Do you chat with your children every night before going to bed? How to give children the correct guidance? How do you ask children questions?
According to a study by the University of California, a study by the University of California shows:
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The research results also show that even if "parents speak unilaterally to children" or let children who do not know how to speak can also help improve children's language skills.
psychologist He Lingfeng once said: "Talking more about'nonsense' with children is the most important ability to be a parent." It is important to educate children to listen and talk.
Only by listening more with your ears and talking with your children more attentively can parents truly enter the heart of their children, clear the weeds from their hearts, and sow the seeds of love and sunshine. Behind
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There is a good saying in ,The mouth of a parent determines the fate of a child. Parents who know a lot about chatting with their children can achieve a better life for their children.
from Massachusetts Institute of Technology jointly organized this new project of the University of Pennsylvania, Harvard University and Pennsylvania.
They studied more than 30 children aged 4 to 6 years old in the Boston area. They scanned their brain activities while listening to stories, and reviewed the recordings of children interacting with their parents at home.
They found that the more frequently children talk to their parents, the stronger the activity in language-related areas of their brains. No matter how much family income, parents’ education level, all prove this point.
That is to say, wealthy children who talk less have poor language ability and brain response, and the results are worse than poor children; and poor children have the same brain response when they talk more. it is good.
Moreover, brain activity has nothing to do with how many words a child hears, but it strongly correlates with the number of conversations.Children who talk to their parents more often get better scores in subsequent standardized tests.
Fang Li, the author of "I Send 3 Children to Harvard", mentioned that when her daughter was in grades 11 and 12, she would think about what she would like to say to her daughter every day before leaving get off work and go home If you talk to your daughter for 5 minutes during your meal time, no matter how busy you are, you will never stop.
Over time, the relationship between my daughter and her has not only become closer, but also more confident and optimistic, and can quickly overcome learning difficulties and enjoy the joy of learning.
The entrance to Harvard is a manifestation of their learning ability. This is precisely because they have obtained the ability to learn happily and love learning in a good parent-child relationship.
Therefore, parents must consciously talk to their children more in their childhood, use all the time to chat with their children, and fully ensure close communication with their children.
The development of an excellent child does not depend on whether the family is rich or poor, or how many tutoring classes and interest classes they enroll in; it is that they can speak rich and full of words from the moment they are born. The positive energy of the family environment has been subtly nurtured. The best time to
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before going to bed is suitable for chatting
modern family couples are generally " double income mode",Sometimes a good employee with a score of 100 in the job position may not be achieved in the parent position.
Do we really have no time to spend time with children? Actually, the best time is before going to bed at night.
On the one hand, the night is a time period when people are more sensual, and on the other hand, the child himself has the desire to talk and is just waiting for your listening.
Before going to bed, parents need to learn to be a qualified "listener". Remember to ask less complicated and difficult questions, and the first step in chatting with your child is to let the child express himself.
In the process of chatting, not only can we listen to children's demands, but also increase the trust of our parents in our children.
If you as a parent don’t know what to talk to your child, you might as well ask these 4 categories to communicate:
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Parents can talk to their children about what happened today and try not to talk about them in general.
"Are you having fun today?" "Happy!"
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"What did you play in kindergarten today?"
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"What song did the teacher teach today?"
similar to this, Use the way of asking questions, starting from specific points, and gradually unfolding.
Guide children to express themselves, parents listen carefully, understand their children’s experience today, and give them encouragement and praise at appropriate times, so that children can gain a sense of accomplishment and enhance self-confidence.
The second category: emotions, to relieve children’s bad emotions
"Baby, why are you crying today?"
"Do you still need help when you fell off the stool? , You can find a teacher!"
By guiding the children to recall the bad emotions that occurred today, to find the problem together, and then find a solution to the problem, it can increase mutual trust and make the children happy Open your heart and take the initiative to communicate with you.
The third category: knowledge,Self-selected theme or unconstrained theme
Parents can prepare some knowledge in advance and let their children understand by chatting before going to bed.
"Do you know where the eggs come from?"
_span5 span0 In this way, starting from the common things in life, lead to the topic of knowledge you want to learn today. Or just talk to your child about the characters and hobbies of the fairy tale , so that the child can gallop his imagination freely.
Companion and care are the parents' most confession of love to their children.
Compared to being inseparable with children 24 hours a day, it is better to seize the time before bedtime and communicate with children on these topics, and strive to achieve high-quality communication with children.
Let children have a stable mood before going to bed,Help him weave a happy dream with his own hands.
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is the most cost-effective way for parents to talk to each other.
It is not only an important channel for parents to understand their children, but also a link between parents and their children. The love of parents takes root and sprouts in the heart of the child through a line of care and greetings.
Only parents who can chat can raise excellent children.
hope that every child can grow into a sunny, confident, lively and cheerful child in the soft words of his parents, and always retain innocent vitality.
I also hope that all parents in the world will no longer be the terminator of chat, but will be intimate listeners to their children.
chat more with children,Talk about interesting things in life, talk about life ideals, talk about friends, talk about happiness, anger, sorrow, and happiness, and accompany your children to farther places.
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