Some people say that the ultimate height of life does not lie in the starting point, but in the turning point. Retirement is a very important turning point in our life, and it determines our life in the second half of our lives.
A good life after retirement depends not only on the amount of pension, but more on our inner peace and awareness of the rest of our lives. Some people think that they should enjoy themselves after working hard for half a lifetime, but forget their responsibilities and obligations; some people not only live the way they want after retirement, but also become more exciting and beautiful.
In life, most of the retired elderly people who are better and better have a peaceful mind, a healthy body, a harmonious family, and interact with others with kind hearts and thoughts, and live a comfortable and happy life every day.
Some people say that after retirement, life is just three meals a day, going out to exercise, and helping those who can help take care of their children, and when no one needs it, they can go back to their homes and spend the rest of their lives appropriately. In fact, these are all positive energy ideas. The thing that really makes the elderly get better and better is that has something to do every day, that is, there is something to use in old age, there is peace of mind, there is happiness in old age, and there is something to support in old age.
Treat people around you well, help your children, and family harmony is the fundamental in your old age
Wang Xiaobo There is a very good saying: "After people reach middle age, they will find that has nothing but their family. . When you see too much intrigue from the outside world, and when you are exhausted by the hardships of work and the difficulty of life, you will find that family is your last place in this world."
This passage also applies to our retired elderly people. No matter how wonderful the outside is, we will eventually return to our family. The time we go home is more than lingering outside. family is the best companion for our rest of our lives. Having a harmonious family in our later years is the foundation for our blessing and enjoying our evening scenery.
As people get older, they can feel what Wang Zengqi said: family sits idle and the lights are so close. "There is home to go back, someone is waiting, and there is a lantern to wait for you. Every day that seems ordinary is an unreplicable happiness.
The retired elderly man treats his wife kindly, goes to the square for a walk, exercise, and then goes to the vegetable market to buy ingredients together. As he talks, he goes home. He chooses vegetables and cooks in the kitchen. You clean in the room, sits at the table together and chats about homework, eats the food made by his wife, and wears the clothes bought by his wife. Do you have " home Fresh and coarse clothes, knowing that cold and hot is the happiness of the old wife!
When children need help from our elderly, they take the initiative to help take care of their children for a while. After the grandchildren go to kindergarten or elementary school, their children can take care of their children independently. We then decently withdraw from their children's life circle, enjoying the joy of family, and having family reciprocity with their children. What they have in their hearts is not only warmth of family, but also the transmission of blood It is more about our inner peace and preparation for our old age.
Some people will say that I will support me if I don’t take care of their children. This is the responsibility and obligation of my children. Don’t go too far. Think back and think about the life path you have walked. How many times have you received help from your parents. When you have not received family assistance, is that helpless and desperate moment very cold?
When we retire and become elderly people at home, we are kind Staying with your wife around you and helping your children is actually paving the way for our own old age. This is also the best feedback between people. Don’t expect others to give you without giving. Any relationship is balanced with each other, and nothing is necessary.
Do what you like, and having interests and hobbies is the sustenance of your old age
Guo Degang once said this: "People have to have some interests and hobbies. If this person doesn't have a hobby, don't play with him. Why? is because it has no nature. ”Hosts come from the bottom of our hearts what we want to do most. When we feel that life is boring and the days are dull, because of the hobbies, we can feel a hint of warmth and hope of continuing to live a good life.
A psychologist once said: Hobbies are absolutely important. It makes us happy and can produce a moisturizing effect . When we are in pain, it can easily lead us out of this predicament.
After retirement, if we have our own interests and hobbies, we will not feel that time is long, we will not feel that there is nothing to do all day, and we will not have lonely time. Because your hobbies can allow you to enjoy a happy state of mind and make you feel the happiness of having something to do.
How do we cultivate our interests and hobbies? First of all, follows your inner wishes and does what you want to do but don’t have time to do before. No matter what is, as long as it is something you like, you don’t have to care about other people’s eyes and evaluations.
Secondly, if you really don’t know what you want to do, can go out and take the initiative to participate in some activities , and then decide whether to persist based on your inner joy.
Finally, don’t think of “this mountain looks high”. sticks to your hobbies . Overcome the laziness of human nature and the verbal opinions of others. It is not easy to have the hobbies you really like. You must persist in doing it. turns hobbies into a habit, which can make you live happier.
Wang Zengqi wrote in " Plants and Trees in the World": must love something, just like the love of plants and trees for time . When a person does what he likes, his heart is shiny and happy. It is not only beneficial to our body and mind, but also allows us to spend those dark times for the rest of our lives.
Be kind, it is the background of the elderly’s happy old age
Some people say , having good thoughts and doing one good every day is the best health preservation . This is what I said in : The best kindness is like water, and a kind heart is like water, which will nourish people's internal organs, make people's body and mind balance and smooth, thereby gaining the joy of the heart and the clean soul.
People are kind-hearted, and blessings are far away before they come. But don’t ask about the future when doing good things. Just be kind and God has his own arrangements. This is what we mean by "A kind person must be blessed."
After retirement, we do not have to do those earth-shaking good deeds. We just need to follow our hearts and treat everything around us well. Whether it is flowers, plants, trees, or old, young, women and children, we treat it with our own kindness, which means we have kindness.
" Shunlu " said in " Shunlu ": Don't worry about it anymore. If you should be indifferent, don't be obsessed with things you can't get, especially When you are confused and helpless, you should remember to put down the two words .
After retirement, we should take it lightly when the world is impermanent and the world is cold and cold. Learn to let go of the obsession in our hearts. When life is simple, everything will go smoothly. Some elderly people will feel unbalanced when they see their daughter-in-law living better than themselves in their later years. They will have an unbalanced mentality in their hearts, and do all kinds of things, as if they don’t make their children’s death a final decision.
In fact, when people get old, kind-hearted elderly people will think from the perspective of others. A son is good to their daughter-in-law, which is a symbol of family harmony. The elderly should be happy to bless them, rather than being disgusted with them and being provocative.
Being a "kind and lovely" old man and treating people around you with kindness is the background of our happiness in our later years and the best capital in our lives.
Author: Huagui Zenxin
Follow my words and enter your heart. You have stories, I have tea, let’s talk about the rest of my life together.
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