With the continuous improvement of living standards, many people now no longer focus on themselves, but on the next generation. It is undeniable that the life of the previous generation was not as colorful and even difficult as it is now;
Therefore, they do not want their next generation to experience the same hardships as themselves, so they naturally love their children in every possible way. Over time, it becomes Doting and pampering, at the same time, gradually make children develop a mentality of dependence.
There are many people around us who habitually regard their parents as "crutches" and "jianghu" who can be rescued at any time. They can only live under the care of their parents.
They often have this kind of thinking. No matter what happens, their parents will find a way for them. Parents are their protective umbrellas and can protect them from wind and rain. However, parents are not supermen, and their abilities have limitations. Not all Our parents can do everything for us.
Even if your parents pave the way for you, you still have to walk the road yourself; even if your parents create results for you, you must have the strength to hold on to the results. Otherwise, sooner or later, the fruits of your parents' victory will also be in the pockets of others. .
The master teaches his apprentice swordsmanship, but every time the apprentice reaches a bottleneck, he always stumbles. Because the master feels sorry for the apprentice, he helps him up every time. As time goes by, the apprentice gets used to this kind of thing. Of course, the apprentice's swordsmanship has never improved. .
Once, the apprentice accidentally fell down the hillside and was seriously injured. He shouted to the master, hoping that the master could help him up the slope. But at this time, the master was surprisingly calm. He saw the master sitting leisurely on the hillside, took out his pipe and started smoking.
The apprentice didn't understand the master's behavior, so he slowly stood up, climbed up the hillside and asked the master why he didn't save him.
The master shook the cigarette ashes and said: "I know you were in pain just now, and I also know that it was easy for me to help you up, but if you encounter an enemy, he will not treat you like me. The enemy will never I will give you a chance to stand up again. But your swordsmanship has not improved yet because you are used to being helped by your master, so you are too relaxed about yourself, so you cannot break through your bottleneck."
The apprentice listened. The master nodded thoughtfully at these words. From then on, the apprentice no longer relied on the master. He studied hard and practiced hard, and finally achieved some attainments in swordsmanship.
The tastes of life, the ups and downs, can only be tasted by yourself, and the ups and downs on the road of life can only be experienced by yourself. No one can be your permanent safe haven. No matter what, you have to learn to be independent, and independence is not a skill, but the standard and obligation of being a human being. One day you will have your own family and your own life. If you are unable to be independent, you will lament that the future is bleak all day long. Therefore, people can only stand the test of time by relying on themselves.
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