ask everyone a question: In your mind, how magical is the child's brain circuit?
I think we must all feel this way when we are parents. When we talk to children in A thinking, the child may receive a completely different B thinking.
This kind of asymmetry, it is not an exaggeration to describe it as "playing the piano with the cow" and "talking the chicken with the duck".
No, recently in Suzhou, Jiangsu, a lady surnamed Zhao encountered this situation.
Ms. Zhao's son is 11 years old this year. When he was tutoring the children with homework a few days ago, because he couldn't help it, he said angrily: After studying hard, he can only pick up trash.
I thought it was over after I said it, but I didn’t expect the child to be true and sincere. He really ran to the neighborhood to pick up trash with his parents behind his back. Ms. Zhao’s family was panicked when she found her son was missing. They called the police.
Fortunately, the conscientious police called on the surrounding surveillance and soon found the child. The child’s explanation was shocking: wanted to go out and experience picking up trash, and felt very hard.
There is a saying on the Internet: If you don’t do your homework, you will be kind and filial. I have to say that this is really imagery.
Actually, in my opinion, it's normal to be angry with the tutoring homework. In the eyes of parents, every child is excellent, but excellent does not mean a genius, and not all parents With the belief that “no learning can only be poorly taught”, they can seek suitable methods for their children.
Quit and think about it, maybe sometimes it’s normal for most people to jump around, maybe it’s even more of a kind of human smoke.
In many cases, parents really need to have a lot of determination to face this chaotic scene without being surprised.
ordinary people do,Celebrities are no exception. I remember that Yue Yunpeng posted on the Internet, saying that my daughter hadn't figured it out after 5 minutes of 9+7. She used her hands and feet together, and she smashed her fingers for a long time. It really made the father Yue Yunpeng about to collapse.
In addition to him, Andy Lau , Liu Tao , Cheng Lisha have also experienced mental collapse due to tutoring their children.
Let me talk about my two feelings.
One, there is no problem with the child's thinking.
After experiencing the hard work of picking up trash, I realized the importance of serious study. Imagine that when I was a child in the countryside, my parents brought us to the field to help with work because we were too naughty. Under the scorching sun and sweating like rain, you will understand that learning is not so hard. This kind of heartfelt touch is the most convincing.
I knew a little boy from my neighbor's family before. When he was in the second grade of junior high school, he felt that school was too boring and didn't want to go to school. Later, his mother used the summer vacation and asked him to work in a relative's factory for a month. When I came back, I said it was better to go to school. In the end, it seemed like a change of individual, and finally admitted to a key high school in a certain city in Shanghai.
Second, Ms. Zhao’s language method is a bit wrong.
Putting aside the possible dangers of children leaving home, it will also make children produce some kind of occupational discrimination in their hearts.
In this diversified society, occupations do not distinguish between high and low. Picking up garbage is also a kind of occupation. It is also a kind of occupation to live by one's own hard work. There is nothing to look down on, and it is also worthy of respect.
Therefore, I still hope that every parent can find the most suitable way of education for their children. Although it will be difficult, it will be worth it.
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