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Roommate looked at Xiao Liu in front of him and was worried about her: he was obviously a positive and optimistic and excellent class figure, but why did he look nothing right recently - he couldn't sleep or eat, as if he could feel her anxiety and anxiety ten meters away. Is this the "King of the Scroll" that he finally brought himself into? The roommate suggested that Xiao Liu might as well consult a psychologist to find out the reason.
Xiao Liu's trouble: I'm afraid of being compared to others
In the process of communicating with the psychologist of the Fifth Affiliated Hospital of Guangzhou Medical University, the doctor learned that she was a student of a university in Guangzhou, with an outgoing and cheerful personality. She not only served as a student union cadre, actively participated in various competitions, but also won many awards and followed the teacher to do scientific research. She is undoubtedly an outstanding representative in everyone's eyes.
But this is the problem. Even if the teacher and classmates think she is excellent, Xiao Liu always feels that she is not doing well enough. If she cannot rank first, she is worried that she will be compared by other classmates. Especially after the junior year started, I felt that my classmates were working hard, so Xiao Liu didn't dare to relax. He stopped and didn't dare to take a breath, for fear that he would be surpassed after resting.
This psychological pressure made Xiao Liu overwhelmed. She began to feel unable to get rid of the tension and anxiety, and even began to suffer from insomnia and had no appetite for eating. The better
is, the more anxious it may be. "Xiao Liu's situation is very common in outpatient clinics. It is worth mentioning that their common point is that they are all excellent and hope that they can be better. For them, excellence has no end and end. While maintaining themselves, they must always pay attention to the situation of other people around them, especially worried about being caught up and being compared." Director of Psychology (Psychology) of the Fifth Affiliated Hospital of Guangzhou Medical University said that during the treatment process, many young people tend to use the term " intra-volume " to describe the competitive state, and suspect that they may have been "intra-volume" and suffered "internal injuries", which has caused a series of bad emotions.
Mo Xuan introduced that the original meaning of "involvement" in everyone's mouth means that in a specific development stage, human society is in a stagnant state at a certain stage of development, or cannot be converted into other higher-level forms. In modern times, it refers to the phenomenon that peers compete to make more efforts to compete for limited resources, resulting in a decline in individual "reward efforts ratio". "Intra-volume" is not only a hot social topic at present, but also a problem related to the psychological level. Faced with the fierce competition and invisible pressure brought by "involvement", many people have also grown more and more anxious. Anxiety not only affects mood, but also adverse physical symptoms.
How to deal with the anxiety caused by "involvement"?
If anxiety has seriously affected physical and mental health and cannot study, live and work normally, the doctor recommends that you go to a regular hospital for medical treatment in a timely manner. Under the guidance of a specialist, you should receive medication and psychological treatment according to the specific situation to alleviate negative emotions and avoid further development of harm.
At the same time, Mo Xuan pointed out that in daily life, we can make some positive self-regulation to relieve the anxiety caused by "involvement".
First, learn to correctly understand and accept anxiety.
In the increasingly fierce modern society, it is normal to feel huge pressure. We don't need to regard these negative emotions as a disaster. In fact, anxiety also helps stimulate our motivation, which will enable us to take positive actions. We must learn to accept the emergence and existence of anxiety rather than confronting it, so as not to arouse greater anxiety reactions.
But accepting emotional fluctuations does not mean that you can let the negative mentality go. We must have a certain monitoring of our psychological conditions and can pay attention to whether we are immersed in some negative emotions and are unable to extricate ourselves. If you find that your emotions are already difficult to control yourself, you should seek help from your relatives, friends or professionals around you in time.
Second, set reasonable goals and not be trapped in the "perfect self".
Perfectionism is a kind of idea that is based on dissatisfaction and imperfection everywhere, and is extremely pursuing perfection and flawless. If we are trapped in the "perfect self" we build, we will find that no matter how hard we try, we cannot satisfy ourselves, and we may even feel depressed and anxious.
We can try to establish a comprehensive and correct understanding of ourselves, understand our strengths and weaknesses, have a clear positioning of ourselves, set reasonable goals, and avoid excessive anxiety. At the same time, there is no need to compare everything with others. It is also important to achieve your goals and enjoy the process of hard work.
Third, relax appropriately and enjoy yourself.
Life needs to combine work and rest. While high-intensity mental labor, we must also insist on relaxation and physical exercise. We must allow ourselves to have free time and even include the rest in our daily schedule. In addition, you can also learn some techniques for dealing with stress, such as writing a stress diary, biofeedback, breathing relaxation training , meditation and mindfulness, etc., and relieve psychological stress and learn to please your brain through exercise, listening to music, and going out for relaxation. (For more news, please follow Yangchengpai pai.ycwb.com)
source | Yangcheng Evening News·Yangchengpai
Editor | Zhang Hua
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