Today, let’s talk about the issue of sexual anxiety. First of all, we need to know that sexual anxiety accounts for about 30% of the psychological counseling between the two sexes, and sexual psychological counseling accounts for as much as 70%. Sexual anxiety involves sexual psychology, sexual experience, etc., which is mainly reflected in the inability of men to meet women's needs, while women are worried about poor performance in interactions and unexpected pregnancy.
Among all the sexually anxious clients I took over, some were to directly solve their sexual anxiety, while others were worried that the relationship between husband and wife would come to seek help due to sexual problems.
Sexual anxiety is actually a manifestation of anxiety. Anxiety is divided into psychological anxiety and physiological anxiety. It is the individual who feels scared, worried, nervous, worried, worried, and even feels frightened or feels about to die. Sexual anxiety is a problem caused by sexual matters. Of course, sex is not an isolated existence, and it is closely related to emotions and husband-wife relationships. Therefore, if sexual anxiety is not intervened in time, it will affect normal relationships and intimidating relationships between husband and wife, and in serious cases, it will fall into major psychological disorders such as depression, trauma, and depression.
returns to the relationship between avoidant attachment and sexual anxiety, which can be linked to each other. Avoidant attachments may have sexual anxiety, which cannot be relieved for a long time and may also be converted into avoidant attachment. Let’s look at two examples.
Xiao Ma, a boy, tends to avoid attachment in close relationships, is young and strong, and has a strong energy, but his living environment since childhood has made him feel inferior and rarely has the opportunity to come into contact with the opposite sex. He had a girlfriend and had sexual impulses when physical contact occurred, but he had always felt that sex was needed, but it seemed that it was not good. Later, one time I did not restrain myself from having an intimate relationship with my girlfriend, but during the process, I performed poorly due to over-exercise and since then, I left scars in my heart and became afraid of sex.
Xiao Liu, a boy, is an optimistic person, originally a safe attachment, but because he did not perform well in a certain sexual experience, his girlfriend was dissatisfied and even broke up. From then on, he developed serious suspicion and anxiety about sex, so that in later relationships, he chose to escape and anxiety when he encountered sex. Over time, he also developed severe emotional pressure when facing his lover, thinking that he was not good at this aspect, and the girl would eventually leave, and he could not gain true love. Then it turns into avoidant attachment.
Speaking of this, you can also see that avoidance attachment and sexual anxiety are actually two categories of concepts. They are both psychological phenomena after all. Avoidance attachment is an abnormal manifestation of intimate relationships, and sexual anxiety is a state of tension manifested on sexual issues. They have intersections and are not absolute. Avoidal attachment may not necessarily be sexual anxiety, but it may choose to avoid it because of anxiety on certain other issues, such as projection of the original family, etc.; sexual anxiety may not necessarily be avoidant attachment, as in the example above.
Finally, avoidant attachments may be different from security in terms of intimacy (I feel for you, but I will still push you away repeatedly). Some avoidant attachments do not resist physical contact, because they have desires in terms of sexuality; but some avoidant attachments will resist sexually, and more often they are confused by sexual anxiety. These situations require the understanding and respect of the partner and patience of the partner. Of course, you can also seek the help of a professional consultant to conduct a deeper analysis of his behavior and personality.
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