"Confinement" is a very important thing for women. If confinement is not done properly, it will be difficult for women to recover to a healthy state, and the root cause may fall.
Therefore, more and more women now attach importance to "confinement". During this period of time, women have a "high incidence" of conflicts with their mother-in-law. The two people have different ideas and different ideas, and they will collide in all aspects.
In terms of living habits, old people take care of their mothers based on their experience. This can’t be eaten, and that can’t be touched. Some mothers-in-law only let their daughter-in-law drink millet porridge and eat vegetables without any meat at all. Let eat. There are other mother-in-laws who cook according to their own preferences, regardless of their physical condition. Others are not allowed to eat a little salt.
If the daughter-in-law resists this kind of mother-in-law, she will feel that letting her take care of her mother-in-law is a crime. It is better to go to the confinement center or find the confinement, which will conflict with the mother-in-law in financial terms. These two methods are accepted by more and more people, but the older generations feel that they cannot accept them, especially those who come from hard times, they will feel that their daughter-in-law is hypocritical and spends money indiscriminately.
If a man cannot neutralize the conflict between his wife and mother,It is easy to cause big problems in marriage. If the mother-in-law shows a particularly selfish treatment, it will make the daughter-in-law cut off the idea of managing the marriage properly.
Fan Ning Ning told in a private message that she and her mother-in-law had deceived me for "confinement" and finally divorced. Such a family would not make sense to stay any longer.
The mother-in-law turned back and counted.
When Ningning was pregnant, she made plans for "confinement". Her mother is not in the local area, so it is difficult for her mother to put aside the things at home to take care of herself. Her husband Xiaobo is busy at work. I can't count on him either. Ning Ning asked her confinement wife early and wanted to make an appointment so that she could come, and everything would be fine.
But the mother-in-law showed up and wanted to take care of Ningning's confinement. After her mother-in-law came in, she talked about how experienced she is. Ning Ning did not refute, and asked her mother-in-law with a smile: "Which do you know what mothers should eat in the first few days after giving birth? And, what can breastfeed?"
The mother-in-law said: " has to eat meat during the few days after giving birth, eat trotters, ribs, and drink loofah soup with milk. crucian carp soup , I know all this, don't worry, as long as you give me 30,000 yuan, I will definitely let you sit on a five-star confinement. ”
Ning Ning understood it, her mother-in-law was here waiting for her. would cost RMB 10,000 for food for a month. That’s enough. The mother-in-law opened her mouth to get 30,000, can she grab the money?
Ningning said: " Mom, I’m afraid you’re too tired. No matter how tired you are, it is mine. "The mother-in-law wanted to see the specific situation of the concubine, Ning Ning did not think too much, so she asked her to read the information of the concubine, but she did not expect her mother-in-law would do that.
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The next day, Yuesao called and said, "Although you have cancelled my appointment, the reservation fee you paid cannot be refunded. I will check with you. "Ningning was puzzled and said, "I didn't cancel it. Who told you that I canceled it?" "At this time, the mother-in-law came in and said to her:" , you don’t need to tell her, hang up the phone, I canceled, I will take care of you, better than anyone else, watching your mother and son are safe, my grandson can be in vain Fatty, I am a little tired and happy. "The mother-in-law said again: "Do you think 30,000 is a bit too much? Tell me straight,20,000 yuan is also okay, then I can also take care of you better than Yuesao. "
Ning Ning was out of anger and said to her mother-in-law:" how can you do this? You have to ask me for permission at the very least. I think if our relationship wants to get along well, we should not get too close. You have your ideas and I have my requirements. It is really inappropriate for you to take care of me. ”
The mother-in-law said:“ is a family. You make outsiders not as good as me. As long as the money is in place, it will definitely meet your requirements. Mother-in-law and confinement are the same. ”
Seeing her mother-in-law’s attitude of “recognizing money but not people”, she was very uncomfortable, so she just said:" I always believe in professional people. Things are the best. The concubines that I spend money to find are all with professional qualifications, and they are scientific parenting. You don’t want to make this money anymore. It doesn’t matter if you refund the confinement. The price you opened is enough for me to live in the confinement center. It is easy to make an appointment there. I have made up my mind. What you say is useless! ”
Daughter-in-law divorced.
The mother-in-law snorted and left, until Ningning was about to give birth, the mother-in-law came again. The mother-in-law said: " , you can go to the confinement center, it is AA system with my son, your confinement money, your own expenses, you are responsible for yourself. ” Ning Ning did not expect My mother-in-law can be so bad, and what I didn't expect was that my husband didn't say anything, and I felt that it would be very wrong for me to stay in the confinement center rather than let my mother-in-law take care of it.
Ningning gritted his teeth and agreed. She felt that she would give birth smoothly first, after confinement, and protect her body. No matter how big things are, wait until this test is over.
Not long after, Ningning gave birth to a child, the mother and child were safe, and she was admitted to the confinement center smoothly. She was in a calm mood and was ready for divorce, but looking at such a small child, she still wanted to give his father a chance.
Sure enough, Xiaobo's heart melted when he saw the child. Besides, Ningning spent all the money, and Xiaobo couldn't feel anything. He came to see the child every day, and came to accompany Ningning and the child after work. Everyone said he was a good husband. After confinement, the relationship between Ningning and Xiaobo has eased due to the arrival of the child,But two people are still AA system.
A few months later, Ningning received a call from her mother-in-law, and said: " is specifically for your daughter-in-law. I have to cancel it. I have an operation, the doctor said 200,000 yuan, I don’t have that much money, and my son does not have that much money, so you can use it first.”
heard this, Ningning just said " good " and hung up the phone. Xiaobo came back in a hurry and said to her: "Give me your bank card quickly. The hospital waits for the payment." Ningning took out the divorce agreement and asked him to sign it.
Xiaobo said with a sullen face: "Life is a matter of life, do you have to fight with me now?" Ningning roared, " When I gave birth, didn't life matter? Does anyone give me a penny and worry about me? You can decide on the AA system, and you can cancel if you cancel it. How can there be such a cheap thing, since you only love your mother, then please live it and let me go And children. ”
finally divorced,Ningning didn't pay a cent, and left without a trace of nostalgia. After Xiaobo's mother got better, she knew that her son and daughter-in-law had divorced. She said to her son: "Get your daughter-in-law back. I don't want her. I didn't manage the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law." When Xiaobo went to Ningning Ningning lives very happily. She doesn't want to see Xiaobo. Even if she knows that her mother-in-law is born with this disease, her thoughts have really changed, she doesn't want to look back.
Don’t be too utilitarian between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
If everything can be measured by money, then things can become very simple. Family affection cannot be measured in this way, but from the heart, it is a kind of affection that cannot be given up.
The mother-in-law only thinks of profit, saying "how much you give, I can behave like this", this will make the daughter-in-law think that she is a "profit-only" person. It will be very chilling and feel that money is the first thing in the mother-in-law's heart, not relatives.
If you keep fighting each other and don't let the other side wish, the two sides are not willing to respect each other, then the war between the two people will intensify.
Men don’t think it’s a simple matter for a woman to give birth.I don't pay much attention to my wife's postpartum repairs, and feel that my wife is spending wrong money. Instead, we should understand in more detail what kind of care a woman needs after giving birth. Both physically and psychologically, we should allow the wife to have a process of adapting, so that she can feel as comfortable as possible.
No matter what choice the wife makes, a man must know how to respect and let his wife have a relaxed environment and a pleasant atmosphere. also try to let the elderly accept the ideas of the young. If there is a problem, the husband needs to solve it slowly instead of rudely denying the wife.
Today's topic:
How would you communicate with the "money-loving" mother-in-law?
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