The students asked: Good evening, everyone! There is something I want to consult with everyone. I don’t know why during this period of time, my children will arouse anger every day, and my heart cannot be calmed for a long time. In the past few days, the child even said that he wanted to kill me when he was angry. I don’t know how to educate the child. Do you have any good methods?
Lris: You just don’t want to express the meaning of "killing a child" in the world, she doesn’t really understand it in her eyes. Let her be dissatisfied and angry!
Don't worry, let's not let ourselves go astray by this kind of helplessness and anger, and communicate with our children slowly, believing that everything will be fine, because everything is flowing!
Cao Yang: I can feel that you are sad and helpless. It is not easy to raise a child. Most parents put a lot of love for their children and do their best to treat their children well. When they receive some intense negative feedback from their children, they must be very hurt in their hearts.
Our problem is,It’s also the first time that we are parents. We rushed into battle without any parental training. We lacked systematic guidance and "worked" only by the instinct of love. And only loves, there is no way, yes not enough.
I feel helpless because I don’t know the method and path, and you are already on this road. Many courses in the training camp are related to parent-child education. You can also find books on education. There is a way to learn.
I don't know your specific situation, but everyone should have an experience- People tend to get angry with close people!
The root of the child's anger may not be because of his mother, but because the mother is the closest, he lay down the gun.
Like once, my son was let off by his good friend. He cried at home and complained that I didn’t help him communicate with his good friend’s mother. He cried and beat me. At that time, he didn't hate me, but couldn't control his sad emotions. So don't worry, take your time and let the child calm down by himself may be a good choice.
Mingcong: Yes,The child does not know the meaning of the word "kill".
what the child thought of at the time is probably:
"I feel pain, and I want to release the attack to let the world know that I am suffering. The psychological environment my mother brings to me. It's safer and won't really hurt me because I release the attack. Therefore, I choose to release it to my mother. "That's it.
So we see, this incident is probably just a very small mood swing for children, and it will be fine after it has passed, and we don't need to take it to heart.
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* Author: lris, Cao Yang Ming Cong
*Edit: Panpan
, who loves taro mash.
