People often say jokingly: "Without comparison, there is no harm!"
This sentence is usually used for jokes, but if you think about it carefully, this sentence is really wrong!
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The reason why people feel good and bad, high and low, success and failure...there are many opposite things. Isn’t it because we deliberately put some things together and have to compete with each other?
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Some things do need to be carefully compared. For example, when shopping, we need to keep our eyes wide and compare the stores to choose better products.
However, sometimes we think that "comparison" is a universal truth, and we must compare everywhere and at all times in our lives.
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When you find that you are "better" to others, you are not only secretly happy and contented; when you find that you are not as good as others, you will also feel lost, sad and depressed, feel that you are useless, and are particularly sad.
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During his student days, many people had a person they had never met and hated - other people's children.
We often hear from our parents how good the child is, with the best grades, helping parents do what they can at home, and behave properly outside... In a series of comparisons, we are still children, and we can't help but fall into inferiority.
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After becoming an adult, we are also inevitably able to compare variously.
in terms of work performance, behavior, body appearance... However, the comparison at this time is somewhat different from before.
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We have set too many comparisons for ourselves in our hearts, as if everything has to be marked in our hearts with greater than the number and less than the number .
The result of doing this is to make yourself overwhelmed.
Why do you need to do something well? The starting point becomes: I hope to do better than him/her.
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But unfortunately, there may always be someone who is better than you do. That person will receive unanimous praise and praise from everyone, and he becomes the failure measured in his heart.
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not! Even if you don’t do well, it doesn’t mean your failure!
It is difficult for us to win everywhere in comparison with others, because everyone has their own strengths and everyone has their own flowering period. Just like the blooming roses, why bother making fun of the plum blossoms that have not yet bloomed?
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Even if you haven’t found your own shining light for the time being, don’t forget that you are still a flower that emits fragrance and a star that is already bright. Don’t stingy to give sincere praise to others, and then quietly wait for your own field and flowering period!
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