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On the day Zhou Chao proposed to Jiang Na, the venue was very romantic, but Jiang Na asked Zhou Chao a very unromantic question.
Jiang Na said, Zhou Chao, I am willing to marry you, but can you promise me not to have children for the rest of my life?
Everyone present was stunned, including Zhou Chao. Everyone was waiting for Zhou Chao's answer with solemn expressions.
Zhou Chao thought for a moment and said, I promise you.
Jiang Na said reluctantly, I'm not joking, I really plan not to have children in my life, you have to think about this clearly.
This time the atmosphere became completely cold.
Someone whispered that Jiang Na really didn’t know what to do, so many people made it impossible for Zhou Chao to come to Taiwan.
Jiang Na didn't respond and looked directly at Zhou Chao.
Zhou Chao also looked directly at Jiang Na, and after a while he said, I won't lie to you, if you don't want to give birth, we won't give birth.
There were stars in the night sky, Jiang Na and Zhou Chao hugged each other amidst the cheers of the crowd.
It was April 2005. The night in the north was still a bit cold, but Jiang Na felt particularly warm in her heart.
In June 2005, Zhou Chao and Jiang Na entered the wedding hall in the presence of relatives and friends.
Jiang Na and Zhou Chao were classmates in junior high school. At that time, Jiang Na was the school beauty and Zhou Chao was an unknown classmate.
It was a spring outing organized by the school. Jiang Na broke her leg. Zhou Chao volunteered to carry Jiang Na back to school. Along the way, Zhou Chao was so tired that big beads of sweat fell down, but when Jiang Na asked to come down and walk by herself, Zhou Chao refused. That day, the girl's heart was captured.
According to the development of the story, after the spring outing, Zhou Chao and Jiang Na were naturally together, right? In fact, they were not.
Zhou Chao is a study fanatic. He felt that if he fell in love before going to college, he would be sorry for the hard-earned money his parents spent on him, so in the days that followed, his attitude towards Jiang Na was extremely cold.
Zhou Chao is two grades higher than Jiang Na, but the school is only that big. Occasionally they would meet on the street after morning exercises or during class. Jiang Na would greet Zhou Chao generously and enthusiastically, but Zhou Chao would He walked away coldly as if he didn't notice.
Jiang Na is a popular figure in the school. Everyone knows Jiang Na. Therefore, every time Jiang Na greets Zhou Chao, the classmates next to her will say "Oh", but Zhou Chao's attitude makes Jiang Na Especially unable to get off stage.
Several times, Jiang Na's companions said that Zhou Chao was too ungrateful.
Finally Jiang Na couldn't stand it any longer, and she blocked Zhou Chao on her way home from school one day. She wanted to negotiate with Zhou Chao, so she stood angrily in front of Zhou Chao, ready to ask him if he had any objections to her. Who knew that before Jiang Na could speak, Zhou Chao asked Jiang Na if her leg injury was healed.
Jiang Na broke through her defense instantly.
Girls always blush in front of the person they like, their heartbeats and their brains short-circuit.
The evening breeze was blowing, Jiang Na was at a loss when asked by Zhou Chao, and stood there blankly.
Zhou Chao said softly as if he was a different person, "Don't say hello to me in school anymore. I don't want to be paid attention to by so many people. I want to study hard, and you should study hard too."
After Zhou Chao said these words, Jiang Na's tears poured down like a faucet that had been turned on.
How could a girl like her endure such rejection and alienation?
Zhou Chao was frightened by Jiang Na and was at a loss. He quickly wiped Jiang Na's tears with his sleeves and said, "I didn't mean that. I meant that I am embarrassed and embarrassed in front of many people."
Jiang Na childishly asked Zhou Chao, "Do you like me?"
Zhou Chao lowered his head in embarrassment and said, "Of course I like it."
But then Zhou Chao added, but if you like it, you like it. We are still young now and we have to focus on learning.
Jiang Na burst into laughter, of course I know.
Zhou Chao also laughed along with Jiang Na.
The evening sky was as gentle as sprinkled with gold powder, and the shadows of boys and girls were stretched very long.
Later on, Zhou Chao and Jiang Na were just passers-by at school, but after school or on weekends, the two of them would meet up to go to the library or park to do homework or read books together. Until Zhou Chao graduated from high school.
After Zhou Chao was admitted to college, he still read and studied with Jiang Na every weekend.
Jiang Na is very poor in mathematics. Thanks to Zhou Chao's help, she was able to get into the university of her choice.
It’s every girl’s dream to marry her childhood sweetheart, and Jiang Na is no exception.
But Jiang Na was afraid that Zhou Chao would not marry her. After all, she had thought about not having children when she grew up and got married since she was very young.
It is said that motherhood is something that girls are born with, but Jiang Na feels that she does not have it. She couldn't bear to hear the child cry or see the child making trouble. When she heard the child cry, she wanted to explode on the spot. When she saw the child making trouble, she wanted to catch the child and beat him.
Jiang Na has a little nephew, who is simply the devil in the family. He is pampered by everyone. He is lawless and lawless at home, but every time he sees Jiang Na, he is like a mouse seeing a cat, and he hides quickly.
Because one time the little nephew broke Jiang Na’s doll, Jiang Na caught him and gave him a good beating.
Jiang Na’s cousin-in-law saw her child being beaten and was so angry that she stopped interacting with Jiang Na’s family for a long time.
Jiang Na had thought about it. If Zhou Chao couldn't accept that she didn't want children, she would rather give up the relationship than compromise.
That’s why on the day of the proposal, Jiang Na asked Zhou Chao twice in a row if she could accept the fact that she didn’t want children.
Jiang Na never expected that Zhou Chao would agree.
What Jiang Na didn't know was that, as careful as Zhou Chao was, he had already noticed that she didn't like children, but he didn't expect that Jiang Na would propose not to have children after marriage in public.
But to Zhou Chao, a child he had never met was really not as important as Jiang Na, so he simply agreed.
But they both forgot that marriage is different from falling in love. Falling in love only requires two people to be happy, but marriage requires both families to be happy.
A few years before Jiang Na and Zhou Chao got married, their parents thought that the two children were still young and their careers were on the rise, so they should just don't want them.
But as time went by, Jiang Na was about to turn thirty, and before the two of them put the matter of having a child on the agenda, their parents became anxious.
Jiang Na’s mother said, Nana, if you don’t have a baby, it will be difficult to have a baby as you get older.
Jiang Na always finds various reasons to excuse herself.
After talking too much, Jiang Na directly told her mother that she planned not to have children for the rest of her life.
Zhou Chao's life is even more difficult. Zhou Chao's family is a single generation. Zhou Chao's father and Zhou Chao are both only children. If Zhou Chao had no children, in the words of Zhou Chao's parents, they would be sorry for their ancestors. Lie Zong.
Zhou Chao's mother asked Zhou Chao tentatively, Chaochao, you and Nana are both in good health. If there is anything, don't hide it from your mother.
Zhou Chao immediately understood what his mother meant. He smiled and said, "We are all healthy."
Zhou Chao's mother wanted to say something else, but Zhou Chao would always find a reason to leave.
On Jiang Na's thirtieth birthday, Zhou Chao filled the room with flowers. Before going to bed, both of them drank some red wine.
The two of them were chatting with each other. Zhou Chao mentioned the child at the right time. Unexpectedly, Jiang Na turned over quickly and looked at Zhou Chao suspiciously.
Zhou Chao was a little hairy.
Jiang Na said angrily, Zhou Chao, you won't regret it, right?
Zhou Chao looked at Jiang Na's serious expression and said with a smile, "Why are you regretting it? I'm afraid that you will regret it, so I'm testing you."
But in fact, Zhou Chao really wanted to have a child.
Zhou Chao's friends are all married and have children. Zhou Chao's assistant is two years younger than Zhou Chao, but he already has two children.
Assistant Zhou Chao went there when the second son’s birthday party was held. The little girl was so soft and sweet, and she was very funny. Zhou Chao liked it very much. When the assistant saw it, he said, Boss, you and your sister-in-law should hurry up and have a baby. Busy with my career.
Zhou Chao could only say yes with a smile.
In 2016, Jiang Na was 34 years old. She had been married to Zhou Chao for 11 years.
A lot has happened this year.
Jiang Na's mother was seriously ill and stayed in the intensive care unit for half a month.
The first thing Jiang’s mother said when she was transferred from the intensive care unit to the general ward was that she hoped Jiang Na could have a child.
Jiang Na looked embarrassed and told her mother that she could agree to anything, but this was the only thing she had to consider.
Zhou Chao had new thoughts about Jiang Na and their marriage for the first time.
Zhou Chao said seriously to Jiang Na, Nana, are you not even willing to lie to your mother?
Jiang Na said with an aggrieved look, Zhou Chao, do you even want to say such things? Do you think it makes sense for me to lie to her?
Zhou Chao felt that Jiang Na's heart was too hard, and it would not be an exaggeration to say that it was made of stone.
But Jiang Na felt that once she agreed to have a child, if she couldn't do it, it would only make her mother more sad, so it was better not to let her miss her at all.
But Zhou Chao couldn't understand Jiang Na. He felt that it was too much for his parents to happily have a child, and the family had no shortage of money to raise a child.
Both of them were filled with a sigh of relief, and neither one was willing to bow to the other.
For a long time, Zhou Chao always used the excuse of working overtime at the company to come home late. Even when he returned home, he used the excuse of being tired to refuse to communicate with Jiang Na.
Jiang Na knew what the problem was between her and Zhou Chao, but she didn't know what to do.
She couldn't bear to get divorced, and she couldn't do it if she was asked to compromise and have children in order to preserve her marriage.
During that time, Jiang Na often shed tears.
Seeing that the marriage between Jiang Na and Zhou Chao is about to become intense. An intern came to Zhou Chao's company.
The intern was young and beautiful, and Zhou Chao saw the shadow of Jiang Na in her.
At this time, Zhou Chao has lost his youthfulness and gained a bit more maturity and stability of a successful person. The
intern probably sensed the difference in Zhou Chao's attitude toward him, so he always found excuses to get close to Zhou Chao.
Every time the intern approaches Zhou Chao, the picture in Zhou Chao's memory becomes clearer.
Zhou Chao thought of when he and Jiang Na were in college. At that time, Zhou Chao's money was always not enough, so Jiang Na thought of various ways to support him.
She rushes to pay for meals. When she goes shopping, she pretends to accidentally pick up two men's clothing items. Not to mention that there are full discounts, she also secretly saves money to buy him his favorite sneakers.
After graduating from college, there were obviously many rich people pursuing Jiang Na, but Jiang Na was unmoved and resolutely chose herself who had nothing at the time.
After two people got married, they lived in a rented house for three or four years before buying a house.
Thinking of these, Zhou Chao suddenly didn't have so much resentment.
Zhou Chao thought, are children more important than a good lover?
Zhou Chao thought again, in fact, in these years without children, except for the urging of his parents, everything else was pretty good. Why did he have to vent his anger on Jiang Na.
The day Zhou Chao came to Jiang Na to admit her mistake, Jiang Na also thought about a lot of things to say to Zhou Chao.
Jiang Na said that if Zhou Chao really wanted to have a child, she would be willing to have one.
Zhou Chao hugged Jiang Na and said sincerely, you will never have to compromise or change for me.
After the conversation started, the two people's lives returned to normal.
This time, Zhou Chao became particularly enjoying the world between two people. He suddenly felt that it was great not to have children. He could go wherever he wanted and do whatever he wanted. You don’t have to worry about your child’s food, drink, and diarrhea.
Zhou Chao’s mother said that Zhou Chao was a typical unfilial figure in ancient times.
Time flies very fast, and it’s 2019. Zhou Chao and Jiang Na have been married for 14 years.
This year, Zhou Chao's father suffered a stroke and became hemiplegic. He saw Western medicine and Chinese medicine. He went to many hospitals and saw many doctors. The old man was finally able to speak and eat, but he could no longer stand up.
Zhou Chao and Jiang Na took care of her wholeheartedly, and the old man was very pleased.
On New Year's Day 2020, the family had dinner together. In the afternoon, Zhou Chao was called away by the company. Her mother-in-law wanted to see her old sister, leaving Jiang Na to take care of Zhou Chao's father in the nursing home.
Jiang Na pushed her father-in-law around the courtyard of the nursing home when her father-in-law suddenly mentioned the child.
The old man looked at Jiang Na and said, are you and Zhou Chao really not planning to have children?
Jiang Na looked at her father-in-law and lowered her head not knowing how to answer.
The old man spoke slowly again, "In fact, it doesn't matter to us parents whether you want children or not." In a few years, we will kick off and walk away without knowing anything else. But you two are the only ones left in this world.
The old man paused and said, think about it, you are young now, you have friends and jobs, what will you do when you get old? I'm sick this time. If it weren't for you and Zhou Chao, I would have lost my old bones by myself.
Jiang Na looked at her father-in-law, but still didn't speak.
Jiang Na’s father-in-law didn’t speak again.
The wind picked up, Jiang Na pushed her father-in-law back to the ward.
When she got home that night, Jiang Na lay on the bed and tossed and turned, unable to sleep.
Jiang Na thought of her mother's serious illness four years ago. She still clearly remembered the helplessness and fear she felt standing at the door of the emergency room.
And this time my father-in-law is seriously ill.
Jiang Na suddenly felt what the purpose of this life was. Is it true that if you have a child, your life will be more complete? Life is about caring.
Jiang Na thought about what her mother said back then. She said, our generation has many brothers and sisters, but you and Zhou Chao are both the only children in the family. When you are old and sick, you can’t even come to see us. You don't have any relatives or friends. Everyone has their own things to do, and they have children, grandchildren, and grandchildren to take care of. They have no time to take care of you. It's good to make a phone call occasionally.
Thinking of this, Jiang Na suddenly felt a little sad. Jiang Na pushed Zhou Chao, who was snoring.
Zhou Chao asked Jiang Na half asleep what was wrong.
Jiang Na said, let’s have a child.
Zhou Chao muttered, OK.
Suddenly Zhou Chao sat up and looked at Jiang Na and said, "What's wrong?"
Jiang Na said seriously again, let's have a child.
Zhou Chao touched Jiang Na's forehead to confirm that there was no fever, and then said, what happened.
At the beginning of 2020, Jiang Na and Zhou Chao began to prepare for pregnancy.
In April 2020, Jiang Na became pregnant as she wished. This year, Jiang Na is 38 years old.
Jiang Na had mixed feelings the moment she got the B-ultrasound order.
Jiang Na came out of the B-ultrasound room, and Zhou Chao burst into tears looking at the list.
The process of pregnancy and childbirth was not as painful as Jiang Na and Zhou Chao thought.
The experience after having children was not as bad as Jiang Na had thought. Everything was better than expected.
What's more important is that the elderly on both sides are very happy and rush to hold their children.
Having a child brings more laughter and joy to the family.
Jiang Na looked at the happy family and felt that everything was great.
But if we go back to 2005, she still doesn’t want children.
The years pass by and the seasons flow by.
In addition to wrinkles, time leaves people with different thoughts than when they were young.
Jiang Na thought that if she had given birth to a child in her early years, it would have been against her will. Maybe she would have left the child to her parents to work, and then she would not be a qualified mother.
But now, she is particularly concerned about her children. She cares about her children's growth indicators and worries about everything about her children. She feels that she is a qualified mother.
Everything is just right.
