Roman Rolland said: "Kindness is not a science, but an act."
Kindness is a rare quality that a person can value. Kind people treat others with a kind heart. They often would rather be wronged than let others be hurt because of themselves.
However, if a person is always kind and does not have a sharp edge, it is actually cowardice. When others make unreasonable demands on themselves, or even harm their own interests, they will not know how to refuse and protect their own interests.
Then this kind of kindness is actually the greatest harm to oneself. Therefore, if you meet these kinds of people, you can't be kind anymore, because kindness is mutual. Being kind to some people is the greatest cruelty to oneself.
1. Don’t be "too soft-hearted" to those who deceive your feelings and want to squeeze you out.
Whether it is friendship or love, once a person is found to be deceived, he must not be "too soft-hearted", he must not compromise because he can't hold his face down or tear away his face, and do not let such a person occupy your life. It will be painful for a lifetime. It is better to have short pain than long pain. If he refuses cruelly, he will not be "shallow blessings and weak life".
Whether it is love or friendship, we will take out our most sincere hearts and hand them over to each other, and we also hope that our friends and lovers will treat us sincerely. If we give our true love and love, but we get the other party’s deception and ignorance, this is undoubtedly a painful thing.
No matter how a person loves the other person and knows that the other person has deceived his feelings, don’t listen to the other person’s sweet words or even “swear”. If you forgave the other person’s mistakes for a moment, or even “reconcile” because of face and shame, you must be careful. There is a saying: Dogs can’t change their shit, and once will be twice. If you find that you are cheated again, you are still hesitant and forgive the other person, “too soft-hearted” will make mistakes again and again, and eventually you will end up with “short blessings and poor life.”
Faced with emotional deception, "too soft-hearted" means to abuse yourself and to clean up such people from our lives in time, which is a blessing.
2. Don’t be "too soft-hearted" to those who always bully you and take advantage of you.
A person is too honest and kind and too soft-hearted, and sometimes he becomes the target of bullying by others. If a person always takes advantage of you, takes advantage of you, or even bullies you frequently, you must not be "too soft-hearted", learn to fight back, and "retaliate with color", so that they will be peaceful, and at most they will not interact with each other when they are old or dead. Otherwise, they will be "shallow blessings and weak life" and accept their bad destiny.
Honest person, "too soft-hearted" can't speak. Sometimes when faced with other people's unreasonable requests, I feel embarrassed to refuse. If you have no way to express your suffering, you will suffer from your face and suffer. Others will use your honesty and kindness to command you to command you; some people will take advantage of you, use yours, and even take the interests that originally belong to you for themselves, because you are "too soft-hearted", and you can't bear to refuse, get angry, and you can't bear to face.
A person who is "too soft-hearted" will have "shameless" people, people who are "bullying the weak and afraid of the strong", people who are "ruthless" bully you, exclude you, and force you, your concessions will not make them "discover their conscience" or "show mercy". It is often you who give in and he wants to make one foot. You should not "be too soft-hearted" to such people. You should argue with righteous words and fight with one foot, so that they can know that you are not easy to mess with, so that they will be at peace. Otherwise, you will always be bullied by others, and you will not have good luck.
3. Those who are ungrateful and bite you back, don’t be “too soft-hearted”.
Some people who help him and fund him will turn you into a philanthropist, taking it for granted, and ask you for help again and again, and your face will not blush or your heart will not be beaten. If you sympathize with him and pity him, he will rely on you; if you give him less or reject him at one time, he will be angry, say bad things about you everywhere, and even slander you and slander you; this is like those who are fooling around, if you save him, he will "bite you". For such a person, you cannot "be too soft-hearted".
Ingratitude people think that it is natural for you to help him, and it is difficult for you to refuse him. You must know that helping you is affectionate, and not helping you is duty. All your requirements for others are based on whether others are willing or not. If others help you, you must know how to be grateful and give back, which cannot be a reason for your excessive request.
Ingratitude, a mother is a typical "eyed wolf. People who "bite back" are not pleased with people who are not grateful for their efforts. Don't "too soft-hearted" and know how to refuse. It is a blessing to clear such people out of your life. Otherwise, this kind of person will plot against you when they can't tell which day they will plot against you, and will cause disasters to you, and end up with "shallow blessings and weak life".
concluded.
Zeng Guofan once said: "Working with a good person will suffer. "Because this type of person only cares about interests, even if you have ever been kind to him, you may not do anything bad for the sake of the fight for interests.
Therefore, "Don't overestimate human nature, otherwise you will end up in disappointment." "
Once an ungrateful person is experienced, he should stay away immediately when he learns his lesson for the first time. Never be soft-hearted.
People in their lifetime, you must see everything clearly when making friends. Who is worthy of your kindness to him, and who should stay away as soon as possible. After all, greedy people are the most terrifying, treacherous people are the most hateful, and ungrateful people are the most shameful.
Treat these three types of people, pay attention to the standards, remember the lessons, never be soft-hearted, and stay away as soon as possible!
