I often hear some friends say they want to live how they want, but when I ask them what exactly they want to live. Some of them couldn't answer, and some said, "I want it. Everyone envies me. I can do whatever I want." So today I’m here to talk to you about what it means to truly live your life. First, let me correct some common misunderstandings that many people have. The first thing to do is to live your own life and do whatever you want. This is a common view. Because we live in a social environment, we are inevitably bound by some rules and regulations. Many people yearn for unfettered freedom and mistakenly believe that living oneself means an unfettered life. But as long as a person lives in a group, he will be restricted. You have to abide by the law, follow morals, and take your own responsibilities. These unfreedoms actually make you freer. Otherwise, everyone will do whatever they want, and your freedom will either be taken away or weakened.
The second way to live oneself is to resist wantonly, and resistance is the second level of misunderstanding about living oneself. For example, because of the epidemic, we have to take nucleic acid tests frequently and quarantine at home, but some people feel that. This is an infringement on one's own freedom, so it is an accident. If you let him stay at home, he will run around. As a result, people in a community or even a city were harmed. This kind of resistance is not about living yourself. Just overly egotistical and selfish.
The third way to live your life is to not rely on anyone but yourself. Excessive dependence on others is certainly detrimental to a person's growth and development, but one must be completely independent of others. That is also unrealistic. No matter how strong a person is, there will be times when he needs help from others. Therefore, living oneself means not relying on others. This view is relatively one-sided. In addition to these misunderstandings, there are actually many people who simply don’t know what they want and how to live their lives, so they base their lives on others’ expectations of themselves. Or based on one's own inner needs. For example, what your parents want you to be. Slowly, you may become like that. Another example is that you have low self-esteem inside. And if you feel that you have rights, no one will dare to look down on you, so you have to go in this direction.
But in fact, the result of going this way is that you will find that your road is getting narrower and narrower. It’s getting more and more dangerous, and it’s getting harder and harder for you to be happy, so how can we live our lives. Let me give you three suggestions. First, don’t be bothered by other people’s expectations. Whenever you set a goal for yourself or you want to do something. You can first ask yourself, why am I doing this, and see if it is because you really want to do it. Or is it because you want others to recognize you? Do you want to make others happy? If it's to make others happy. If you want to force yourself, then don’t do it, because the first person to please is yourself. Others come second, and you have no obligation to meet other people's requirements and expectations.
Second, recognize yourself. The most important thing about living your life is to recognize yourself first. If you don't approve of yourself, you don't like yourself either. Then you will look outside for positive feedback to defend yourself. When you do this, you will be lost. So we need to learn to recognize ourselves, so how should we do it? A common method is to record three meaningful things you did during the day every night. Things that make you happy, you can find your shining points from these happy little things. Boost your confidence.
Third, find your passion. This is easier said than done. After all, not everyone knows what they are passionate about, and most people are surrounded by a sense of emptiness and meaninglessness every day. However, the following questions can help you determine what you love and what you will be fully committed to. What are you willing to work hard for? What moments in your life are the most meaningful? You talk endlessly about any topic. When you come up with these answers, the love in your heart will become clear.You can set goals, make plans, and move in that direction step by step. Even if you don't get the results you want in the end, you are still pursuing your passion. Your heart is full, and this is how you live your life.
