When getting along with others, the key is to be harmonious and friendly, so that everyone can feel comfortable and warm. However, in daily life and work, we are always inevitably in conflict with others. Compared with physical conflict, the more serious injury is language. Physical damage can be gradually repaired, while verbal damage often stays in the other person's mind for a long time, and even takes a lifetime to heal.
Many people often feel that they have suffered huge hurt because of a humiliation, contempt or ridicule from others. As long as the thoughts come true, you will feel uncomfortable immediately. As the saying goes: A good word is warm in three winters, and a bad word hurts people in six months. Language is definitely a double-edged sword. Good words can warm the other person's heart, while vicious language is like a sharp knife, deeply stabbing the other person's vital points. If you want to develop your own ability to speak, you need to do this.
1. If you are not sure about things, be careful in your words and actions. If you don’t say something you are unsure about, others may think you are hypocritical, but if you say it too absolute, you will fall into a passive state. Therefore, you must use rigorous words to gain the trust of others.
2. No matter how urgent it is, you should talk about it slowly. Life is impermanent, and it is inevitable to encounter urgent things. But the more such an emergency situation occurs, the more accurate the information you provide to others, otherwise it will be yourself who will be delayed. Therefore, you must train yourself to be strong psychological qualities that are not chaotic at the moment. The clearer your expression and clearer your thinking, the greater the possibility that the problem will be solved. Please tell yourself to slow down and express yourself calmly.
3. Don’t guess randomly when nothing has happened. People in the world hate nonsense. Even if you have predictions in your mind, it is best to keep your own opinions and not make random speculations or nonsense to give people the impression of being reliable, serious and responsible.
4. Small matter that is insignificant, humorously said. Don’t be too serious about trivial things encountered in life. If you are too serious, your heart will often be entangled by these trivial things, which will affect your mood and delay many major events. Therefore, learning to make your language humorous and making jokes from time to time can greatly alleviate the tension and be more acceptable.
Over time, you will find that you are becoming more and more popular, your popularity is getting better and better, and your mind is much broader. In fact, the essence of life is simple. Many times, our own hearts become complicated and there are too many delusions, which lead to various troubles and pains. As long as we relax our minds and slow down our tone, many problems will naturally be solved.
