Everyone's life has an unbearable weight.
Even Wang Zhiwen said that a person’s ability to endure has a limit. Once this limit is exceeded, the person will collapse.
In life, we rarely talk about the word "mindset collapse". Either because we don't want to express our sadness, or because we are afraid of others laughing at me, we finally pretend to be strong.
Adults actually have no way out, they can only keep moving forward and grit their teeth and persevere. Life may not have poetry and far away, but there must be a complacency in front of you.
I believe that the 60s and 70s who are gradually aging have the deepest feelings for their life experience. Especially those born in the 1960s, who are about to retire and retire, but the pressure on them is getting heavier and heavier.
comic writer Zhu Deyong once said that what we encountered happened to be an era with the most material and the most spiritual poverty. When everyone grows up, they bear a huge future on their shoulders and are fighting for the unforeseen "happiness".
In fact, modern people who are gradually enriching their material things always live in anxiety and have no idea what happiness feels like. Most of this is related to family. These three signals appear in
, which is the last straw that crushes the 1960s and 1970s.
1. Children cannot support themselves and need to suck their parents' blood.
The most magical part of life lies in the idea of "self-sufficiency" that we insisted on in the past has now been abandoned. Gradually, we accepted the concept of "children relying on their parents".
Before, when we talked about children dependent on their parents, we would be full of disdain, thinking that these children had no future and should go out to earn money to support their parents and relatives. Why do we have to dependent on their parents?
Today, we found that people are not very disgusted with the "raising children and leniency" incident. There are even parents who understand their children's difficulties and think that they are not easy to live in the era of in the in the era.
Everything is very contradictory. The energetic young man lives in a dull and steady manner, and he lives his duty as he leverages his parents. Older parents still need to go out to work just so that their children can live a little easier.
I believe that some people born in the 1960s and 1970s are also experiencing these things. However, they have no choice but to because they know that their children are unemployed after graduating from college, and even if they find a job, they will find it difficult to help their families. In this way, it is inevitable that will linger with your parents .
can only be said that this kind of behavior of lying around parents will become the source of anxiety in the later years of the 1960s and 1970s.
2. Empty the family’s foundation, support parents’ old age, and buy a house for their children.
60 and 70s generation have struggled all their lives. What is the purpose of?
For rich people, it is to achieve a career and make more money. For most ordinary people, it is for their families to live a better life.
Looking at their parents, they hope that their parents can live a long life, so they will take the initiative to take on the responsibility of supporting their parents’ elderly care. However, as filial sons, they eventually became the first generation abandoned by their children.
Looking at their children who are almost going to start a family and start a career, they also have a headache because their children need to buy a house and a car when they get married. Could it be that I want to empty the coffin book and help my children get married and start a business?
Finally, they had no choice but to do so. Why? They know that if they don’t help their children, no one can help them. Since this is the case, it is better to suffer yourself and let your children and descendants be happy.
can only be said that the post-60s and post-70s are the last generation willing to contribute to their children and parents. If they have no money, what will they experience in their later years? Then they can only "do their best and leave their destiny."
3. Family quarrels are constantly happening, and there are barriers between people.
Money spending is just material pressure. For countless middle-aged people, family conflicts in are difficult to ease.
I have seen some people born in the 1970s who came home from get off work and still sat in the car, smoking silently, and had no idea of getting out of the car and going upstairs. sat for half an hour, or an hour later, before they reluctantly went home.
Once, a security guard next door was particularly puzzled, why do these people have to stay in the car for so long? Then he went over and asked. After getting off the car, the middle-aged man in the car got off the car, he handed the security guard a cigarette, and the two started talking. Later I discovered that those middle-aged people who appear to be glamorous also have unknown sadness.
When you return home, you either face conflicts between husband and wife, or face parent-child problems, or something happens, and it needs to be solved with money. Even if they are "three heads and six arms" Nezha , they are helpless.
The biggest sorrow of middle-aged people is not only because they lack money and their health is getting worse and worse, but also because they have too many family problems. The trivial matters in this are enough to make people have a bad temper and numb to life.
Written to the end
Elite has the difficulties of elites, and ordinary people have the difficulties of ordinary people. The difficulty of the former is that they need to shoulder more responsibilities. The difficulty of ordinary people lies in the trivial things in life, which make people live like walking corpses.
I remembered this sentence: "Every little thing in the family is a fatal big thing in the eyes of many people."
You have no choice but to rely on your parents; if your children want to buy a house and get married, you can only give money; there are many conflicts in the family, and people around you can't get along with you, so you have to tolerate them.
You clearly have the right to "reject", but you did not refuse after all. You just hope that your patience and dedication can be understood by your loved ones. doesn’t know that not everyone in this world can empathize with it. The suffering can only be borne by oneself.
text/Shushan Youlu
