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"What can determine life better than hard work is the depth of a person's thoughts.
once read a question online:
"Why do some people work hard and are diligent, but still cannot make a name for themselves, and in the end they just live as ordinary people? "
Some people say that it is because the background is not strong enough that they cannot beat others; some people say that it is because they are not lucky enough and have not encountered a good opportunity.
Everyone has their own ideas, and I agree with the answer given by the answerer @南时, who said: "Because many people are so shallow that they do not realize that their efforts are actually ineffective efforts. "
is deeply touched.
Unexamined diligence is often just a kind of self-overdrawal; life without depth often only makes people at a loss.
Only in the end will you find that many people's lives are going downhill from becoming "shallow".
So, how does a person become "shallow"?
often has to do with these habits.
No longer think deeply
Meituan CEO Wang Xing once said: "Most people are willing to do anything in order to escape real thinking. "The phenomenon like
often occurs in life.
Some students, in order to avoid doing homework, can find countless reasons to deal with teachers and parents. They do not think that homework is difficult, but to avoid thinking effectively.
After adulthood, some people will choose to enter the marriage alone in order to avoid thinking about why they want to get married and who they want to marry, so that they can live a normal life.
is included in work, and many people are unwilling to think about themselves. The significance of work and future development.
. People who no longer think deeply are very common, that is, they cannot calm down and read carefully, fear being alone, and are unwilling to participate in in-depth topics.
talks with them about love, they have countless topics; when talking about games, they can chat for three days and three nights; when talking about shopping, they have various shopping tips.
But once they talk about life and the future, they will say, "Don't think about those that have nothing. "
only lets one's thoughts stay on the surface of certain things. When one does not delve into the kernel, one loses the ability to truly see through the essence of things, and it will gradually become lost.
Just like in "The Godfather", there is a classic line:
"A person who spends one minute seeing through the essence of things and those who spend half a lifetime cannot see clearly are destined to have completely different destinies. "
Life is meaningless, and suffering is meaningless. What can really give life meaning is reflection after experience, and one's sudden enlightenment and awakening.
Refusal to accept criticism
I have read a very interesting story.
A writer admires Yang Jiang very much and conducted a profound analysis of Yang Jiang's personal and works. She analyzed it well and many people praised it.
However, there is a comment that says this: "You are still a writer. Even Yang Jiang is a man or a woman. I also call Yang Jiang 'Mr. Yang Jiang ' in the article. I don't know anything, but I at least know that Yang Jiang is a woman. ”
The writer was not angry, but explained patiently: “Sir is a respectful title, which represents my respect for Mr. Yang Jiang. "
The writer had already explained it very well, but the other party still said relentlessly: "It's no big deal to admit it if you make a mistake, and it's embarrassing to make trouble. "
He always feels that he is right and comments on others wantonly, but he doesn't know that his behavior reveals his shallowness and ignorance.
The more shallow a person is, the more he is. He obviously only understands the basics of some things, but he likes to point fingers at other people's lives and demonstrates his superiority everywhere.
Once others agree with them, their sense of superiority is stronger; once others criticize them, they will immediately stand up and refute. There is a feeling that people all over the world may make mistakes, but they cannot.The reason why people like
are like this is that they can be explained in one sentence of Darwin : "Ignorance is more likely to be more confident than erudition."
Because of ignorance, they do not know that they know nothing, are bound in a world of self-conceived, and cannot see the excellence of others, and can only be forever shallow.
is actually those who are truly capable, who are good at accepting criticism and are better at self-criticism.
Ng Mengda is known as the "most valuable comedian". His reputation is derived from his dedication.
However, when participating in "Thirteen Invitations", Wu Mengda did not have the airs of an old actor. When Xu Zhiyuan praised him as Lu Xun, he just said modestly, "It's too far."
When asked what it felt like to film " Wandering Earth ", Wu Mengda, who had obviously made a lot of preparations, still said modestly, "It's a piece of paper. I'll give myself completely to the director and let him craft it."
During the acting process, he would think about how to make a good movie, and would not refuse to accept criticism from others.
When a person is really like this, no matter what he does, he can find the best way for him, so that he can climb higher and walk more steadily. What
is that one is obsessed with ineffective efforts, occupied by instant satisfaction, lacking deep thinking, and less ability to accept criticism, a person will only gradually become shallow and ignorant, and thus go up and down.
It can be said that the height of life itself is determined by the depth of thought. I hope we can all calm down and give ourselves some time to settle and sublimate.
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