Someone once said: "The mountain is high and the wind erodes, and people are high and everyone is wrong."
A mountain, if it is too high and is still showing off, then the first thing the storm finds is it; if a person takes advantage and does not know how to restrain himself, then others will not hope that he will live a good life.
The five words "shameful" have always been the norm in the world. We can say that it is the evil of human nature, or it is the flaw of human nature, but we have no choice but to accept reality.
people, what should we do to prevent others from hating them? The best way to do it is to be low-key and not show off when dealing with people. Constraining one's personality is to protect one's own self-protection.
Some people don’t believe in evil and think there is no problem with “showing off”. In the end, they just run into blood in the world. The so-called "The more jealous people are, the more they are jealous of being pure, the more they are disgusted by the world." is the reason.
Especially for older middle-aged and elderly people, don’t show off too much, as there is no benefit for others or yourself.
people are over 60 years old. No matter how rich you are, don’t “show off” these things. The more you are, the harder you will be in your old age.
1. No matter how much money is, you can’t show off.
Some elderly people have retired and their pensions are relatively high, so they are spreading to others everywhere, for fear that others will not know. As a result, they were all hated by the people around them.
There is an old man in the village with a pension of several thousand yuan, which is basically higher than the salary of young people who work as ordinary workers. But he didn't know how to restrain himself, so he talked to others everywhere.
A relative heard that he had such a high pension, and he developed the mentality of "enviousness, jealousy and hatred". They are all human beings, why is his pension several times that of mine?
Later, relatives slandered him everywhere and said a lot of bad things. And the old man's reputation has become terrible, and others have stopped dealing with him because they are "envious and jealous".
Only now did the old man realize that Not everyone hopes that others can live a good life, nor can everyone achieve psychological balance.
When people are in their old age, no matter how rich they are, they should keep a low profile. Things like money can cause trouble and enemies.
2. You cannot show off your family relationship.
The father of Mr. Zhang, who traveled with him, recently had conflicts with his family, which made the relationship between the family tense. Uncle Zhang told these things to his relatives and friends.
Uncle Zhang's cousin heard these things and added fuel to the fire and spread them. The family became even more angry when they knew that Uncle Zhang was so mean to his own people outside, and the conflicts in the family became increasingly greater.
Affected by these things, Uncle Zhang had to move back to his hometown by himself. His wife had a bad attitude towards him, and his children were also more repulsive.
There are too many elderly people. In fact, like Uncle Zhang, whenever something happens to , he tells others that he does not consider the consequences at all, and only seeks to vent his resentment for a moment. This is actually the behavior of or not .
You should know that others are indifferent to your family relationship. In the eyes of others, as the topic of talking about after dinner, I add fuel to the fire and tell these things, which may attract others' attention.
There is no airtight wall in this world . Never tell the family matters out of the way, so as not to be sowed by those who are interested.
3. How much wealth is given to your children, and you cannot be proud of it.
In his old age, there are actually no more than two people around him who are truly good to you. Sometimes, maybe even your children will betray you.We can see this clearly just by looking at the current family relationship.
As the concept of "Money First" gradually became popular, the relationship between people became more and more materialized. Talking about money and interests has become the norm in life.
Even between parents and children, the relationship has become weaker, and more and more times are talking about money. This is actually not a good sign. Maybe, your children will become enemies with you for the sake of money.
In the old age, if we want to avoid being betrayed by our children, we need to grasp this - family property. How much property should be divided to your children, don’t say it out in advance, and don’t tell anyone to listen to, just know it yourself.
Just imagine, if you have three children, but you are not prepared for it, just tell the matter of "how to divide the family property". Will your children still be united? Will you be kind to you sincerely?
Never use "money" to test human nature , this is a not very wise choice.
4. You can’t show off what you have done.
people are old, and everyone's biggest wish is "begin and end well" . It is best not to have too many storms in their later years.
, however, it is difficult to start and end well. Why? For most people, talks randomly and says what they have done, it is easy for people to catch the handle. , so how can you talk about being safe until you grow old?
Especially for people who do business or have a relatively wealthy wealth, don’t say too much. Even if others ask you to introduce your successful experience, don’t forget yourself and say things that both yourself and others are embarrassed.
The most important principle for survival in the world is that if some things are gone, let them pass. There is no need to re-report the old things, let them be kept in history, and that's fine.
Anyway, ensuring the current stability is the fundamental principle of your and my behavior.
The days of my later years were not as simple as we imagined. "Terrified, as if you are on the abyss, as if you are walking on thin ice" is the living conditions of most people.
text/Shushan Youlu
