Patience is a good quality. A patient person has a beginning and an end, and is more conscientious and meticulous. On the contrary, impatient people always do things halfway and do things sloppily. For children, their patience should be strengthened and cultivated the day after tomorrow, and parents should use good methods.
1, words and deeds are worse than teaching
Children's growth is a gradual process. But in real life, many parents are eager to succeed, and they are too anxious about their children's growth. You can even do a lot of behaviors that are not conducive to the healthy growth of children. This impatient behavior of parents. Leave a bad impression on the child and make the child feel intimidated and isolated from their parents. There is also a sense of escapism and boredom from learning. As a qualified parent, you must be patient with your child. How to be a patient parent? First, parents need to lead by example. Set an example for children in daily life Children are like a blank sheet of paper, parents are the closest people to children. Their every move will also be deeply engraved on this white paper. Parents should pay attention to their words and deeds and strive to be educated people. As a educated parent, you have the conditions for self-control and do not put negative emotions in front of your children. Learn to be respectful, honest, tolerant, communicate with your children, and make rules that children are expected to follow each other. Second, be patient with children. As a role model for children, I am also impatient, how to educate children? Children will encounter many problems along the way. When children encounter difficulties and mistakes. What parents have to do is not to blindly blame their children. To help him analyze the problem and find the root cause of the error. To face and correct together. Only in this way can children grow up happily in a good environment and become independent and responsible people when they grow up.
2, consciously defer.
Nowadays, children in many families are treasures in the eyes of their parents. Whatever the children ask for, the parents will do their best to satisfy them. But it is not a good thing to meet the demands of children without limit. In this "instant gratification," the child's personality is impatient, willful, impatient, and prone to self-centeredness. Can not feel the hard work of others, can not understand the efforts of others. In the future, work can only rely on interest and ease, without beginning and end. Parents should learn to delay gratification. When a child makes a request, first of all, don't meet the child's request immediately, but let the child learn to wait and accept conditionally in a gradual manner. Postponing gratification is not only good for children's education, but also for their psychological growth. Many tests have shown that children can let go of the temptation in front of them, and that children who are "patient" are more likely to succeed than children who cannot stand temptation. (William Shakespeare, Patience, Patience, Patience, Patience. Through your own efforts, you can get what you want, so that children can better feel the dedication of their parents and learn to think about their parents. The good habit of delaying gratification should be cultivated from an early age.
As a parent, you should do these two things. First, have a firm attitude. You can't always meet your child's wishes, and you can't compromise because of your child's crying. Second, learn to make demands on your child on appropriate terms In exchange. When the child has needs, the mother can also ask the child. For example, today, the mother needs you to read a little story carefully, the mother needs you to help clean the floor, or sit down to eat and other conditions. (David Asher) , Northern Executive Force). As long as the child completes, one of the children's requirements can be met. However, it is necessary to explain to the child that it cannot be sloppy, and it cannot be abandoned halfway. It is necessary to teach the children to persevere to the end, and hard work can be rewarded.
3. Set up obstacles for children
Due to the protection of their parents, many children walk smoothly since childhood, but they are overwhelmed when they encounter difficulties and cannot stand the test of wind and waves. (a family). Parents should realize that it is necessary to set "wind and waves" for their children to make them more courageous and enterprising when they encounter difficulties. But the storms here are not tasks that children can't accomplish through hard work, but small "obstacles" in daily life that children can overcome through their own efforts. On weekends, many parents choose to take their children to climb mountains or play in the countryside, which is a good time to teach. When the child is tired on the way up the mountain and does not want to leave.
Parents must learn to reject their children on the one hand, and encourage their children "you can do it", "you are great, just stick with it for a while and you will reach your destination". Children can only improve their stamina if they persevere on their own. Set up barriers according to the age of the child, and ask the child to fold the quilt when they get up in the morning. Or let the kids wash the dishes after dinner, play chess, change the rules of the game, give the kids some puzzles, and let them learn to use their brains to solve problems. Scheduling children to read biographies of great people doesn't help children grow up either. By reading the stories of great men. Teach the children what attitudes we should take when faced with difficulties and setbacks, and how we can overcome them through our own efforts.
