Recently, a netizen posted on his social platform that it is suspected to be "Mental Health Guidance Manual" issued by the Women's Federation of Panyu, Guangdong. Among them, some of the content about a man cheating during marriage and how his wife should do it, made her shout: subvert her views!
looked at it and some of the content posted by netizens are roughly the following.
5 things women cannot do when faced with extramarital affair:
1. Cannot commit suicide or hurt yourself.
2. (No) I want to find a mistress to beat and noisy.
3. Don’t force confession.
4. Don’t follow and follow all day long.
5. Don’t humiliate or hurt in public.
As for the above, I personally agree with the first point: do not commit suicide or harm yourself .
What else...
For example, in the second point, there is a sentence like :
As a real wife, it is usually a humiliation to find a mistress. People can choke you with just one sentence: Why can't you think of your husband well... The existence of a mistress is not necessarily a bad thing...
What? Are all mistresses so arrogant now? I have done something unethical, and I am so embarrassed to turn things around? is like, a thief steals someone else's stuff, and after the owner catches the thief, the thief still has the face to shout: Why don't you pull your pocket zipper?
As for whether to follow, it depends on whether you want to obtain the evidence and sue for divorce. Regarding whether recordings, videos, WeChat chat records, etc. can be used as evidence for marriage litigation, please refer to " Civil Code " (marriage, family, personality rights) and " Several Provisions of the Supreme People's Court on Evidence for Civil Litigation " .
As for whether to humiliate and hurt in public. recommends referring to physics knowledge: the role of force is mutual, and the advertising slogan: Hello everyone is really good. I remember there is a line in the classic drama "House": This person is often known to everyone around me, and I am still kept in the dark.
From the page posted by netizens, it also describes in detail what should my wife do when she encounters this situation?
1. The title is not written, which roughly means: It is best for smart women to pretend not to know and look for the reason from themselves first.
There is a "golden sentence" here: If you understand him well and can comfort him when he is lost, will he find another woman?
From the perspective of logic reverse : So how can a man cheat, is it blame for women not understanding enough?
It is certainly correct to learn to love yourself. As for whether to change yourself, I personally think that the only purpose of changing yourself is to make yourself better, or to make the people or things you care about better, and is not to cater to whom or please whom . I jumped on the tip of the knife ballet , only because I like ballet myself, not because someone said: Wow, it looks so good! "The King of Chu is so thin, and most of them starve to death in the palace" should always be buried in the dust of history.
...refer to the second item.
I suddenly remembered those bloody family dramas or common lines in idol dramas: What is wrong with me? Why don’t you love me? ? What’s the good thing about her? Huh ~
4. Change the mode of getting along.
repay grievances with kindness and use warmth to bring back true feelings.
If this marriage is willing to continue, it is not impossible. Choosing to forgive is also a way to deal with it. The premise of is that can still live this life.
After reading the content posted by netizens, I thought the meaning of this booklet of Panyu Women's Federation is "Pushing for peace but not for separation" .
The old saying goes: "It is better to demolish ten temples than to destroy a marriage." It seems that this is the consistent attitude towards marriage for thousands of years. But to this day, the times have undergone earth-shaking changes, and women are no longer the existence of men. They also have their own independent thoughts, independent personality, and independent economic ability.
They are no longer just a divorce letter and can be disliked by . Everyone should have the right to choose . Once a problem occurs in a marriage, should you survive or choose to give up? In essence, what you need to follow is the parties' own wishes.
If you are willing to endure, then live a good life, choose to forgive and choose to change, it is not impossible; if you want to be cruel, then collect evidence and prepare for divorce. Marriage is "like a person who knows whether he or she drinks water or not" . Whether it is good or bad, should not be evaluated by outsiders, and should not be published in a booklet to tell women: Come on, first check if there are any problems with you. What is most unexpected about this matter is that in the developed southern China, the Women's Federation, which should protect the interests of women and children and enhance women's self-esteem, self-confidence, self-reliance and self-improvement, on the issue of marriage, the tone of is actually tolerant .
To be fair, I didn't see the full content of this booklet, and I don't know if this booklet popularizes the Civil Code (marriage, family, personality rights) to women. If not, I would be very disappointed. It seems that this is not the brochure of the 21st Century Women's Federation, but the "Women's Rules", "Women's Training", and " Three Obediences and Four Virtues " from a thousand years ago.
I agree with a popular saying on the Internet in the past two years: We must have a bodhisattva heart and learn the thunder methods . I think as a rights protection agency, what I promote is not only "repaying grievances with kindness", but more importantly, I want to tell everyone: how to repay grievances with kindness, how to repay grievances with straightness, and repay kindness with kindness!
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