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Reliance is a must for human growth.
We have grown up with the protection of our parents since childhood. When we grow up, we have our own abilities. On the day when our parents are old, we also need to be our children to support them.
Life is like a fixed cycle, and there are too many twists and overlaps in the life state of childhood and old age.
But one day you will find that parents cannot be your eternal support. They can only support you in a short way in life, and you still need to work hard for the rest of your life.
So, never think about relying on others. Even in order to reduce the burden imposed on your parents, you must grow up quickly.
Understand the true meaning of life, understand the meaning of life, and then strive to move in the direction you want, so that you will not become a loser in life.
"reliable" is a high evaluation of a person, which means that this person is mature and capable, and can give people a sense of security.
observations found that most women have this in their mate selection conditions, but not only women need a certain amount of support, but men also find it difficult to live alone in society, and they also need to rely on them.
When you are in adversity, your relatives and old friends will rely on you. When you are in a bad mood, the person who can comfort you will rely on you.
But no one can shelter you from the wind and rain for a long time, and people cannot just think about living under all kinds of protection. If you want to live a smooth life, you must know how to rely on yourself.
Just as Chekhov said: People believe in what they are, and they are.
If you believe that your life is a "mistletoe" that can only be attached to others' survival, then you will never be able to live a truly free life in your life.
But if you believe that you are an independent person and can become your own support, then you can dominate your life and do what you want to do.
The economic foundation of people is equivalent to a kind of reliance. Only those who earn material conditions with their hands truly belong to themselves. This is also the most solid and reliable reliance for people
Really, don’t wait until you have no support before you understand: In this life, the reliable person is the only one who is reliable.
Focus on yourself and improve yourself
An old saying goes: People do not punish themselves for themselves and kill them. The original meaning of this sentence
is that if a person does not cultivate himself, he will be incompatible with the world.
In the old society, this sentence was literal, and was often used as an excuse and defense for people to be selfish.
Excessive individualism is hated by the world. After all, to create a better life, we cannot do without everyone's dedication. Then again, to create a better life, we have to work hard on ourselves.
When thinking and planning for the future, you cannot plan too much external help. You should base yourself on your own development and find ways to improve your personal strength.
survives with the help of others. Once your support is no longer available, you will face this complicated world nakedly.
The first step for people to "for themselves" is to comprehensively improve themselves. In addition to mastering the "rice bowl" required for survival, they also need to sublimate their ideological realm.
Many people are just busy working hard and forget to deepen their understanding of the world. Once the state of thought is improved, it will bring about a transformation of your attitude towards life, which will make you live more transparent and smoother, and will not be disturbed by worldly troubles.
Correct yourself and become a better self
Treating history and culture, we should "take the essence and remove the dross". Similarly, treating ourselves, we should also find ways to eliminate our own criticism.
Since childhood, my parents have taught us to be good and good through words and deeds, and have also supervised and controlled all kinds of bad habits in us.
When we grow up, we can no longer think about who will manage ourselves and educate ourselves. Only ourselves can manage ourselves best.
For children, correcting some shortcomings is nothing more than some compulsory measures or giving them a long memory.
But for adults, the development of bad habits is always accumulated over time. The influence of external preaching and suggestions is minimal. Only if you want to change it, you can be effective.
Only by managing yourself when you are young can you enjoy your second half of your life.
people cannot always think of others to make themselves excellent. Although life in their youth is free and easy, it is also a time to leave the root cause.
If you allow your bad habits to develop, the vicious impact it will continue to overlap and finally be reflected little by little when people are old, it will make your old age life extremely painful, and even lonely and helpless.
Only by holding the "capital" can you truly be independent
Human nature is like a white cloud and a promise sometimes is really worthless. People always give trust to others easily, but not all the trust given can be rewarded.
The stupidest way to put your hope for life and your desire for the future on others.
is not because others may let you down, but because the "reliance" accumulated by yourself is the most trustworthy, and relying on yourself is the best way to rely on you.
For example, when a person is about to grow old, try not to rely on his children if he can accumulate his needs for retirement.
This is not a question of whether children are filial or not, but that they hold capital in their own hands. On the one hand, they can truly achieve food and clothing in the elderly life, and on the other hand, they can also reduce pressure on their children.
Consider more about yourself, which is an important foundation for living the second half of your life. People need to rely on the outside world, but they need to rely on themselves.
Basically, only oneself is the most trustworthy. A person’s self-potential does not allow himself to hurt himself subjectively.
Everyone has the pressure of life, and they also need to think about others and fight for their family. Even so, don’t forget to give yourself a spacious way out.
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People should love others in this life, while they should also love themselves.
In fact, damaging yourself for the sake of others' efforts is something that many people are doing and easy to do.
But fighting for oneself seems less motivated, so countless people keep lying flat on the road of living for themselves, and in the end they will be "forced to endure hardships".
Many people have been living for others all their lives, and all kinds of efforts are not their own good life.
It is not a sin to consider more about yourself. After all, once a person is old, he basically "deals with himself". His old age is always lonely. If you want to be happy in your later years, you must make plans for yourself in advance.
