It is said that "people do not have long-term plans, they must have immediate worries."
For ordinary people, they must not only have long-term considerations, but also have current plans. Only by keeping your feet on the ground and looking at the future can life not be far behind.
I didn’t understand when I was young, why should ordinary people have long-term considerations?
After having some experience, I realized that in this world, if you don’t think about yourself, then you are in trouble, who will pity you? The world is ultimately the "salary of the weak".
Especially middle-aged people, even if they don’t think about their own future, they should think about their family’s future or future for their descendants. It is always right to have more long-term visions.
In life, you must not only have a positive attitude, but also make the worst plans. A positive attitude is to keep yourself at a peaceful mind. The worst plan is to let yourself recognize the reality.
The 1960s and 1970s are gradually aging, it is time to think carefully about the direction of their future life. How to survive the mid-life crisis, how to retire, and how to live a more stable life are all issues we need to think about.
Be a visionary person and keep these retreats quietly so that you can avoid the cold winter.
1. Don’t let yourself be heavily in debt.
Modern people have a characteristic, that is, spend the future money first. They obviously don’t have enough ability and their future life is vague, but they have to overdraw their future money and owe a lot of debts.
The more debt a person owes, the harder his life is. Especially today, if the environment is not good, maybe a family member will get sick, and the debt-ridden family will become a mess. There is a family in the community of
. In order for the sake of their children to get married, their parents borrowed two million yuan to buy a house. Who knew that the children were unemployed and their parents were in poor health, and the family was now in a miserable and miserable life.
doesn’t have that big head, and just wearing such a big hat, won’t you suffer the consequences? You should know that you are in debt in , which is equivalent to a "big bet". If you lose, your whole family will have a hard time.
For the 1960s and 1970s who are gradually aging, they must "go lightly" in the rest of their lives and do not put any burden on themselves. You should know that the more burden , the greater the risk.
Sometimes, live a peaceful and stable life, live a simple life, and don’t spend the future money first. This is the wise attitude towards life.
2. It’s time to save more money.
In your opinion, is love reliable or money reliable? There is no doubt that money is reliable.
creatures, because of their "fierce" nature, no matter what we do and how much sincerity we give, the other party is likely to let us down.
This is the so-called " I will be focused on the bright moon , but the bright moon shines on the ditches."
Since others may let us down, we should focus on the word "money". Save more money for yourself and gradually stabilize your life.
"money" is a kind of vulgar thing to be honest. But it is often a vulgar thing like that can save all the unfortunate people in crisis. This is the so-called "Buddhist only saves rich people".
The more materialistic the era, the more important money becomes. When people get old, don’t be confused by other people’s false thoughts. Compared with love, save yourself some money and live a good life so that your family can be worry-free.
3. Read more books and read more newspapers, and don’t be out of touch with society.
Traditional middle-aged people have a concept that studying is a student’s business and has nothing to do with the middle-aged self. Therefore, they will become more and more out of touch with society as they live.
In the past, maybe it would be enough for us to read a few years. Nowadays, even if you graduate from a doctorate, as long as you don’t study, don’t read newspapers, and can’t keep up with the times, you will still be eliminated by society.
At present, middle-aged people are on the verge of being "eliminated". They are afraid of being optimized in the workplace, unemployed, and have no income every day, and they become more and more nervous as they live.
people. If they are uneasy, they need to charge as soon as possible, at least let themselves live a little more transparent and know what they have inadequate. Only in this way can we make up for the shortcomings and avoid the more we survive, the more we have problems.
has a concept, which actually makes sense, that is, "live until old, learn until old".
No matter how old you are, even when you are about to retire, you should focus on keeping up with the pace of the times and integrating it into your current mainstream life. The so-called "with light and dust" is the reason.
4. Establish good relationships with people around you.
people are still more important in their middle and late years. Although money is still important, the company of their family is indispensable after all.
From the level of demand of Maslow , money can meet people's physiological and survival needs, but cannot meet the needs of social and love. The latter needs people around you to satisfy them.
First of all, get along well with your wife, understand how difficult it is, and try not to have conflicts with him. You should know that a person’s misfortune in his later years is related to the lack of harmony between the couple and the quarrels all day long.
Secondly, respect the choices of children. Whatever your children want to do, as long as they don’t go wrong, we might as well support them and let them choose their own way out of life. Sometimes, if you respect others, then others will respect you.
After our parents leave, the closest people in our lives are our spouses and children. Only by establishing good relationships with them can we not be lonely until we grow old and will not live in a cold environment.
The colder the world is, the more precious the warmth of the family is.
text/Shushan Youlu
