A few days ago, my friend asked me anxiously for help. My friend has a 3-year-old son. That afternoon, I watched my son take a nap and went into the room to check. I didn’t expect to see my son awake, sitting on the bed and playing with his little cock. When he saw his friend came in, he said to his friend, "Mom, it’s so comfortable to touch the little cock." The friend didn’t know how to talk to his son for a while. Explain, so I had to ask me for help.
There are actually a lot of problems like this in life. Before, another friend looked to me with a distressed look. The reason was that I saw many 4-year-old sons taking pictures of his own little dick in my mobile phone album. My friend even thought that his son had to take the child to the hospital for examination.
Actually, this is a phenomenon that every child will grow up. For a period of time, the child will obviously show curiosity about sex, and there may even be something that is not good to the parent. behavior. This is actually the child entering a sensitive period of sex education. If parents do not handle these sensitive situations properly, or choose to ignore them, it is likely to have an impact on the child's future psychology. After all, if children can't get answers from their parents and explore on their own, the consequences will be unimaginable.
So, what should parents do in the face of children's sensitive period of sex education?
1. The importance of sex education
Sex education is not only about sex education, but it also includes children's understanding of their own body, reproductive health and hygiene, gender cognition, and sexual behavior between people In many aspects such as physiology, psychology, and society, it aims to allow children to establish correct understanding and concepts in sexual relations and intimacy behaviors.
Research shows that sex education can enable children and young people to acquire accurate and age-appropriate knowledge, attitudes and skills, and establish positive values. The growth process of a child is a process of continuous exploration of oneself and others. If in the child’s exploration process,Failure to get the correct guidance in time is likely to have an impact on the child's growth.
Second, the performance of different age sensitivity
1. Explore the sensitive period of the body
slowly learn to control your own body from 6 months to 2 years old , Learn to sit and so on. Parents usually pay attention to observation and it is not difficult to find that children are very curious about their bodies at this time. I like to touch my feet, genitals, etc. unconsciously. After children learn to speak, they will also actively ask their parents about their private parts. At this time, if the parents directly scold and stop the child’s behavior, or vaguely address the child’s problem, it will be in the child’s The seeds of curiosity were planted in my heart.
Faced with children’s problems, parents should answer the children’s questions naturally and positively, guide the children to understand their own body, introduce the private parts to the children, and let the children understand that the reproductive organs and our hands, feet, heads, etc. are all part of the body , They each have different functions.
2. Gender sensitivity
When children reach the age of 2 to 3, they will start to have a strong curiosity about gender, and they will start to be curious about the physical differences of the opposite sex. Why are fathers and mothers different. At this time, parents can use some picture books, pictures, videos, etc. to satisfy their children's curiosity, and at the same time tell them objectively and truthfully about the gender differences between men and women.
Then children may have obvious changes in gender. They like to talk about their boys and girls, boys are strong, girls can wear beautiful skirts, etc. Parents should use this Timing helps children build correct gender perception.
3. Where do I come from?
Children aged 3~4 have increased self-awareness,I started to wonder where I came from, and I often asked my parents: "How did I come, mom?" Some parents either avoid talking or just perfunctorily tell their children "picked up in the trash" and "given at the top of the phone bill". These are the answers we get from our parents.
As everyone knows, such an answer will hurt the child's psychology, and for sensitive children, it will undoubtedly increase the child's inner desire and worry for love. In the face of children’s questions, parents can tell their children that he is the crystallization of the love between father and mother, father sows a seed of love in mother’s belly, you grow up in mother’s belly day by day, and the big mother’s belly can’t hold it. Yes, you will come out. You can also use relevant picture books and materials to help your children understand this process.
4. Marriage sensitive period
4~5 years old, it enters the sensitive period of marriage, and often say some things that make parents laugh or cry, such as "Mom is my wife", "Grow up I want to marry dad" Wait. When faced with the children’s words, parents don’t have to be overly surprised or laugh at the children. The children actually don’t have a concept of marriage. This is just a manifestation of their children’s love.
Parents can give their children free imagination. Parents’ love and a good family atmosphere are conducive to their children’s understanding of marriage. Use this period to help children understand the composition of the family, the relationship between family members, and the different division of labor among family members. As the children grow up, they will gradually understand that marriage is the union of two people who love each other, and learn to support each other and love each other.
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