There must be a positive motivation behind the behavior.
This sentence often comes to mind, and it also allows me to see the "motivation".
In the past year or so, my son said that he really hates attending interest classes. He rarely attended them since he was a child. Last year, he signed up for a phonetic alphabet class, but after the class ended, he still couldn't do it, so he got very angry...
This last behavior was... A "barrier" is formed in the child's heart. Every time he is asked if he wants to play ball? Whether he wanted to play badminton or not was rejected by his son one by one. I did not ask why.
Recently, my son himself told the reason. I hate interest classes. I was scolded by my father that year...
It turns out that this is the positive motivation behind the child's behavior. He feels that as long as he doesn't go, he will not be scolded and will not make the same mistakes again. This is his As a self-protective behavior, he keeps himself in his comfort zone.
Sometimes we discover children's "positive motivations" during chats. There must be unknown "secrets" behind all the reasons, and you need further communication to find out.
I learned a lot of things, but they “failed” when I used them. The effect of my native family on me played a “subversive” role. I have always wanted to change this status quo, and I have been moving towards this. Efforts in the direction.
future, come on!
(1004th day of daily improvement)
