Starting from the age of fifty, the future life is basically "one step by step". Every step you and I take will be difficult.
Why should Confucius persuade people in their forties to learn to be "not confused" and those in their fifty-year-olds to learn to "know their destiny"?
Because Confucius knew that was still confused when he was forty, but when he was fifty, he was not much better. Without a clear mind or a shrewd heart, how can we change the status quo of life?
In life, there are not only more or less accidents, but also countless villains and disasters. If we are not careful, we will fall into the vortex and it is difficult to escape.
Take "villain" as an example. The older the people, the fewer villains and disasters around them, but only more and more. Because you are weak and in a dilemma, all kinds of villains will "take advantage of the situation".
So, after being fifty, you must "open your eyes" as soon as possible to know who is worth dating and who needs to stay away from it. This is the long-term way to deal with people.
50 to 55 years old, these people suddenly appear. That is to "repel" you, beware.
1. Deliberately flatter you halfway through.
The most terrifying thing in the world is the villain who "comes halfway". They have no sincerity, no feelings, only false feelings that are extremely cold.
The reason why half-way people are scary is that we cannot figure out their background and are easily deceived by them, and eventually end up losing both people and wealth, and hindering development.
For example, if you are a rich man with a little career and a little money, you will find that there are more smiling people around you, more flattering people, and fewer people dare to tell the truth.
Of course, as long as a person is rich, he naturally doesn’t like to listen to the truth, which makes his true friends feel disappointed and the villain halfway gains power. This is all necessity of human nature.
The so-called "a good medicine is good for the disease, and a good word is good for the action." The more you are good for you, the more you can tell the truth. And the more people who want to harm you, the more flatter you are.
You should know that in this hypocritical era, "praising and killing" is a very common thing.
2. Hate relatives who have it and laugh at others for no one.
There is a saying among the people: "Hate others, laugh at others."
When you have money, your relatives will hate you especially and don't want you to live a better life than him. When you have no money, your relatives will be particularly happy, thinking that you are unlucky, and their hearts are relieved and balanced.
is summarized in one word, which is what we often say "shameful".
In this world, no one except our parents want you to live a good life. The most selfish side of human nature is that you are good, but you don’t want others to be better than him.
You have worked hard for most of your life and made a lot of money. You thought that everyone around you would cheer for your achievements. Who knows that not only will others not applaud you, they will also show your face and even make things difficult for you in some aspects.
The group of relatives is actually not easy to get along with. The root cause is that your goodness cannot be exchanged for others' sincerity, but it will only be exchanged for others' "shameful goodness".
3, Moral kidnapping your person.
After experiencing a lot in the world, I especially hate such a person - a villain who is morally kidnapped.
mentioned the four words "moral kidnapping". I believe many people are particularly disgusted and think that what they do is their own business. Why do people always come for "moral kidnapping"?
A celebrity once said that humans are a double standard creature. They can allow themselves to do this, but they will definitely not allow you to do this too.
The word "double standard" in the final analysis means "I can do it, you can't".
is like your brothers and sisters. Because they don’t have money to come to you to borrow money, should you borrow it or not? You will be in a dilemma and feel that if you lend it to them, they will most likely not pay it back. If you don’t borrow it, it’s unreasonable.
At this time, they will use "family affection" to kidnap you, and telling you that not borrowing money is "ignoring family affection". You can't refuse this, so you can only lend them money. Then whether they pay back the money depends on your luck.
4. Restless family.
If a family wants to develop steadily and to be harmonious and harmonious, what should the family do? The best way to do it is to . You respect me and I respect you too. There is no too much calculation or too many conflicts. In this way, everyone in the family will live a very comfortable life.
, however, not everyone thinks so. In the words of Zeng Shiqiang , people have the bad habit of "restlessness".
What is the bad nature of "restlessness"? Originally, the family was harmonious and happy. Who knew that some people became restless when they were used to good life, and when they were full and warm, they would raise trouble everywhere, making the family a mess.
When people reach middle age, the many problems you and I face are related to "family". The problems that arise in the family are all related to these "restless" families. This is the so-called "a rat shit ruins a pot of porridge".
No matter when, if you want to live a comfortable and happy life, it is best to restrain your restless hearts.
text/Shushan Youlu
