This article is the original work of Koi Mommy
The full opening of the second-child policy can be said to have set off a great upsurge, and the heat has dropped. Afterwards, the feedback received was shocking. Those who gave birth to second births were not the young families born in the 80s and 90s as we expected. On the contrary, there were many second-born women born in the 70s and even 60s.
Calculated by age, it can be considered a proper elderly woman. And among this group of people, a large part of them are trying to make up for their children. Obviously, it is more because the first child is a daughter and wants to have another son.
But giving birth is never a simple matter, and the birth risk of older women is even more difficult to predict. Therefore, you must always pay attention to the doctor's advice and on-time check-ups.
Older parturients insist on having a second child, but the child was born, but it became a pain for the whole family
Two days ago, I was catching up with a good friend, Xinzi, who had a rare rest --- the obstetrician is usually busy. Handover. The two of us made an appointment to go shopping together for dinner. We talked about the second child during the meal, which caused Xinzi to spit at me.
A few days ago, their department received a 46-year-old aunt of an elderly parturient. This aunt has tossed them hard enough.
Auntie comes from the surrounding suburbs and counties. She is also considered a wealthy family in the local area. She has a daughter who has just graduated from college. Although the daughter is very good and the couple also like her, but in rural areas, people still prefer sons to daughters. Very serious.
Although the old couple is not "preferring to women", the idea of "valuing men" is not weak.
Since the country has fully liberalized the two-child policy, the old couple are just about to move, thinking about having a second child and having a son is best. At first, the daughter was very opposed to it. The child is against the second child completely out of the mother's health.
Unexpectedly, this move was misunderstood by the parents. Every time I did ideological work, my daughter was at a loss. Later, the child simply wanted to open it, so he stopped stopping. I just talked to my parents about the risks of elder mothers in detail, and told my mother to follow the doctor's advice on time.
As a result, everything went well. It didn't take long for the 46-year-old aunt to become pregnant. When I went to check, all the indicators were good.
After more than four months, the aunt began to do various detailed examinations of the fetus. The results of the examination were not very satisfactory, and the baby was at great risk of deformity. After
, when the aunt is five months pregnant, the doctor can basically confirm that the child has limb deformities, and recommends not to give birth to the child.
As a result, the problem came at this time. Auntie didn’t know how to find out the gender of the fetus in her abdomen a while ago. She was definitely a boy. This was the result that auntie dreamed of, but now she suddenly told her that there is a deformity, so it is not recommended. Sheng, the aunt can't accept it.
Thinking about it again and again, the aunt still didn't listen to the doctor, nor did she dare to tell the doctor's diagnosis advice to her family. She just insisted on giving birth to the child, and vowed to say she was ready to bear everything.
Five months later, the aunt gave birth to the child. As expected, the child's deformity was not only obvious, but also very serious. There were severe deformities in both the left leg and the right arm.
The result is even more weird. When the doctor reported the child to the aunt, the aunt was blindfolded. After looking at the child, she suddenly changed her face, "This It’s not my son, I don’t believe it! I won’t want him!” The doctor
was also angry when he saw the aunt’s attitude, “I told you that the child had a deformity at the beginning and advised you not to give birth. You must Don’t listen, now that the child is born, there is a deformity, but you say that the child is not yours. You don’t want it? Are you kidding? This is a life! Are you kidding about life!"
In the end, the aunt accepted the child, but the pain needs the whole family to bear, and the most unlucky is the child. In the future, he will face one operation after another.
"So what," Xinzi took a sip of the drink and continued with emotion, "The obstetric examination and compliance with the doctor's advice are very necessary. If the doctor tells you that the child is deformed or unsound, then it is probably true. Be sure to listen to the doctor’s advice, otherwise it’s not just the child who suffers.”
Then the question is, if you know that the child may be deformed, should you give birth?
This question is really difficult to answer, because it is not only related to reality, but also related to relationships, especially for the couple themselves, it is difficult to choose.
Pregnancy is not an easy task. It is easy to have your own flesh and blood, but you are told that it may be a deformed child. Be prepared to remove the child. It was a big blow for everyone.
But if you are really pregnant with a deformed child, don’t think about human relations anymore. The most important thing is to listen to the doctor’s advice. Don’t take any chances, because once the risk of deformity is found, there is a high chance that a child will be born. There is a deformity.
But some children with deformities are relatively mild, or the deformed parts have little impact on life, such as Li Yapeng and Faye Wong’s daughter Li Yan, who is born with cleft lip and palate. This deformity can be restored to the greatest extent through acquired surgery. Such a child can still be considered for giving birth, after all, it is a fresh life.
But if the situation is serious, such as the child of the aunt mentioned above, the limbs are severely deformed, or the internal organs are severely deformed, the parents should choose to give up, otherwise the child will face one after another after the birth Surgery, and the pressure that many ordinary people will not bear, it is better not to let him come here to suffer.
can't give birth to a child without hesitation because of his own selfish desires, the so-called love of children, reluctance to bear the flesh, etc., so that he will suffer a circle of pain in the world.
What issues should be paid attention to after pregnant women with high collars?
1. Folic acid needs to be supplemented before pregnancy
Folic acid must be supplemented in time during pregnancy. Folic acid has a very significant effect on preventing fetal neural tube malformations, so it is necessary to supplement folic acid before pregnancy.
After pregnancy, folic acid also needs to continue to be taken, until about 12 weeks of pregnancy, folic acid can not be stopped, which can prevent the fetal malformation to the greatest extent.
2, on-time check-up
Pregnancy check-up is very necessary, don’t think it’s not a matter of your own health, think that the child will give birth to full-term delivery, this is very Misunderstandings, especially for advanced-age women, have higher and higher risks than those of school-age women. Therefore, the obstetric examination is very important.
Obstetrics can not only understand the health of the fetus, but also understand the development of the fetus. Pregnant women can take relevant measures according to the actual situation, such as targeted nutrition intake, which can better ensure the health of the fetus.
In short, pregnancy check-up is a very important process. Pregnant women must pay enough attention to it. It is the most important thing for older women.
3. Don’t take medicine casually
As the saying goes, “the drug is three-point poison”, and different drugs will more or less have a negative impact on the human body, especially pregnant women, one person Taking medicine is equivalent to two people's absorption.
During pregnancy, some pregnant women will listen to some remedies and take a strange medicine at random, saying that it is good for the fetus, or if they have a "headache", just pick it up. Eat as soon as you come, regardless of the fetus in the belly.
This kind of behavior is very dangerous. Eating drugs indiscriminately will not only cause endocrine disorders in the pregnant women themselves, but also cause various problems. In severe cases, they will also affect the health of the fetus.
Therefore, if pregnant women need to take medicines during pregnancy, they must consult a doctor, follow the doctor’s instructions to use them, and do not take any medicine at will.
Therefore, if a pregnant mother becomes ill during pregnancy, she must take the medicine according to the doctor's guidance, and must not use medicine randomly.
4. Pay attention to rest and rest during pregnancy
Pregnant women belong to a special group, and older pregnant women are even more special in special groups. Compared with pregnant women of right age, older pregnant women will undoubtedly face more pressure At the same time, due to physical reasons, pregnant women of advanced age are obviously more fatigued than pregnant women of proper age.
So during pregnancy, it is necessary to ensure adequate sleep and regular work and rest time. This is not only for your own sake, but also for the health of the fetus.
In today’s society, there are many families with late marriages and late childbearing, and it’s not uncommon for older women to give birth. No one ever said that older women can’t have children, just compared to middle-age women. , The risk is obviously higher.
But then again, if the elderly women can follow the doctor's guidance and advice, it will not be difficult for the remaining healthy babies to survive smoothly.
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