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Poverty is never a terrible thing. Whether it is poor or rich, they have their own way of living, poor and poor lifestyle, and rich and rich sufferings.
Many people think that their poor life is because of poverty. Many people even continue to emphasize that their failure after adulthood is due to poor background. They either blame their parents, blame their partners, or vent their anger at their children.
A truly powerful person understands the truth from beginning to end that "I don't blame my father if I am poor, I don't blame my wife if I am angry or bad for my son."
Life is long and long, but short is fleeting. Rise and decline, honor and disgrace are only a moment. Everyone is working hard, but not all efforts have results.
For a family, working hard and improving is not difficult. What is really difficult is knowing which direction to work in, understanding that not all efforts will gain, and knowing how to face it after experiencing setbacks.
Life is like a drama, sometimes with unlimited glory and sometimes with dirt. The decline of a family is usually traceable. It is never rich or poor, but the family's head of the family is not sober in the following 4 things.
does not understand planning and only cares about the present
Family has never existed as individuals, so different ideas appear in each family, and differences usually arise when facing major choices.
If a family suddenly faces turning points without planning, members often cannot remain calm, and the result of rushing choices is also difficult to be the best choice.
There are too many people in life who regard "taking one step at a time" as free and easy. Although plans cannot keep up with changes, life will be indisciplined if there is no plan at all.
You must know that only with plans can change. Although a life without plans does not have to face changes, the problems encountered in the end will be more complicated than "change".
A family that does not understand planning will not be rich for a long time, regardless of whether it is poor or not. If life is only focused on the present, it will sooner or later suffer a great loss.
Family is like a long-distance ship. If the helm cannot look at it for a long time, it will inevitably capsize under the storm.
Don’t know how to get along with each other, and stay at home is uneasy
In the family, the most difficult thing to do is always the family.
Don’t think that it’s a good thing to be in power in your hands. The greater the ability, the greater the responsibility. The mission on the shoulders of a family’s parents has never been as simple as ensuring that the family is full of food and clothing.
The most difficult thing for a family member is to serve a bowl of water, especially when there are many family members.
Everyone has different temperaments and thoughts, so the same thing is different for different people.
Only by convincing everyone and not getting angry can the family be harmonious.
Confucius says: "Don't worry about the lack of worries but the unevenness, does not worry about poverty but the uneasiness ." This sentence can be used to govern the country and the family. No one has ever been dissatisfied with little wealth, and what really makes people divided is injustice.
For a family, what makes it decay is never temporary poverty, but long-term unstable and resentful.
Not knowing how to get along with family members will inevitably lead to a recession in the family. What is terrible is never the strength of the opponent, but the second heart of the teammates.
does not understand education and blindly tolerate
The tolerance of children without any bottom line is a time bomb and deserves the warning of all parents.
Especially in a large family composed of three or more generations of members, the elderly’s attitude towards young children is usually endlessly tolerant, and sometimes some of the things they do can even be described as “protecting their calfs”.
You should know that sometimes love ultimately brings not warmth but harm.
The old saying goes: "A loving mother often defeats her son."It does not only tell us that mothers who are too soft-hearted will spoil their children. All confused elders can be "loving mothers".
Children who grow up in families that do not understand education are usually not educated. As children, they may be tolerated by others. But once adults truly walk in society independently, no one will repeatedly tolerate an adult.
Some principles of being a human being cannot be avoided if they have not learned it in the family. It is not necessary to experience the pain of "learning one mistake and gaining wisdom" in society.
What's more, there are some people who don't gain wisdom no matter how many mistakes they get. Such people think it is social injustice, so they repeatedly hit walls with their new family until the decline disappears into the dust. It's really sad.
does not know how to be frugal, and waste it extravagantly
The old saying goes: "It's easy to go from frugality to extravagance, but it's difficult to go from extravagance to frugality. "This sentence speaks through human nature, but cannot tell the world.
Life is like a long river that flows endlessly, sometimes showing shimmering calm, sometimes with stormy waves. Being smooth sailing is never a permanent honor, and walking against the wind is something that everyone has to experience.
People who are used to living poor life can be very Always adapt to rich life, but people who are used to rich life can no longer be poor calmly no matter what.
Therefore, no matter how rich a family is, they cannot be extravagant. Once members develop extravagant bad habits, it is difficult to have the courage to experience storms and turmoil.
The operation of a family has never been absolutely stable, and if it cannot be maintained within the scope of its ability A relatively stable living standard will become a bubble in the storm if you are not careful in the rest of your life.
Family members develop the habit of being frugal so that they can survive the crisis safely in the face of changes.
When a family starts to waste extravagance, it is not far from decline.
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