The best education I understand
is to help every child
to find their own life value.
It is enough to do what you like and live the life you want. For life, each person, only himself, can be responsible for it. This is something that no one can replace, whether you are his father or mother.
What kind of education parents give to their children is actually what kind of person the parents expect their children to be and what kind of life they will live. As a parent, the way of education you give your children is a manifestation of your understanding of life. In layman's terms, what you think is the most precious thing for a person, you will involuntarily expect your child to get it.
01 Which way to choose to spend your life
Parents often say, "I want to educate and educate children"; there are also parents who will discuss, "Which kind of education is suitable for our children"; Experts and scholars said, "Education is the key to open everyone's life." So, what exactly is education? Education, how can children learn knowledge better or grow up better?
Education is life; life is the way to live, which is what we often say, the way of life. However, the lifestyle here is actually lighter. Education as I understand it should be called: the way of life. Just choose which way to spend your life.
The most precious thing in life is not the result, but the process. The most exciting thing about life is that everyone can spend his life in his own way.
When this method is suitable for this life, you will find that this life is full of vitality and passion—different from external judgment standards. Only the subject of life, that is, this person will know this feeling.
For example, there is a kind of people whose nature is kind and compassionate. They feel that they can help others, which is the greatest manifestation of their own life value. For example, Mother Teresa, Mahatma Gandhi ; there is another kind of person,Passionate about creation and creativity, and love to use commercial innovation to influence and change social processes and lifestyles, such as Apple’s Jobs and Virgin’s Branson; of course there are also those who love to think, become scholars, love adventure, and become adventurers. Home, love to study, become an inventor...
And there are as many ways of life as there are people on this earth. Some coincidences and sufficient performance have become the target of everyone's attention, and more, they will spend their lives in their own way. But, in essence, there is no difference. The best education I understand is to help every child find his own life value. It's enough to do what you like and live the life you want.
If what he did is helpful to the society, that would be great, if not, it doesn’t matter; if he lives a healthy and happy life, then it’s perfect, if not, As long as it doesn't affect others, it doesn't matter.
Because, for life, each person, only himself, can be responsible for it. This is something that no one can replace, whether you are his father or mother.
The child is thirsty, hungry, sad, happy, only he knows. In the same way, only he himself knows what is needed most in a child's life. Only he knows which way of life is most suitable for him.
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Which kind of education you choose is derived from your own values
As a parent, the way of education you give your children reflects your understanding of life. In layman's terms, what you think is the most precious thing for a person, you will involuntarily expect your child to get it.
For example, if you think that the most precious thing for a person is peace and success, you will tell your children not to take risks and struggle, as long as they are healthy and healthy; if you think that the most precious thing for a person is personality and freedom, you It will encourage children to do what they want to do, not be restricted by any rules and systems, and pursue their own lives. However, in real life, there are often two ways of comparison.
one kind,I have spent my life like this, and I am very satisfied with myself, then I will teach you such precious life experience.
Another kind is the life that I have not lived through. I regret and regret it now. I feel that if that is the case, I will be very happy. Then I will tell you that you should learn what I have not learned and live and My life is different.
There is nothing wrong in itself. They are all manifestations of love, and they are also the most simple and basic manifestations in the continuation of life. However, this approach cannot be too extreme. Once it goes to extremes and violates the child's own development demands, it is a bad education.
03 Either way, please respect the inner nature of every child
Every child has something inherent in his own life. Scientists call it genes, philosophers call it talent, and religious people. Call it destiny. I don't know exactly what this should be called, so I might as well call it "inner" in general.
Every child has his own inner life. Moreover, the inside of each child is different. This kind of internality is divided into two types, one is character quality and the other is talent skills.
In terms of character quality, most of them are reflected at birth. Anyone who has raised a child knows that even a child who has just been born has a different personality and temperament.
The most obvious is the brothers and sisters in a family. The same parents can feel at birth. Some children are very well-behaved, some are very domineering, some are sensitive, and some are self-willed. These are really what we often say "God is doomed", and it is difficult to change and reverse.
Moreover, what we call "character determines destiny" actually refers to this part. No matter what kind of education parents want to give their children, they must first consider this factor. Otherwise, there will be many conflicts and contradictions.
This part is the foundation of the child, so talents and skills are the branches that grow on it. This part is gradually presented as the child's physical growth, cognitive level, and knowledge learning changes. For example, some children have a lively personality, and as they begin to master language skills,He became a little actor, able to talk and act. Some children are calm by nature, and when they are able to get things at the beginning, they will think about it for a long time. When they are older, they have to study the internal structure.
In the same way, when we say "knowledge changes destiny", we mostly refer to this part. No matter what aspects parents want their children to have good development in, they must also consider this factor, which is the "talent" consistent with their children's behavior, conform, encourage, and develop it.
04 Today’s changes, tomorrow’s gains
As parents, every parent hopes that their children can live well. However, we were also surprised to find that our expectations for children are actually the source of our belief that children should improve.
That is to say, they are actually the same. When a child is daunting, he is likely to be serious and independent thinking; when a child is hyperactive, it is likely to be cultivating mobility and leadership.
What we expected and what we complained about is actually one thing! So, who is wrong, the child, or the parent?
I have always believed that "knowledge" should grow above "character" in order to form a unified "inner". With this unified internality, I don't care at all that a child watches Whitman 's poems in math class, or a child who loves mathematics never reads literary classics.
The ideal state is that every child has his own way of education. But is this possible? I think it is possible.
At home, parents should discover the inner nature of their children and give them an environment suitable for their development. In school, there is no standardized teaching, and each child is given more choices and more learning freedom.
If you do more, your child will benefit a lot from it. In fact, our schools, society and every family should actively work hard for personalized education.
So, please do more and don't care about other people's evaluations, because what you change is the fate of your own children.
Source: Beijiang Parent School
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