I have done many episodes of the program to talk about paranoid personality . I guess no one who works in psychology channels in China and talks about paranoid personality. I guess no one who surpasses me. I have done at least ten episodes of the program to talk about such people.
Today I will talk about another feature of them. Not all paranoid personalities have such characteristics, but a considerable number of them have such characteristics. What are the characteristics? Evil cleverness.
If you give him an intelligence test , his IQ is often higher than that of ordinary people, but they cannot have good interpersonal relationships, they cannot work normally and study normally, They are tossing and torture everywhere, and torture and torture are the most typical characteristics of paranoid personality.
They lack basic trust and basic honesty in people, and they are very picky. They cannot see their own shortcomings, nor the advantages of others; they can only see other people's shortcomings, and they can only see their own advantages.
So, if your child has a paranoid personality, you will be miserable, either suffering or miserable. If you marry a husband with a paranoid personality, you will be miserable. If you marry a wife with a paranoid personality, you will be miserable too.
A mother told me about her son. She said that her son was quite obedient when he was a child, but he was a little stubborn and a little sensitive. After entering junior high school, my personality began to change, and I became very opposite and suspicious. After entering high school, my academic performance is getting worse and worse. Why is it not good? He said that China's exam-oriented education is a mess and that China's exam-oriented education is not suitable for him.
He was trying hard to ask his parents to send him to the UK. The education in the UK is indeed good. We don’t deny this, but his parents are both ordinary working class. "No! If I don't let me go to the UK, I will have no future. If I don't let me go to the UK, I will commit suicide!"
The parents had no choice, so they sold a house and sent him to study in the UK. They thought he had found a paradise of freedom, and thought that after he entered the British school, he would be able to complete his studies well because he was going to. As a result, he didn't graduate at all, because after he arrived in the UK, he felt that the quality of his classmates in the dormitory was very poor, and he also felt that the UK was very bad, and the school was very bad, and he felt that this school was not good.
He wants to transfer school, and transfer to school requires certain conditions. Then he goes to another school, which is better than the original school. He also said that he doesn't like this major. In the end, neither school has finished his studies and spent all his money on selling his parents' house and came back.
After he came back, he pursued another philosophy of life. He said: People should enjoy it when they are alive. People either become the biggest successors when they live. People like Musk, Jobs, and Gates, or they are completely flat. He had such an extreme concept and then kept asking his parents various conditions.
Spend money a lot. As long as you want money, your parents must give it. If you don’t give it, you will beat it up, and if you don’t give it, you will scold it. All the reasons for your failure are given to your parents.
He went to consult a psychologist, and his parents took him there. His parents couldn't see him doing this at home. As a result, the psychologist had a counter-effect. After an analysis, he said that there was something wrong with his parents' education. This child originally hated his parents, and this psychologist said this, he hated his parents even more. He said, all my misfortunes were caused by you, and you must be responsible for my misfortunes, so I must be happy now. Then you should give me whatever I want.
Just tossing parents like this, the mother is a strong woman, a very face-loving person. She once had a glory for a while, but in front of her son, she was a turtle son and had no status at all.
The son scolds him whenever he wants, beats him whenever he wants, and is very cruel to his mother. At first he didn't beat his father because his father was stronger. He was a little afraid of his father, but once he beat his mother, his father went to pull him, and he came to attack his father, and his father started fighting with him, but his father never beat him. From then on, he began to attack his father again.
Everything he has is high-end. The toothbrushes are all the highest-end ones, so you have to buy German goods. He doesn’t need the bowls at home, so he buys very expensive bowls online by himself. All the food and use are good, but I don’t work and don’t make money. He is 32 years old this year and has spent almost all his savings in the family. His pension for both parents is not enough, and he has to borrow money from his sister, and he has to mess with his sister.
This child performed extremely poorly and often talked loudly: What will he do in the future... He looked down on ordinary jobs, found him a job, and came back after working for two days. He just talked about the job in a mess, either the working environment or the boss was a mess. This is a typical arrogance and paranoid.
Then my father, mother and uncle took him to Beijing and Shanghai, and saw them at their local Nanjing Brain Hospital . But this child was very cunning. He went to the doctor to cry and exaggerated his parents' bad habits in the past without limit. He said that his parents sent him to study abroad, but he didn't even have money to buy clothes. His parents controlled his money firmly and only gave him the lowest consumption standard. He was discriminated against and looked down upon by his classmates and looked down upon by white people there. He could write a novel to say that his parents were not good.
After hearing this, those doctors said it would be strange if such children were not sick. Children who grew up in families like yours will get sick. Whenever he meets a stranger, he will describe his suffering to you in a realistic way, and he will say that his parents' shortcomings are simply serious and cannot be more serious, so as to win others' sympathy for him.
So, when you see a psychologist, every time you say that this child is not a big problem, this child has nothing to do with it, it is your parents who have problems. You should change, but the parents are so aggrieved. The parents say that the child is lying, and the doctor says that this is not like lying, which is clearly stated.
He is very good at playing cleverness. Once he beat his mother very badly. His father was afraid that he would make a problem with his mother, so he called the police. When the police came, he took the initiative to open the door to the police. When he came, he cried and told him how his parents tortured him and how their parents caused him mental harm. After hearing this, the police said, "Be careful in the future. Parents should be role models and not educate their children like this!"
called the police twice, but the police didn't care in the end. The police said that you should not beat your parents in the future, but the police sympathized with him more. He could perform, he could be clever, he was very clever, he cheated the doctor and the police, and he also cheated the relatives. His behavior makes people feel pitiful at first glance.
However, his cleverness is called evil cleverness. His cleverness is all about protecting himself, protecting himself, and then providing protection for his further evil and doing evil.
Many paranoid personalities have this manifestation, and they are completely inconsistent inside and outside. If they harm others themselves, they have to dress themselves up as victims. Therefore, everyone must recognize this characteristic of paranoid personality.
When I consulted the child’s mother, I expressed a point of view. I have similar children. I have this point of view: is forced to be sent to a mental hospital!
Many people will say, why are you so cruel?
You don’t know how terrible these people are. If you don’t mess with them, they will kill you. Because this serious paranoid personality is very close to mental illness, he needs treatment!
We must believe in science and give children to science. Leaving it to the kind of reasoning and reasoning is useless, only science can bring hope to him. Otherwise he will torture his parents to death, and he will definitely torture his parents to death!
This article is reproduced from the official account of "Wang Guorong's unique psychology"
Author profile
Wang Guorong, a psychologist, independent scholar, writer, the founder of China's holistic psychotherapy, and the first person in China's evidence-based psychotherapy. He was the chief academic consultant of the Psychologist Magazine and a senior psychotherapist at Shanghai Boai Hospital . He is one of the most powerful and talented psychologists in China.
has published more than ten influential psychology monographs. Among them, " Breakthrough Treatment of Student Psychological Problems " was listed as a collection of books by hundreds of domestic universities such as Peking University , Tsinghua University , Tsinghua University , "50 Psychological Treatment and Adjustment Methods" won the Most Popular Book Award for Readers in the China University Press Alliance, "The 10 Most Important Relationships in Life" was listed as a Psychological Master Series by China Culture Press , and "Shaking Hands with Depression" won the Most Popular Professional Book Award for Readers.
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