I am Tiantian Xiangshang, a brave woman who is trying to break away from the shackles of her family. I am willing to spend 5 years working hard to take root and live a new life! Click above + follow me! Let’s witness each other’s transformation together!
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Hello, I am Tiantian.
is a very ordinary rural girl born in the 1990s. I believe that friends who can click on this article must have a similar background to me.
Yes, our starting point in life is very low, and there is no comparison with those who were born with golden keys.
Maybe some of you have gone to college, but I dropped out of school in my teens because of my recklessness and ignorance. I don’t even know where the university gate opens. So I started out even worse than the average person.
Franklin once said: "You are reckless in youth, but you are regretful in old age."
Although I have not yet reached old age, I have already regretted it in my intestines. I wish that when I was a teenager and didn’t want to go to school because I was ignorant, someone could advise me and help me analyze the pros and cons, so that maybe I could continue reading.
Over the years, the fact that I did not go to college has always been a thorn in my heart, and it has become deeper and deeper as I grow older.
After experiencing the ruthless beatings of real life, I now truly understand that if you don’t have a high starting point, you have to run even harder.
As Buffy said: The starting point of your life is not so important, what is important is where you ended up?
Although I am nearly 30 years old, I understand how important learning and hard work are. Fortunately, it is not too late to make amends. I firmly believe that if I work hard now, in 3-5 years, I will be an independent woman both financially and mentally. With enough money, you can solve 90% of the troubles in life.
So now I really want to start learning again, focusing on training my writing skills, and I want to use this skill to change myself and realize my own value.
The reason why I wrote this article is that I hope you can learn from my mistakes and understand as soon as possible that ordinary people like us who have no education and no ability can only get started as soon as possible and run as hard as possible in order to achieve the heights that others can easily reach.
Let me share with you the detours I have taken in the past fifteen years. I hope you can be clear-headed and work hard to avoid detours and avoid making the same mistakes as me.
When I first dropped out of school, I worked with my parents to earn money. I was considered a child laborer at first and could only work in a small factory for two years. Later I worked as a restaurant waiter.
But I was still working part-time and as a waiter. I found that most of the people had higher academic qualifications than me, which made me feel even more inferior and regretful. But the deal was done and I couldn't go back to campus.
Later, I thought that if I didn’t have a degree, I would just learn a skill, so I learned hairdressing from a friend.
Although I learned all the theoretical knowledge from hair washing to hair cutting in art school, when I actually go to the barber shop to start working, I still need to start from the most basic apprenticeship, washing hair and sweeping the floor.
At the beginning, in order to have the opportunity to practice doing hairdressing for customers, I had to establish a good relationship with the barber and be sweet-talking to get things done. However, this was exactly my shortcoming, so I walked on the road from apprentice to master for four years, and also made a lot of hardships.
Every winter, because I wash my hair too much and the weather is cold, my hands are allergic and rotten. I work more than 12 hours a day and can only eat one meal.
What’s more difficult than these is that I still can’t handle the relationship with those female colleagues. In order to prevent them from stealing my performance, I was forced to change from a person who blushes when quarreling with others, to finally dare to fight with them.
Fortunately, after four years, I can finally leave the profession, stay away from the calculations and fights between women, and gain some respect from others.
It was also at this time that I had the time and energy to fall in love. I met my current husband, who was from our hometown and was very kind to me, so I regarded him as my destined Prince Charming.
After knowing each other for a year, I followed my husband’s family’s arrangements and got married naturally. Later, when I had children, I gave up my job and stayed at home full-time to care for my husband and raise my children.
However, life is not easy for housewives. Because men who can sincerely recognize women's contributions to the family and respect and understand them are rare.
Men work outside the home to make money, and they can get back a lot of money, which invisibly gives them a greater sense of superiority and accomplishment. However, the rewards for women’s hard work are not so intuitive and have a lag.
I had a very low starting point, but I was still unwilling to make any extraordinary efforts. Instead, I chose to go with the flow, and ultimately ended up living the most annoying thing I had ever done.
Saying this, I really just hope that my friends who have the same low starting point as me, whether they are students who are studying, women who are trapped in the family like me, or men who have taken on family responsibilities, can realize the importance of hard work as early as possible. No matter how old you are, you can't give up hard work, because that is the only opportunity for us as ordinary people to change our destiny.
We are really not qualified to lie down because fate has not given us the opportunity to lie down.
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Now I will share with you the true story of two girls. Although they were born in the same rural area, they had a completely different fate from mine. The first one is the sister of a female classmate of my husband.
When I first got married, my mother-in-law told me such a thing.
Before my husband and I were married, my mother-in-law fell in love with the sister of a female classmate of my husband’s and wanted her to be her daughter-in-law.
I have to say that my mother-in-law has a very good taste. The girl seemed to be in college at the time. She was beautiful and had a good figure.
Although, the conditions in my husband’s family seemed pretty good at the time. However, that girl had clear goals and a long-term vision. She didn't like my husband at all and declined the offer.
That girl went to a pretty good university. After graduation, she worked in the IT industry in Beijing with a monthly income of more than 20,000. Once she graduated, her income was three or four times that of mine.
worked hard for many years and got married last year. He found a boy who also worked hard and bought a house in Beijing.
Of course, this is what I earned after studying hard for ten years. I went to a good university and my starting point was much higher than ours. I haven't experienced the bitterness that others have experienced, so naturally I can't get the sweetness that others have.
I met that girl several times later, but after all, we were not on the same level, and we didn’t have much interaction after that.I can only hide in my own small world and envy others' rich and happy lives.
There is also a girl named Liu Yuanyuan . She is the hardest working and most hard-working girl I know. Anyone who follows her knows that she has too many shining labels:
Talented woman of Peking University, 25-year-old entrepreneur
Worth over 100 million under 30 years old
Champion of the second season of " Super Speaker "
Best-selling author
Shortlisted for Forbes China’s 30 Elites Under 30 List in 2019
Douyin Live Broadcast Master
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Her initial starting point was actually as low as ours, and she also came from the countryside. In her words, her family was not even considered poor because they had no doors.
But the fierceness in her hard work is something most of us don't have.
Her academic performance was not very good before high school, but starting from her sophomore year in high school, she set a seemingly impossible goal for herself - to be admitted to Peking University.
In order to achieve her goal, Liu Yuanyuan insisted on getting up at five o'clock to memorize English words on a cold morning in the north. It was hard enough to get up at five o'clock, let alone the cold winter, so she put a basin of water next to her bed, and when she couldn't get up in the morning, she would use a cold towel to ice her face to force herself to wake up. At night, when everyone else was asleep, she still read and did questions in bed with a flashlight.
became a speaker. He started out as a novice with no experience in speaking. With his seriousness and hard work, he read all the books on speaking in a short period of time, repeatedly revised drafts and practiced speaking, and finally succeeded in becoming a speaking champion.
started live streaming in 2020. Live streaming is a very physically and mentally demanding job, which requires full passion and a clear mind throughout the process. She can broadcast more than 300 days a year, 8-12 hours a day. In more than a year, he became the head anchor of Douyin .
Although she had a low starting point, she became enlightened as a teenager, and at the same time she really did what Inamori Kazuo said. She must work as hard as anyone else, so she can achieve achievements, fame and fortune that ordinary people cannot get.
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Although I envy the life of such a girl, I know that I am not worthy of it. Because, as an ordinary person, I have no education, no ability, and no hard work. How can I have the life that others have worked hard for?
Liu Yuanyuan said in her speech "The Prince from a Poor Family": A poor family background does not cut off all possibilities for a person's success. Not all children from poor families will remain poor in the future, and there will be fish that slip through the grasp of fate.
That’s why she believed so much in the meaning of hard work. Because of her belief, she was able to work so hard and endure so many hardships that ordinary people cannot endure.
If I had put more effort and perseverance in my career when I was twenty years old, instead of getting married and having children so early, I would definitely be an independent woman with my own career now.
I have experienced a lot of beatings in life over the years. Now I believe more in the meaning of hard work, and I also understand better that some hardships in life must be endured, especially for ordinary people like us who have a very low starting point.
Therefore, even if I take care of my children at home, I try hard to learn a skill and have the ability to support myself before I can live the way I like. There are many beautiful things in this world, but you have to work equally hard to deserve them.
In order to realize the ideal life as soon as possible, I get up at 5 o'clock every day, read and write.Don’t follow dramas or engage in ineffective social interactions. Use your free time to study and polish your writing skills.
I like this sentence very much: Work is the only way for any girl who is not born to be a princess to become a queen.
So, if you are like me and are not satisfied with the current situation and your starting point is very low, then run as hard as you can!
Firstly, don’t be afraid of hardship, and secondly, don’t be afraid of suffering losses. Work as hard as you can, and try your best to make yourself better and more valuable. It is best to develop a specialty of your own and make more money relying on your expertise.
There is a saying that goes like this: Those who are afraid of hardship will suffer for a lifetime; those who are not afraid of hardship will suffer for a while.
Since there are some hardships in life that must be endured, face them bravely. Only by enduring the hardships can you become a better person.
Therefore, we must wake up as soon as possible and work as hard as anyone else. I believe that time will reward us with everything we want.
Finally, I would like to share with you a wonderful speech by Liu Yuanyuan in "The Prince of a Poor Family":
"The purpose of fate giving you a lower starting point than others is to tell you that you can use your whole life to strive for a story of a desperate counterattack. . This story is about independence, about dreams, about courage, and about perseverance. It is not a fairy tale that comes naturally without any human suffering. This story is about those who are determined, and things come true. "
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I am Tiantian Xiangshang, a brave woman who strives to be herself while raising her children. Follow me, work hard with me for 5 years, and meet a brand new self!
