The meaning of parenting is not only to let children develop excellent habits and obtain good academic performance, but more importantly, let them know how to learn independently and correct themselves. With the development of early childhood education, preschool education and other industries, children have to start learning when they are very young. However, 's response from many parents is that this kind of high-intensity learning did not improve their children's performance, and even produced the opposite result.
In life, we find that is now showing more and more children in a very lazy and lazy state. With the development of the times, it has become commonplace to sleep until eight or nine o'clock in the morning, especially for those seven or eight years old. What we need to pay attention to is that children of this age should often have very vigorous energy, and they should explore the world independently, instead of living a lazy life.
In fact, the laziness of stems from the "thinking inertia" that children have developed since childhood, and with the development of the times, the problems caused by thinking inertness and the impact on children have become more and more serious. If this kind of inertia of thinking continues, it is very likely that children will lose the ability to think independently and solve problems, which is extremely detrimental to future learning and growth.
The reflection of lazy thinking in children's daily life
Do not love to use their brains
Do not love to use their brains, which is a very important manifestation of children's lazy thinking in life. For example, when a mother wants her child to sweep the floor, when the child walks to a place where she usually puts a broom. But if he didn't see the broom, he would immediately give up the idea of sweeping the floor, and the reason was that he didn't find the broom. In life, such things are not uncommon, but due to the inertia of thinking, children will not consider looking elsewhere.That is to say, we don't like to use our brains when we are doing things.
Strong dependence
Children with inert thinking tend to be more dependent on their parents in life. Such children often do not have the ability to face life independently. No matter what they do, they must rely on the help of their parents to do it. When the child is young, the parents may not realize the impact of this dependence. As the child grows older, the negative impact of the inertia of thinking on the child will gradually become prominent, and the gap between the child and the peers will also become apparent. Will get bigger and bigger.
Normal life is mediocre
In addition, children with inert thinking tend to be very mediocre in daily life. As we mentioned in the previous article, these children often sleep until late in the morning, because their brains are unwilling to think and even more unwilling to act. Therefore, the mental inertia gradually develops into the body. Of inertia. Over time, the children's experience is gradually lost in this inertia and becomes more and more scattered.
What are the reasons that cause children to develop lazy thinking?
Addicted to electronic products
With the development of the times, electronic products have become more and more popular, whether adults or children, have developed a very large dependence on electronic products such as mobile phones and computers. For children, once they are addicted to electronic products, they are likely to develop mental inertia. Because children's experiences have been exhausted in the virtual world, children in the real world are often unwilling to actively think and solve problems.
is often beaten and scolded by parents
In addition, being beaten and scolded frequently by parents is also an important reason for children's lazy thinking. Parents are too strong, which will make children feel insecure in life. They may not feel the love from their parents, so they are reluctant and dare not to explore the world independently. Over time, this fear becomes a habit, which makes children give up thinking.
Parent's spoiling
The most important and most influential cause of children's lazy thinking is that they come from their parents' spoiling. Nowadays, many families have only one child. Parents take care of the child in every possible way, doing everything for the child, for fear that the child will be harmed. Little do they know that this kind of care from parents will gradually make children lose the ability to solve problems independently, and become unwilling to think. Although many parents know that spoiling is wrong, they often fail to realize their spoiling of their children in normal times, so these problems are always invisibly caused by their children.
How can parents guide their children’s lazy thinking?
First of all, cultivate children's self-care ability
Now we have found that the biggest problem of many parents in the parenting process is that they neglect the cultivation of their children's self-care ability. Many things are done for the child, and even the future development direction is planned for the child. After all, the child is an independent individual. In the end, he also needs to face the world independently. Parents cannot always shield the child from the wind and rain. So cultivate children's self-care ability in advance,It is very important to prevent the occurrence of mental inertia.
Secondly, give children encouragement and support
Appropriate inertia is not born with children, and most children at the very beginning are often curious about the world and eager to go Explore the world. At this time, when the child is doing something seemingly childish, parents must not attack the child, give the child some encouragement and support, the child will be more willing to think and explore, and for the child, they are the most What is longing for is the encouragement and support from parents, which is the source of courage and sense of security when children are young.
Finally, we must believe in the abilities of children
Many parents think that children are naive no matter what they do, so when they say something, or do something, parents are a kind of rejection and doubt. manner. But in fact, we also have to believe in our children's abilities. Maybe some of them are wrong, but we have to give them the opportunity to do it. If the child does something wrong, we can correct it, but don't reject the child. Parents must believe in their children's abilities and give their children the opportunity to do things on their own. Only in this way can their children's abilities be exercised.
The author's message:
In short, in the process of parenting, our parents should pay attention to the cultivation of children's independent thinking ability. The ability to think independently and deal with problems independently is also useful to children for life, and how to properly cultivate and guide children's abilities and habits is a problem that parents need to think carefully. believes that if we use the right method and face the children with a patient and understanding attitude, the children will surely give their parents surprises.Will not let parents down.
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