for his shortcomings in educating his children, in the next two years, he read more than 200 books that were helpful to his tutoring philosophy, and wrote more than 800,000 words. Notes and experiences , record down the key points of educating your children, and "examine yourself three times" every day to see whether your parenting behavior is worthy of improvement, etc.
In the end, Jia Rongtao's pattern has been greatly improved , and under the influence of Jia Rontao's overall pattern, the family has returned to happiness and harmony. In an instant, almost any family problems are no longer a problem for Jia Rontao.
For example, if a child is addicted to games, Jia Rongtao does not criticize or scold him like before, but helps the child develop healthy hobbies and allows the child to actively divert his attention.
Under Jia Rongtao's influence, the children's grades have been constantly rising. In the end, the children who had always been unsatisfactory in their studies were admitted to a key university.
And his children were deeply influenced by Jia Rongtao, and even became family educators like their father after graduation.
It can be seen that the father's pattern determines the direction of the family and the future of the child.
Conclusion
If a family has a father with a big pattern to lead the way, the whole family will get better and better. I hope parents all over the world will open up their own patterns, so that all members of the whole family can be nourished and gain more beautiful futures. .
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