When you turned around to drink water, the child soiled the floor that had just been mopped up. You couldn't help but yell, "Didn't you tell you, don't let you move, wait until the ground is dry, and then come out of the house?" ”
When you teach children to learn, it is very simple 9-3=? , The child dangled for three minutes, but I didn’t count it, and you shouted again, "Isn’t it almost a semester to learn, how come you don’t? Stop learning, you are stupid at home?"
has recently become popular on the Internet. Not only do you want to scream, but also make new tricks, what rulers, and what punishments. They have been invented by "intentional" parents. They have also made videos and posted them on the Internet. Think about it. This kind of behavior, educating children is false, attracting attention, and walking traffic is true.
Hurry, it's really useless except to vent your emotions and show your parent's status. When scolding a child, have you noticed that the louder the voice, the louder the child’s voice will be? This kind of battle between parents and children can only end when one of the two parties is exhausted.
Why is this happening? Scientific experiments have shown that: when the sender’s voice is higher, the receiver’s voice will be higher; the sender’s voice will be lower, and the receiver’s voice will be lower.
This experiment tells us that when the two sides are in a state of opposition or intense emotions,The low voice of one party helps to reduce the other party's volume, thereby alleviating the opposition between the two parties. In psychology this is called the "whispering effect".
This kind of effect tells parents the truth is: reason is not loud, and loud voice is not the last word! Parents should persuade others with morality and persuade others with reason.
Studies have also shown that when parents criticize their children, it is better to use a lower voice than a higher voice, and the more you criticize and reprimand the topic, the less you use it. In terms of the tones, the effect is better.
Tongtong’s mother took her to her aunt’s house one day as a guest. Tongtong was pretty good at first, but after a while, she started playing and making fun in her aunt's bed. Seeing this, Tongtong’s mother didn’t get angry, but walked up to her and said in her ear with a voice that only Tongtong could hear: “Do you think it’s a good thing to play on someone’s bed without permission?
Mother’s voice is very soft, with a kind smile on her face, but Tongtong hears her mother’s displeasure and sternness. So he obediently kept quiet.
This example embodies the role of the "low sound effect". In family education, there are many advantages of lowering the pitch and lowering the voice of education.
helps alleviate conflicts
As mentioned at the beginning,If you blindly reprimand your children and blatantly criticize them, you will often not achieve the purpose of educating your children. On the contrary, you will intensify the relationship between you and your children and escalate the conflict.
's loud reprimand, in exchange for the child's loud resistance, or the child's silence, but the child still went his own way afterwards. I don’t think every parent would like to see the results of this kind of education.
Therefore, in the face of children's crying and disobedience, parents must first remain calm and rational in order to solve problems rationally with their children.
helps the child to concentrate
Every sentence that your child needs to listen carefully, to remember every other action carefully, to remember Respond accordingly.
So at this time they will concentrate on listening to what you are saying, because your voice is different from usual and it is much lower than usual.
Children are more receptive
The tone is softened,This means that you do not intend to scold him, so as to avoid arousing the tension of the child. You want to have a long conversation with him, and you respect his emotions and wishes.
can also make children feel that you are sane, and what you say is very convincing.
Children are naughty, crying, and disobedient. Only by solving the fundamental problem can we avoid repeating crimes, scolding, and hoarse children. There is no benefit to educating good children. It will only intensify contradictions. On the contrary, the gentle tone and soft voice make children more willing to listen.
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