html In September, new work was busy with the development of new work, and the notes on the new account of Xiao Hshu Platform, and did not have more energy to write the official account, so he chose to stop updating for a month.
Now work is gradually getting on track, Xiao Hshu has also sorted out the preliminary notes template, and the official account returns to normal and is updated every Thursday at 8 pm!
[Breeze]
Compared with other algorithms recommended platforms, I still like to write public accounts the most, because the content here is: writing my heart with my pen is what I really want to write, and it is a paradise to record my growth.
Other platforms cater to popular and popular preferences. After all, it is not as good as writing about yourself here.
So I stopped updating this month, and I still felt a little empty in my heart, but since I chose to spend my time elsewhere, I still did not let down the years on this world.
New Learning’s daily plan model, share it with you
Today I will talk to you about my personal thoughts on the life I have experienced this month. I hope it will inspire you.
1. Don’t doubt your abilities.
We often deny ourselves because we mess up something.
But one thing was not handled well. Maybe this thing happened to be something we were not good at. Maybe it was because the emotions were not handled well that day, which affected us to take better response measures.
It only means that we did not perform well at that stage, and it does not mean that we cannot do it.
[Breeze]
Don’t deny your ability just because of one thing. The best confidence in is: believe that you can do better next time.
This is also my recent reflection and learning after a mistake in communicating with the BOSS at work.
Before getting off work on Friday a week before the National Day holiday, the BOSS suddenly told me that I would change my work station and transfer my position to the new foreign trade business, and I would change it to the work station next to the boss’s wife.
After I asked the reason for the change of positions, I refused the request to adjust the work station on the spot in front of all the people in the office. Later, after I decided to change the work station, I even put on a bad face.
[Breeze]
At that time, I showed the stubbornness of not obeying the leader's arrangements; my heart was filled with sudden huge grievances. In order to prevent sand from entering the eyes, I quickly fled the scene to go to the toilet to adjust my emotions.
I regretted it when I calmed down and then reviewed my response measures.
Since I had to change the work station as a result, I should have controlled my emotions at that time. The impulsive rejection not only embarrassed the boss, but also buried a thunder for myself, which was not good for others and myself.
[Breeze]
After changing the new station on Monday, I also felt the double "neglect" between the boss and the boss's wife next to me because of this incident. I even began to doubt whether I could not pass the probation period.
It was not until Wednesday that I reported my work to the BOSS. After the plan was approved, I regained my confidence in work. I can do it again!
Blind thoughts and doubts made me fall into emotional internal friction for two days. When I came out, this emotional impulse incident was digested into the nourishment for growth.
Don’t worry with your energy, use your energy to believe.
2. Don’t blindly envy others.
During the National Day, I went to the 100-day banquet for my second child of my boyfriend's roommate and relative's family. After I came back, it caused me to be anxious for several days.
What makes me anxious is that I blindly envy the hostess.
The relative of the male roommate is the director of a bureau in Pengchengguan. He found the current mistress after three marriages. The age difference of 17 years old forms a group of uncles and cute girls.
[Breeze]
People often compare their darkest highlights with others' highlights, and then fall into the dark tunnel they dug by themselves and are anxious alone.
I blindly envied the hostess: I don’t need to struggle often, and when I step out of society, I will encounter a support that can give myself a peace of mind.
In my eyes, the hostess seems to have achieved the results of others' struggle for decades by relying on luck.
But all choices have two sides, A is to get, and B is to lose.
[Breeze]
Some people rely on their families to live a materialistic life, but they will also lose their freedom.
Someone who wants to become a person by themselves must go through the tempering of life thousands of times. After the beam of light welcomed by the long dark tunnel, it will become a permanent light and illuminate the open road ahead.
Any kind is a personal choice. Just understand what you want and be able to be self-consistent in your choice.
In order to alleviate the anxiety caused by this blind envy, I used emotional guidance to sort out and explore myself.
My emotional resilience method
Our life is shaped by choice again and again.
Don’t blindly envy you, and don’t underestimate yourself.
Everything you choose is what you choose to create and choose the life you want, and cherish the possession and your freedom in front of you.
3. Learn and live in the present with your children.
Learning to live in the present is an experience I am practicing this year.
Outside, I learn to experience it in an immersive way; internally, I learn to observe it in an exhausted way.
Recently, I suddenly found that there was a little teacher beside me, my boy - Tangyuan Meatballs.
He sticks to me every day like a follower. From his words, I see a little bit about living in the present.
[Breeze]
I found that in addition to bringing toy needs, Tangyuan meatballs like to use delayed words: tomorrow and next time; express feelings or ask, like to use words that represent the present.
For example, Mom, I don’t go to work today; Mom, I have a lot of fun today; Mom, now I play the game of police catching thieves with me...
He will never use tomorrow’s unknown to affect his mood today. The world of a little brat is really innocent, cute and simple.
[Breeze]
When I realized this, when I was talking to him, I deliberately used words such as tomorrow to affect his mood today. In addition to taking him to the amusement park tomorrow, I would inform him in advance and let him fall asleep with happiness.
Tangyuan meatballs live in the present, optimistic, grateful and like to express love.
He cares about his family's feelings, and his grandmother often pretends to cry to make him feel distressed by grasping this "characteristic".
He likes to express his feelings: Mom, I am unhappy here, I want to go home to play with toys, let's go home now.
[Breeze]
Like to express love to the old mother thousands of times every day: Mom, I love you, his love seems to be endless.
Tangyuan meatballs: Live in the present, express your love and your feelings to the most important people .
No matter which item is worth learning from by the old mother.
is written here, and I remembered the words about Long Yingtai about children:
Children are the verification of Tianxin and the ultimate beauty.
The child brought me back to the original starting point of mankind. Between the silent sky and the vast earth, I am personally participating in the terrifying generation.
[Breeze]
or above is some of my recent insights and awareness in my work and life.
Life is a wilderness, not a track.
I hope we can all explore more possibilities in this wilderness of life; dare to try and make mistakes, experience it with all our hearts, make ourselves braver, and make life more vast.
Finally share Mr. Yang Jiang a passage:
In your most difficult time, don’t always think about the future too far, just encourage yourself to live a good life today.
There are too many unexpected things in this world, and some things are not worthy of taking over your emotions.
Life is an experience, please enjoy it.
encouraged it together. [Heart]
