Most families are mothers cooking for their homes. They believe that mother loves their family and hope to give love to their family. However, if you have expectations in giving and want to get rewards from your family, such as affirmation, recognition or care, etc., then I guess if the expectations are disappointed, not everyone will receive the mother's efforts and all the love.
Because some mothers do their best every day when cooking, but because they do not enjoy all this during the cooking process, they think they are giving their family. When their expectations do not achieve the expected results, they often talk: "I am the old mother in your family. After serving this, they have to serve that one." Or if the family doesn't have a good meal, they will say, "I have worked hard for a long time, and you are still picky." As this continues, the more you talk, it will cause the family to be disgusted. Although they have done a lot of things, the family feels bad.
Mother is sacrificing in the process of doing things, so naturally she will not enjoy the fun of cooking. It is just a kind of responsibility of a good wife and mother that drives herself to understand and affirm her. But she doesn’t know that no matter how you feel, others are not obliged to be responsible for you.
Whether mother cooks with a happy mood, or is rushing to cook with a duck on the shelves, or is reluctant to cook just to complete the task, it depends on her own mood. Others cannot control her and they do not have the ability to ask her mother how to do it.
So, if your mother changes her way, whether she cooks or does other housework, she will enjoy the process. Don’t attach too much, and don’t have too many expectations. Do more when you are in good health or happy, do less when you are uncomfortable or tired, and you can also leave it to others to do it, so you will complain less and blame less, and everything will become easier, and you won’t feel upset whether you are eating or cooking.
