Someone said: "The personal influence of the original family needs to be cured for life. This sentence explains the all-round impact of the original family on a person, and also explains one thing: If we have been influenced by the original family throughout our lives, then what happiness can we have, what success can we pursue, and what beautiful life can we live. When we have our own home, how can we educate our children and let them grow up happily and healthily?
Only me Only when we have completely got rid of the influence of the original family can we have the right emotions and rational views to face the various difficult and complicated problems of life. The key is how we can get rid of the influence of the original family! How do we view the necessity of the original family for a person's growth!
When we first understood this world, we knew the importance of home to a person, so the parents created the appearance of monks, educate us in ways, and instilled By giving us the concept, this has become a vague memory of home when an adult grows up. When we enter campus, society, various stages of life, etc., accept new things, new ideas, and face new things, our hearts of bearing, will we begin to doubt whether everything our parents educate, and whether we really put ourselves in our shoes.
When we are children, we need to hold hands and hug them, and parents will put down everything in their hands and give them to us. When we grow up, When we face various difficulties and choices in life, our parents will still ask us, afraid that we will choose the wrong path. The word "fear" has become the worry in many parents' hearts. This is also a double-edged sword, giving children a paradise that needs to be nourished all the time, but there is no teaching of the word "brave". When dependence becomes a habit, the word "happiness" may go against the other side. When we know that we have to fight for opportunities ourselves, we lose in courage.
We always have to leave our parents and leave Greenhouse, go to be brave, accept, go to be unyielding, and be a self who fights against discomfort.
Until today, we cannot deny that the love of parents is selfless. As healed people, we need to choose to forgive, because they are also the first time they have become parents. They have not received a truly systematic education, and they will be charmed by the eyes and statements of people around them.
Only when we truly choose to forgive ourselves can we get rid of our original life The influence of family, forgive your parents does not mean admitting that everything your parents give is right, but accepting your own differences. Accepting yourself will be afraid of difficulties, admitting that you sometimes need to rely on and be taken care of, and after real acceptance, you will change. Only by changing can you rely on yourself to achieve ideological independence.
all obstacles given by life cannot be completely blamed for the original family. The original family is just our original appearance, and life is to transform our original appearance. Family will prompt us to make choices, but after making choices, we still have to solve the problems faced by life. We are not babies anymore. We have the ability to face everything, communicate with our parents, and make changes to all dissatisfactions.
even if the original family is devastated in your heart, even if you feel that it is better to live without the original family, even if you are always troubled by everything in the original family. But it gives you life, you can think of it as the old life, As a new life, the old life no longer rolls, and the new life can grow.
Everything that grows contains everything, and only when you think correctly and make choices will not be affected. Only by looking at it positively can you not be affected, chosen, and live a passive life.
cannot change everything old, so change your own cognition and your own actions. This is also the sublimation of the cognition of the original family.
Source: Qing
