The world is difficult and dangerous, and people's hearts are unpredictable. In interpersonal communication, it is very important to learn to discern the thoughts of others.
Some people come to you simply to make you a friend, but there are also some people who approach you with a purpose, hiding a calculating heart under their friendly appearance.
When making friends with someone, don’t look at how good they look on the outside. You have to observe them comprehensively from all aspects such as behavior and handling.
Evil-minded people are good at pretending, but they often like to inquire about these three things. If you happen to have such a person among your friends, you should be careful.
01: Asking about your income and assets
When getting along with others, it is very impolite to always want to know the other person's property. Even among family members, money is a sensitive issue.
People who really like you and really want to make friends with you will not care whether you are poor or rich.
Only those with bad intentions will always ask about your income.
A person who makes friends based on wealth is a snobbery. When he is rich, he will nod and wink at you and fawn over you every day. But one day when you are down, he will be the first to stay away from you.
Don’t be fooled by this kind of person’s attentiveness. Try not to answer directly when he asks you anything, otherwise it will be like being stuck on a dog’s skin plaster and it will be difficult to get rid of it.
02: Inquire about your family and privacy
Everyone knows that when working in society, connections are the most important thing. Sometimes, if you have a good relationship, things will be much easier to handle.
There are many people who like to be opportunistic and never work hard to improve their abilities. They just think about building relationships and taking shortcuts every day.
If a person always asks about your family situation, you should pay attention. He may want to know if there is any powerful person in your family, and he wants to pave the way for his future through you.
There is a very real example around me. There is a person in the security team I manage. He is very down-to-earth in his work, but he is usually very direct. Others don’t like him and are unwilling to have more contact with him.
Later, our company happened to receive an inspection by some city leaders, and one of them greeted us, the security guard, with a very warm attitude. Everyone in the
company saw that their relationship was unusual, so from that day on, everyone in the team gathered around the security guard to inquire about his relationship with the leader.
Therefore, if someone pays attention to asking about your family when dating you, it means that this person’s purpose of making friends with you is not simple.
03: Ask about your other friends and your evaluation of them.
There is a kind of person in life. In order to gain connections and gain the trust of others, he likes to talk about right and wrong behind others and say bad things about others.
In order to quickly close the distance, he even does not hesitate to slander others to gain your trust.
Maybe when he first started dating you, it was because he complained to you about a friend you didn't like very much, and your relationship quickly became closer.
But this kind of person is not trustworthy, because if he speaks ill of others behind your back today for your sake, he may speak ill of you behind your back for the sake of another person next time.
So if someone always asks you about your other friends, always likes to talk about the quality of your friends, and always leads you to express your dissatisfaction with other people, you must pay attention.
It is very likely that one day in the future, he will spread the words you said with exaggeration. When the time comes, you will not be able to explain whether they are true or false.
As the saying goes: "You must not have the intention of harming others, and you must have the intention of guarding against others." Friends are the companions we choose in the vast sea of people, and we must be cautious when making friends.
These four words, "It is better to lack than to abuse" are applicable to love as well as friendship. I hope that all of you who read this article can have sincere friends, magnanimous brothers and best friends.
